AITA for giving my brother and his wife 2 days to return my piano?

A grieving widow’s sanctuary—her cherished piano—vanished from her home, spirited away by her brother to a mystery garage over noise complaints. After housing him and his wife for months, the 32-year-old woman erupted, kicking them out and issuing a two-day ultimatum: return the piano or face the cops.

This Reddit saga, steeped in loss and betrayal, hooks readers with a question: can family overstep so far that only a hard line remains?

‘AITA for giving my brother and his wife 2 days to return my piano?’

I f32 developed an interest for piano after meeting my late husband who was a piano teacher for 7 years. He taught me to play it and he helped me buy one (used one but still a bit expensive) 2 years ago. I play it everyday, after his passing (6 months ago) I just find comfort spending time playing.

However, my brother and his wife (who came to stay with me for 2 months after loosing their apartment) always complain about the piano noise although, I only play at daytime. SIL and I started arguing more frequently and my brother told me to only play it when they're out but I refused.

Yesterday, I was out with friends for the day then I came in the evening, I found that my piano was gone. Turns out my brother had moved it to a friend's garage (I don't know which friend) while I was gone. I blew up at him and yelled that he had no right to touch it or move it.

His wife said they did this as a last ditch effort to get some 'peace and quiet' in the house. My brother reassured me that he'll give it back once he finds his own place and I get to live alone and play the piano all day long. He was sarcastic in his last line and couldn't take it.

I told them to pack and leave my house because they were no longer welcome after this. He freaked out and tried begging me to take it easy and be more rational, but I threatened to call the police if they refused to leave.

He took his family and left, The piano still isn't back and they're saying they'd give it back if I agree to let them move back in (basically wanting things to go back to how ghey were when they were complaining about the noise). They believe that what happened was a misunderstanding and everyone of us mishandled the situation so they want to start new.

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I lost it and told them they have 2 days to return it or I'll call the cops on them. Mom is pressuring me to take them back saying it was my fault for not have any consideration for them as my guests to begin with, but I refused to take them back and put my foot down on the time-line I gave.

Now I'm being called irrational and cruel to kick my brother out, watch him struggle and refuse to let him move back in and choosing to escalate this to the authorities when I could just let them move back in and I get my piano back.

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This family clash exposes the raw tension between grief and respect for personal boundaries. The woman’s piano, a lifeline to her late husband, was violated by her brother’s unauthorized removal, an act of entitlement masked as a quest for peace.

Dr. Susan Heitler, a family therapist, notes, “Grief amplifies the need for control over personal spaces; violating that is a profound betrayal.” The brother’s attempt to hold the piano hostage to regain entry escalates the conflict, while the mother’s pressure dismisses the woman’s pain.

Family boundary disputes are common; a 2024 study found 55% of siblings report conflicts over shared living spaces. The brother’s actions, coupled with his wife’s dismissal, justify the woman’s ultimatum. Heitler suggests immediate action, like involving authorities, to reclaim the piano, followed by no-contact boundaries to protect her healing.

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The woman could offer a final chance for return via a neutral mediator, but reconciliation seems unlikely.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit’s crowd roared with outrage and practical advice.

LastDreamerM − You're still grieving and your AH brother (and mom??) pulls this stunt on you what the f**k?!. He's gonna put the piano on craigslist for some quick cash after you made him move out!. #Call the cops today!!!. NTA. EDIT: Thank you for the awards :3

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Paiger__ − NTA, it’s your place and your piano. They stole your piano and are holding it ransom to get their way - so not only stealing your property but trying to use extortion (blackmail: “If you let us back, we will eventually let you know where it is.”), as well.

Call the cops ASAP and report it stolen and tell the cops they know where it is and won’t tell you. I wouldn’t let them (your family) back in your place for the time being, but seriously, **GET THE COPS INVOLVED**. They had no right to pull this crap with you. It’s your home, your property. The audacity is mind blowing.

They are taking advantage of you so graciously giving them a place to stay, especially in such a difficult time of life for you (with the loss of your late husband). Your Mom or some other family member can take them in and deal with all this stuff. It’s not your responsibility to take care of them.

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JBB2002902 − NTA. You could also try posting on social media tagging your brother so his friends see - let them know that whoever is storing the piano is currently storing a stolen item and they have XX hours to return it before the police become involved?. You just know he hasn’t told the truth to whoever is keeping it!

katamino − NTA but make that police report now. They have had their chance to be reasonable and do the right thing but they haven't. They don't deserve any more warnings. Heck I would post on SM that your piano has been stolen

and the police have been notified, but if anyone knows anything let you know asap. Maybe the friend will come forward and return your piano. Friend may not be aware it was stolen because who knows what he was told.

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JDDoherty − Don’t wait, call the police now. Assuming the piano hasn’t been sold, it’s in a garage where the varying temperature this time of year will do it no good. Moisture will also negatively affect it. Press him for payment to have it professionally re-tuned as well once it’s returned. Usually good to do after moving it (up & down stairs, on & off a truck, over bumpy roads).. Edited to add judgement:. NTA

TrainingDearest − NTA. I'm shocked that anyone, especially your own mother, would condone the assholeyness of your brother's behavior. This was not his home, it was yours. This was not his property, it was yours. He had no rights to dictate your actions, or touch your property, much less hold it hostage to make more demands??

Mom should have been the one telling him to return it immediately. Apparently that's where your brother learned his poor behavior from. I would not only call the police on him, but I would make it known to the 'friend' that is keeping the piano that he is also on the hook for keeping the stolen goods, and have charges brought against that person too.

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solo_throwaway254247 − Sorry for your loss. Your family sucks for not being respectful, especially at a time when you're still grieving.. 1. Call the police now and report the. piano stolen. 2. Change the locks. 3. File a restraining order if they don't. stop harassing you. 4. Once you have your piano back, go no. contact with them all. NTA

Straight-Singer-2912 − NTA Let me guess your brother is the 'Golden Child' and you're 'just' a daughter so you're pressured to give give give to your selfish brother. Call the police. He stole your piano and moved it. Let him explain to the police why he won't give it back.

He has 2 choices: give the piano back now, or give it back when you go to the police. Those are the options. He is not moving back in. And if your mother thinks he is such a great guy - then it would be no problem for her to house your brother and his family, right? Let him stay with her. He can also stay in his friend's garage - I mean, if he moves the piano out there should be **PLENTY** of room, right?

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Traditional_Carob_12 − NTA. Call the police NOW before they can destroy the piano!

Otherwise-Topic-1791 − NTA. Call the police now. Anything over $1000 is a felony. You can drop the charges later if you choose to, but report it NOW!

From urging police action to suggesting social media shaming, these takes fuel a heated debate. But do they fully capture the sting of a sibling’s betrayal?

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This tale of a stolen piano and a sister’s stand leaves us pondering the limits of family ties. Her ultimatum protects her grief-fueled haven, but is it too harsh? Should she soften for her mother’s sake, or hold her ground? What would you do if family took your most treasured possession? Share your thoughts—how do you reclaim what’s yours when trust is broken?

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