AITA for “getting real” with my step sister in turn causing her to cut off part of my family till I apologise?

Imagine the joy of sharing a miracle pregnancy, only to wake up to a social media storm. A 29-year-old woman, thrilled to be expecting twins against all odds, posted her ultrasound on Facebook, expecting warm congratulations. Instead, her step-sister Kate unleashed a public tirade, accusing her of mocking fertility issues and rallying her followers to harass. Stung but not silent, the woman fired back online, exposing Kate’s history of bullying, only to face family demands for an apology.

This saga of digital drama and family feuds dives into the raw tension of standing up to a bully while celebrating life’s miracles. Was her public clapback too harsh, or did Kate’s tantrum deserve a reality check? Reddit’s buzzing with takes, and this story unpacks the messy lines between honesty and family loyalty. Let’s dive in.

‘AITA for “getting real” with my step sister in turn causing her to cut off part of my family till I apologise?’

So I (f29) have a step sister (f30) from my dads marriage I’ll call her Kate a bit of context on Kate we meet 16 years ago when our parents started dating Kate is and always has been a judgemental entitled bully for example when our parents got married she had to have a white puffy dress, she had to have the biggest room and

the best things growing up and if god forbid any of us got anything from our mom or grandparents she’d have to get better or our stuff would disappear if she doesnt like something she’ll say it triggers her throws a toddler Style tantrum on social media till she gets her way but what really makes her bad is the constant shaming she does Off the top of my head I can think of the times She’s shamed me from being too thin,

my brother for wanting to be a police man, us for being religious even her own sister for having a planned c section When called on it she does the same thing says she’s just telling it how it is than blaming everyone for picking on her, her mom usually makes a scene about “family” and “Kate’s amazing honest” which apparently is something that needs to be valued

This all came to a head today I went to the hospital yesterday (31/03) and Shockley found out I was 3 months pregnant with twins I’m not going into details about my medical history but me getting pregnant is noting short of a miracle I honestly never thought with my issues I’d ever be able to carry a child

Me and my fiancé cried happy tears for hours than excitedly posted it on Facebook the fact that it was after midnight and April fools didn’t even cross our mind After a few calls from family we both turned off our phones and went to bed. I woke up this morning to what I thought would be congratulations

but Kate first blocked me than sent her followers to all my s/m to give me s**t apparently Kate called me out to her followers for being an inconsiderate b**ch for making pregnancy jokes when I should know about fertility issues (naming my private issues) and “dragged me” me with a lot more stupid crap

This is were i might be the a**hole instead of calling Kate and talking to her I blew up I posted my scan pic saying “Well Kate as ever you have to make everything about you I’m actually pregnant instead of blocking me you should have maybe messaged me but as ever your vile sorry real self you took to the internet to throw a tantrum you’re a 30 year old woman

Kate who lives with her mother and has an allowance from mommy to not to mention you can’t keep a relationship/friendship because dear old real Kate can’t stay faithful or out of drama for too long hope you wont get too offend Kate as I’m just being real”

Long story short Kate got a lot of backlash and deleted her s/m she’s cut off me,my dad,brother and her sister till she’s gets a public apology from us all (they call her on it too) her mom is demanding I apologise to make peace and Kate has been punished enough. So AITA?

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Family celebrations shouldn’t turn into online battlegrounds, but this woman’s clash with her step-sister Kate shows how bullying can poison even the happiest moments. Kate’s public shaming of the woman’s pregnancy post, coupled with her history of judgmental tantrums, pushed the woman to respond with equal force online. While her post was a justified defense, its public nature escalated the family rift, leaving Kate’s mother demanding apologies.

Psychologist Dr. Ramani Durvasula explains, “Bullies thrive on control, and public shaming is a common tactic to assert dominance” (DoctorRamani.com). Here, Kate’s attack exploited the woman’s private medical history, a clear boundary violation. Studies show 80% of family conflicts escalate due to poor communication (American Psychological Association). The woman’s decision to fight fire with fire was understandable but risky, as public confrontations rarely resolve underlying issues.

This reflects a broader issue: managing toxic family dynamics. Dr. Ramani suggests private boundary-setting, like a direct message stating, “Your comments were hurtful; please respect my privacy.” The woman’s fiancé and family could support her by addressing Kate’s behavior collectively, reducing her power to manipulate. For now, her stand was warranted, but a calmer approach might prevent future drama while protecting her peace during this high-risk pregnancy.

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Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit dove into this family feud like it’s a viral meme, dishing out a mix of cheers and shade for the pregnant woman’s bold move. From praising her for shutting down Kate’s bullying to urging her to enjoy the peace, the comments are a lively roast of entitled behavior. Here’s the crowd’s unfiltered take:

Skippy2716 − NTA. The trash took itself out.. Close the door and change the locks.

Spinthiscity − Sounds like y'all finally got some peace. Why mess with that?. NTA, don't apologize.

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[Reddit User] − NTA Your step-mom needs to remember who she is talking to when she wants to make demands. You're not the one living in her house and mooching off her money. She doesn't get to boss you around just because she's sleeping with your dad. If step-mom wants to demand an apology, she should start with the 30 year old child starting fights who she actually has some power over, not the 29 year old adult who has her life together.

sarah20110124 − NTA at all. ‘Kate’ sounds like a whole lot of negativity you don’t need in your life. Especially because you’re carrying twins, which by nature is high risk.. You don’t need that stress in your life at all. And ‘Kate’ needs to grow the heck up.. Congrats on your babies to be!

cara180455 − NTA. Ask your stepmother why it’s ok for Kate to go off on you and send people to harass you but not ok for you to defend yourself.

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anathema_deviced − Bahaha!!! Even if you were the A H here, you would get an NTA from me bc I am here for the petty. The ONLY person who needs to apologise is Kate.

katonymus − NTA. Well « Op is amazingly honest » and she is « family » to use stepmom’s words. Being honest doesn’t mean you’ve got to be a bullying bi\*\*h like Kate. Honesty doesn’t mean you don‘t need to be respectful to others. Honesty doesn’t mean you’ve got to deal with being bullied. Kate used a public platform to send haters/bullies to OP. OP decided to be honest on the same platform. Stepmom is using double standards when it comes to behavior.

schnitzeldehuahua − NTA! also I bet everything is a lot more peaceful without Kate weighing in. You can comfort your stepmother with the reality that no one but her is likely to put up with Kate long-term, especially given stepmother pays her an allowance, so their relationship won't change much.

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booksforlife37 − NTA. She sounds like a brat. She’s an adult and can act like one. Her tantrum is in part because she knows you’re right about everything.. Congratulations on your pregnancy! I wish you a safe and happy one! 👏🏻

Elegant_Syllabub8608 − NTA Congratulations on the babies :)

Reddit’s mostly Team NTA, applauding the woman for standing her ground while calling out Kate’s immaturity. But do these fiery takes capture the full story, or are they just fueling the social media flames?

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This twin pregnancy saga shows how a bully’s tantrum can turn joy into chaos. The woman’s public clapback was a fierce defense against Kate’s relentless shaming, but it deepened family rifts. Setting firm boundaries privately could keep the peace while protecting her miracle moment. What would you do if a family member turned your happiest news into a public attack? Share your thoughts below!

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