AITA for getting my ex friend kicked out of our friend group due to my service dog?

Imagine a cozy game night, laughter filling the air, until a beloved service dog sparks a firestorm. A 24-year-old woman, reliant on her trusty canine companion Bailey to manage her epilepsy, walked into a friend’s home expecting a warm evening with pals. Instead, she faced a harsh ultimatum: leave her lifesaving dog outside or stay home. The tension boiled over, leading to a medical emergency that turned a fun gathering into a battle over loyalty and understanding.

Her friend’s refusal to accept Bailey wasn’t just a slight—it was a reckless dismissal of a medical necessity. When the woman suffered a seizure and landed in the hospital, her friend group rallied, exposing deep cracks in their circle. The fallout was swift, leaving everyone to question where friendship ends and responsibility begins.

‘AITA for getting my ex friend kicked out of our friend group due to my service dog?’

It was also brought up to me by another user that their was a similar post posted a few weeks ago from a hosts perspective. This is NOT the same post. My situation happened really recently (allot more recent than whatever the previous post was)

I’m shocked to hear this has happened befor, but yeah it’s 💯 not related to ours haha. Finally I’ve had a few comments about my dog being “certified” that I want to clarify. I am not from the US so I’m unsure what your guys process is like,

but all I mean is that Bailey has gone through the required testing, training and registration to ensure she is legally aloud to be classified as a service animal :) I just want to start by saying I’m pretty sure I’m not the A-hole. But my friend and her family are pretty certain that I am.

Please bear with me, I’m just wanting some clarity over this situation to make sure I’m not crazy. I (24 f) have epilepsy. I have a service dog (fully certified) who is trained to help me with my seizures. I have been diagnosed since a child, and I have had my current dog Bailey for 4 years now and she is the bestest girl around.

(Before Bailey I had a previous service dog who we had to retire due to age… but having a service animal is by no means new for me). With her being a service dog she is obviously always with me. I have a core friend group who hangs out quite often.

My one friend; let’s call her Anna) (also 24f) always makes really weird and almost passive aggressive comments about me and Bailey? Ex; dogs shouldn’t come to restaurants, I’m inconveniencing people, etc. she doesn’t get that I legitimately need her for my own safety. It’s not just for show.

My seizures are really regular; for context I actually get two different kinds. My “small ones” are petit Mal seizures. This essentially just looks like I’m zoning out and staring into space. Quite often people who don’t know me wouldn’t even connect this.

My “big ones” are my main concern; these are focal seizures where I fully lose consciousness. This can happen a couple times a day for me so it’s obviously really important that I manage it to the best of my abilities. Anyways.

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Our friend Anna wanted to host a games night/appy night type thing at her house. When we there she lost it on me. She told me it was increadibly disrespectful that I showed up with Bailey without asking for permission first. That I can’t just assume people will be happy with a dog always being around.

That I should have just stayed home if I couldn’t handle being out for a few hours without Bailey. I tried apologizing and pointing out that I assumed she knew I was bringing her since I’ve never gone anywhere without her. That set her off more.

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The guys were finally able to calm her down but her “compromise” was I had to put Bailey in the backyard. I was an i**ot and said fine because I didn’t want to inconvenience anyone more or continue stirring the pot. Bailey went out side and I returned inside with my friends.

I ended up having a seizure, blacking out and smashing my head on the floor. I had to go to the hospital because of how hard I hit my head. I guess my friend group absolutely handed Ana her ass calling her hateful, toxic, and a jealous witch.

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I guess she was trying to say that I passed out for the attention and I got my way like always. Long story short no one wants her around anymore. Since this happened her, her sister and mom have been blowing up my phone, calling me the ass hole and demanding I fix this situation and it’s honestly getting to me.. so Reddit. AITA?

Update: from what everyone has said I am clearly NTA. Thank you all for your concern and well wishes. Ana and her family have been blocked and I will no longer be in contact with her.

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This game night gone wrong underscores the critical role of service animals and the harm of misunderstanding their purpose. The woman’s epilepsy requires Bailey’s constant presence, yet Anna’s hostility dismissed a medical necessity as a mere inconvenience. This clash highlights a broader lack of awareness about disabilities and accommodations.

Dr. John Duffy, a clinical psychologist, states, “Ignoring someone’s medical needs can feel like a betrayal of trust, especially in close relationships” (The Available Parent). Anna’s insistence on barring Bailey ignored the woman’s safety, leading to a dangerous seizure. A 2023 study from the Epilepsy Foundation notes 65% of people with epilepsy face social stigma, often from misconceptions about their condition or aids like service dogs.

The incident reflects a societal gap in disability education. Many view service animals as pets, not vital tools, leading to conflicts like this. Anna’s reaction, doubling down with accusations of attention-seeking, shows defensiveness rather than accountability, a common response when biases are challenged.

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To move forward, experts recommend clear communication about medical needs in social settings. The woman could share educational resources with friends to prevent future misunderstandings.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit users overwhelmingly supported the woman, condemning Anna’s reckless and insensitive behavior. They praised the friend group for standing by her, viewing Anna’s actions as toxic and harmful, especially after the seizure incident.

archaeologistbarbie - NTA. She sounds awful, tbh. Your friend group was right to stick up for you. Her behavior was deplorable.

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EleriTMLH - OMG, NTA. She literally caused you to SUFFER A MEDICAL INCIDENT. She had so little regard for your health and wellbeing that she caused you actual harm. I'd be sending her, her mom and her sister copies of the hospital bill, and then cutting them off completely.

robbyrandall - NTA. I really hope you are OK after the seizure and also hitting your head. I have to commend your willingness to compromise that you'd risk getting hurt, and then actually getting hurt. I know it's not intentional but it sure got your point across.

If your 'friend' was a normal person she would have apologized after the incident, but she doubled down and said you did it essentially on purpose. I think this is where she lost everyone.. TBH, this is the least AH story I've read on the OP. Obviously the AH is this Anna

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Snarky_but_Nice - She thinks you faked a seizure? One where you injured yourself badly enough to go to the hospital? All so she can keep insisting that your service dog isn't a valid need? Either she really is this shallow and stupid or she knows she screwed up big time and can't/won't admit it.

If Anna has this much hostility towards your dog, she and you are not compatible as friends, even in a group setting. It's up to the rest of your friends to decide who they want to hang out with. And it would be okay if they sometimes hung out with her and sometimes hung out with you (not everyone likes dogs; some people are scared, I get it).

However, personally speaking, if one of my friends berated someone for having a service animal, forced the animal outside, and then accused the owner of faking a seizure for attention? I'd be seriously rethinking my friendship with that person.. NTA

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Due-Yoghurt4916 - Nta make sure your friends know about the continuing harassment from her family. Your friends deserve to know that they did the right thing. Seeing her sick her family on you will reassure them they were right about her

dinglepumpkin - NTA. Man, I have SO MANY UNCIVIL THINGS to say about Anna. But your friends have said some good ones. Please give Bailey pets from us!

PlateNo7021 - NTA, it's like if you told a diabetic person to not bring insulin with them.

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wai_chopped_liver - NTA and I’m glad your friends are siding with you. She is just embarrassed and instead of apologizing and acting like a reasonable human she is trying to shift the blame to you. Block her and her family, they are way out of bounds here.

freshlybakedbird - Hell naw you ain’t the AH. NTA NTA NTA!! If I had a friend with a service animal they will always be welcome with me. I hope you’re doing well and please, NEVER be without sweet Bailey. Stay safe my dude.

AlienBeingMe - NTA. Block Anna and her family. The end. She IS a witch and why would you even TRY to be her friend again- she never had been to you. She is dangerous to you and your dog and I can tell you she is no friend to anyone. Your life is difficult enough, drop the drama queen.

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The consensus was that Anna’s refusal to accommodate a service dog and her subsequent accusations revealed a lack of empathy, justifying her exclusion from the group. Users urged the woman to prioritize her safety and cut contact with Anna and her family.

This heart-wrenching night shows how quickly ignorance can fracture friendships. The woman’s loyalty to Bailey, her lifesaving companion, exposed a friend’s true colors, costing a toxic relationship but strengthening her support circle. It’s a reminder to prioritize understanding over assumptions. How would you handle a friend who dismisses a medical need? Share your thoughts below.

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