AITA for getting mad at a girl who copied my tattoo and refusing to tattoo her?

In a buzzing tattoo studio, where ink tells stories and designs are sacred, a young artist faces a betrayal that stings worse than a needle. A client struts in, proudly showing off tattoos that mirror his work—stolen designs, inked without permission. Her casual dismissal of his craft as “no big deal” ignites a firestorm, leading him to kick her out and keep her deposit.

This clash isn’t just about ink; it’s about respect for art and the unspoken rules of tattoo culture. As the client brands him an “a**hole” online, the artist wonders if his stand was too harsh. Readers are drawn into this vibrant world, questioning where the line lies between protecting creativity and punishing ignorance in a clash that’s as bold as a fresh tattoo.

‘AITA for getting mad at a girl who copied my tattoo and refusing to tattoo her?’

I (24m) am a tattoo artist with quite a large following online. For those of you who aren't really into tattoo culture, a big issue in the community is tattoo copying. This is essentially when someone takes a tattoo someone has, and gets another artist to trace the design and get it on them. This is seen as stealing within the community (as designs for us are sold) and is incredibly disrespectful.

Any decent artist will not copy a tattoo. I've spoken a lot about this online, as it happens to me a lot, as well as other artists I know. Last week I had a woman come in for an appointment with me. She was heavily tattooed (I mention this because I think it makes it less likely that she didn't know that tattoo copying is wrong) and two of those were stolen designs I had done on another client.

One of them was meaningful to the client, the other was a flash design I did. She showed me the tattoos after I finished designing the tattoo for her that she was getting that day. The conversation went something like: 'I saw these two tattoos on your instagram and had to have them. They're actually done really well and were a good way to tide me over until I could get to you'

'Uh, thanks? Just for the future, most artists don't appreciate it when you copy their work. Those tattoos are supposed to be one-offs.'. 'It's a compliment though, really'. 'Haven't you ever heard of this issue?' 'Yeah I've heard all the drama about copying tattoos, but I don't see why it's an issue. I wouldn't care if someone copied mine so, who cares.'

That's when I got quite mad. I told her that not only is she acting very ignorant, she is disrespectful and essentially stealing my artwork (she hadn't changed either of the designs at all). I told her to get out of my shop and not to return, as we don't tattoo people who don't respect the industry.

I also didn't refund her £100 deposit as she still spent time in the studio getting a design drawn when I could have had another client. She left a review saying I'm an a**hole. The rest of my studio agreed with me on the issue, but we all agree we can see how someone outside the industry might not agree. AITA?. ​

Update: just to clarify, the deposit was for the design itself. It was a large design that was going to take up her whole thigh, so it took a long time to draw up. I could have had another client in that time.. ​ Edit: Thank you so much for the feedback. There's a lot of debate in the comments so I just wanted to give a brief, general overview of what is generally seen as stealing when it comes to tattoos:. Stealing:

Taking a picture of another tattoo to an artist and asking for the exact same thing, with no changes.. Not stealing: Getting a pop culture tattoo. A large corporation cannot tattoo you and you are therefore not taking away potential income from anyone by taking a picture of Mickey Mouse to a tattoo artist.

Taking inspiration from other tattoos. Taking pictures of tattoos to your artist and saying 'I like this, can I get something similar/with a few changes?' is fine. Buying a design from an artist (tattoo or otherwise) and asking an artist to tattoo it on you. Getting permission from the original artist AND the client with the tattoo (although finding an artist who will copy another's tattoo is generally an indication of their quality).

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Tattoo parlors are sanctuaries of self-expression, but this client’s cavalier copying of designs struck at the heart of artistic integrity. The artist’s decision to ban her and keep the deposit reflects a fierce defense of his craft, though her dismissal of the issue highlights a cultural disconnect.

Tattoo artist and author Mark Wade explains, “Copying a tattoo design without permission disrespects both the artist and the client’s unique story” (Inked Magazine). The client’s act—replicating a meaningful custom piece and a flash design—ignores the tattoo community’s ethos, where originality is paramount. Her claim that copying is a “compliment” shows ignorance, especially as a heavily tattooed person likely familiar with the culture.

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This incident mirrors broader issues in creative industries. A 2021 study in Art Law Journal notes 60% of artists face unauthorized reproduction, eroding their income and reputation. The artist’s refusal to tattoo her aligns with industry standards, though keeping the deposit sparked debate.

Wade suggests “educating clients on tattoo ethics.” The artist could’ve offered a partial refund to avoid legal pushback while standing firm on his no-copying policy. For future clients, clear studio guidelines could prevent repeat issues.

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Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit’s ink enthusiasts and onlookers dove in with passion, from cheering the artist’s stand to debating the deposit drama. Here’s a splash of their colorful takes, served with a side of spice:

[Reddit User] - NTA - It's your artwork. You need to protect your name and your art

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MercifulWombat - NTA. She knows artists don't like their work stolen and she did it anyway, and you have the right to refuse service to anyone. Tattoos at their best are super personal and intimate, and you are well within NTA territory to maintain those standards for yourself.

urineonthumbem - ~~YTA for charging her even though you were the one who ended things. I don't know enough about the tattoo culture you described to comment on that.~~. EDIT: I just read that she was offered the design. OP is NTA

looklikeyoulikeme - ~~Y T A.~~ First off, you're totally right about copying. Not cool! B~~ut the issue is you keeping her deposit. It should have been returned on principle if you turned her away on principle.~~. OP has revealed that the design was offered and refused. So I'm going to have to say they're NTA.

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[Reddit User] - NTA. She obviously doesnt know basic courtesy when it comes to art. Some people think that tattoos arent art, when in reality they are. It would be like making a replica of a painting. Even the fact that you didnt give her back the deposit wasnt being an a**hole because she wasted your time

EasilyDistractedTim - NTA, I have one (of 5 total) tattoo I saw online, but the guy who put it on my said he wouldn't do the same, changed it enough to give me something in the same style but not similar enough to make it a copy and it feels way better like this, much less like some cheap peel of sticker, now I only get originals and feel more like I appreciate the artistic side.

[Reddit User] - Serious Question: There is an artist in Korea whose work I love. It's colorful line work. If I get a local artist in the states to do a similar style/design, because I will never be in Korea, is that art theft? Where does it end? I work in baking and this comes up in cake decoration all the time. Where is the line between influence and copying?

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BlueVelvet90 - NTA. She shouldn't have been such a b**ch about it. Though you probably should've refunded the deposit, if only to keep her from pursuing legal action at a later point.

justsomeguynbd - Being outside the industry all I can think about now is if someone has sued a person who got a tattoo in this type of situation for copyright infringement. I think YTA though. This seems a particular sore spot to you because your art is being misappropriated which governed your actions.

I don't think you are wrong I just think she bore the brunt of something that bothers you far beyond this particular customer and that kind of makes you an a**hole. Edit to add: It seems like a lot of the people that came down to the same judgment as me did so in part because you didn't return the deposit. I see no reason to do that, you met with her, you drew up a design, you provided the service the deposit was for, you were entitled to keep it imo.

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beldaran1224 - YTA. You can't tell me that you obtain copyright permission for the tattoos you do related to every show, movie, book, quote, etc. You know it, I know it. If you can't respect other's copyright, why should others respect yours?

These Reddit opinions are bold as a sleeve tattoo, but do they capture the heart of this artistic showdown, or just add more ink to the drama?

This tattoo tale leaves us pondering: when does defending your art go too far? The artist’s ban on a design-copying client protected his craft but stirred controversy over fairness. Was he right to stand firm, or should he have softened the blow? What would you do if someone disrespected your creative work? Share your thoughts—let’s dive into this inked-up drama!

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