AITA for firing my nephew after he lied about another worker stealing?

In the quiet hum of a small business, a storm brews when trust is broken. Meet Sarah, a business owner who gave her nephew Henry a job to help her struggling family. But when Henry falsely accuses Brian, a diligent cleaner with a tough past, of stealing and snooping, security footage reveals the lie. Sarah fires Henry, sparking family outrage over her “heartless” choice, especially given their financial woes.

This isn’t just about a workplace dispute; it’s about integrity, loyalty, and standing up for those who can’t. Henry’s actions, from mistreating Brian to fabricating theft, crossed a line, but Sarah’s family sees her as the villain. Reddit’s community weighed in with fiery support, urging her to hold firm. Let’s dive into this tangled tale of trust and tough calls.

‘AITA for firing my nephew after he lied about another worker stealing?’

I run a small business and for over a year and a half I’ve been employing “Brian” (not his real name). He’s a decent worker. Comes in everyday for 1 or 2 hrs to sweep, mop, clean the windows, keep the front tidy and take out the trash.

2 months ago my sister asked me if I could offer my nephew “Henry” (19m) a job because they are going through some financial troubles and need his help. Gave him a full-time job where he’s basically like my receptionist. Answering the phone, helping me organize papers and such. The reason Henry knows about Brian is because I talked about him to my family once.

Brian used to sleep right outside by the entrance every night or sometimes I’d find him digging in our dumpster around the back. So I decided to offer him some work and he accepted. Since Henry started he’s had some attitude with Brian when he comes in. Twice I came back after meeting clients, Henry was making Brian unload supplies that were dropped off. Saying that I told him to have Brian do that. They were arguing because Brian said he couldn’t do it.

I was already told by him when he first started coming in that he can’t do heavy lifting because of back problems he suffers from so I got mad at my nephew over that. I tried to chalk that up to my nephew not really knowing much since he’s new. Last week Henry told me he saw Brian going to the back office and going through everyone’s things.

Then supposedly he also went into my office. I didn’t believe him because only a few people have keys to my office, my nephew being one of them because sometimes he needs to leave papers on my desk when I’m not there. Brian doesn’t have keys for any of that because he only needs to get the cleaning supplies from the closet.

Henry said he left his keys out front when Brian was there when he went to answer the phone and now he can’t find them. He kept saying I should fire him. One look at the security cams proved he lied about the whole thing. The fact that he lied about it and also kept suggesting Brian be fired for something Henry knew he didn’t do upset me very much.

Wasn’t thinking at the moment because I was a little o**rwhelmed with anger and fired him there. You can guess how my family took that. Firing my own nephew. When according to them he didn’t do anything wrong. He suspected of the man and thought he was going the right thing coming to me.

My sister said Henry just misplaced his keys and “rightfully” assumed Brian stole them and says he’s never felt comfortable anytime he came to clean. Even though Henry won’t give me actual reasons why he was uncomfortable around Brian other than believing he would steal something.

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Brian has never done anything like that before. Everyone thinks I’m TA for firing/refusing to rehire him over this because of what their family’s going through and It’s getting to me. To clear the air for me, AITA?

Sarah’s decision to fire Henry was a stand for workplace integrity, but it’s stirred family tension. Dr. Robert Sutton, an organizational psychologist, notes, “Lying in the workplace, especially to harm another, erodes trust and demands consequences” (Stanford Business). Henry’s false accusation against Brian, a vulnerable employee with a history of homelessness, wasn’t just a mistake—it was a deliberate attempt to undermine a coworker, compounded by his earlier misuse of authority to assign Brian heavy lifting despite his back issues.

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This reflects a broader issue: bias against marginalized workers. A 2023 study from the Journal of Applied Psychology found that employees with lower socioeconomic backgrounds face higher scrutiny and false accusations at work (APA). Henry’s discomfort with Brian, lacking any evidence beyond stereotypes, suggests classist assumptions, which Sarah rightly challenged. His loss of keys, critical for office security, further highlights his irresponsibility.

Dr. Sutton advises clear consequences for dishonesty, like termination, to maintain a healthy workplace culture. Sarah could address family backlash by explaining her duty to protect all employees, perhaps in a calm discussion with her sister, emphasizing Henry’s actions over personal ties. For future hires, experts recommend structured training on workplace ethics to prevent similar conflicts (SHRM). Sarah might also offer Brian support, like a formal acknowledgment of his good work, to reinforce fairness.

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For business owners, balancing family and professionalism is tough. Sarah’s choice to prioritize Brian’s dignity over nepotism sets a strong example, but she’ll need to navigate family fallout with clear boundaries. Henry’s lesson may sting, but it’s a chance for growth—if he takes it.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

The Reddit squad brought the heat, cheering Sarah’s stand while slamming Henry’s deceit. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

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541pnw916 − NTA. It’s your business. Sounds like your family is ok with nepotism and outraged that you made the right choice.

likeahike − NTA, your nephew was kicking a man ho was already down. How you treat people in need says a lot about your personality. Your nephew can't be trusted in small things and not in big things. If you hadn't fired your nephew for this,

it would have been something else. Your family is angry because they see Brian as lesser than themselves, not worth getting upset over. They're wrong. He is valuable and deserving and you did him a great kindness.

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antonio-bolonio − NTA Good for you being a decent employer and looking out for your worker. I’m sickened by your sister’s comment “rightfully assumed” girl shut the hell up. Your nephew’s lie was that he witnessed it happening first hand,

it all unravels the second the security cameras show otherwise. You did the right thing, if he was willing to power trip and lie about an employee who has done literally nothing wrong then who’s to say he wouldn’t lie about robbing you himself.

hey-demons-its-me-ya − NTA. ‘He “rightfully” assumed Brian stole them’ on what planet? He quite literally and provably *wrongly* accused Brian.. I’m getting strong classist, (or some other -ist) vibes from your family, why else would they be targeting Brian?. You were absolutely right to fire Henry for making false accusations to try to get someone else fired.

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mysteresc − NTA. You did Henry a favor and he repaid your kindness by lying to you about another employee. Hopefully he learns a lesson or two from this.

horshack_test − NTA. Your nephew overstepped his bounds regarding your other employee, lied to you (his employer) when you were doing him a favor, and made a blatantly false accusation against that other employee (someone you are clearly trying to help). You cannot trust him. Firing him was the right thing to do.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Your nephew is judging the man based on being homeless. That is his issue, and his behavior of lying and trying to get him fired is disgusting.. If his parents support his behavior then that is their problem, not yours.. They always say don't hire family, and unfortunately you are experiencing why.

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deemossy − NTA. Your family are enablers. Nothing is worse than a liar. He didn’t even have a reason. He (your nephew) is going to have allot of problems in the adult world where his family can’t protect him.

Kilkegard − NTA The nephew 1.) overstepped his authority by trying to order another employee to do something. This is further aggravated by the fact that the task was something the other employee was physically incapable of performing.

2.) Lost an important key and admitted it was left out in plain sight. That key grants access to a lot of confidential info. That is a serious lapse on the nephews part.. 3.) Made unfounded accusations against another employee.

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nicoleabcd − NTA.. It’s very disturbing that he would try and get a homeless person fired.

These Redditors rallied behind Sarah, but do their takes capture the full weight of her dilemma, or are they just fanning the flames?

Sarah’s story is a powerful reminder that running a business means making tough calls, even when family’s involved. Henry’s lie wasn’t just a fib—it was a betrayal of trust that hurt a vulnerable worker. Sarah’s stand for fairness shines, but healing family rifts will take time and boundaries. Have you ever faced a workplace lie that tested your values, or had to choose between family and fairness? What would you do in Sarah’s shoes to keep the peace? Share your thoughts below and let’s keep the conversation going!

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