AITA for fighting with my dad because I won’t share my PS5 at my mom’s house with my stepsiblings at his?

A shiny new PS5, a Christmas gift from a devoted mom, became a battleground for a 15-year-old caught in a blended-family tug-of-war. When his dad, obsessed with equal treatment for his six stepsiblings, demanded the teen share the console at his house, a fiery argument erupted, fueled by snooped texts and clashing priorities. As the dad pushes for fairness, the teen digs in, guarding his prized possession.

This tale of family friction and teenage autonomy hums with relatable tension. When does a parent’s quest for equality overstep a child’s boundaries?

‘AITA for fighting with my dad because I won’t share my PS5 at my mom’s house with my stepsiblings at his?’

My mom bought me (15M) a PS5 for Christmas. My friends and I play it all the time when my mom's custody time comes around. My parents share custody of me so I'm at a different house every week. I never said anything about the PS5 at dad's house because I knew my dad would expect me to share.

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He's got a huge stick up his ass about me having so much more than my stepsiblings because mom only has me and she can afford stuff for me that my dad's wife can't afford for her kids. She has 6 kids who live with her all the time and they all have different dad's and none of them have their dad around so she struggles to pay for stuff even now that she's married to dad.

This makes my dad go crazy about us being treated the same. But my mom doesn't owe those kids anything and I'm not going to make her pick up the slack for that crap. I'm not close to any of them either so why would I invite them to mom's house? They're not my friends.

My dad was going through my phone last week and saw me text my friends about the PS5 and plans we had to play games. Dad asked me why I never told him about the PS5 and why I didn't bring it to his house to share. He told me I need to do it next time I come over and he can plan a fun day with me and my stepsiblings.

I said no way and we fought about it. He accused me of rubbing the PS5 in their faces and letting them be treated bad. But I said nothing to them and the only reason they know about it or dad even is because he read those texts and got mad at me.. My dad gave mom hell about it and wanted her to punish me for fighting him and being selfish.. AITA?

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Blended families often navigate choppy waters over fairness, but this dad’s demand to share a personal gift crosses into overreach. The PS5, bought by the teen’s mom for his exclusive use, isn’t communal property, and the dad’s invasion of private texts to uncover it raises red flags about trust. His fixation on equal treatment for his stepsiblings dismisses the teen’s right to his own belongings and his mom’s financial autonomy.

Family therapist Dr. Patricia Papernow notes, “Stepfamily harmony requires respecting individual boundaries.” Studies show 60% of blended-family conflicts stem from perceived favoritism, but forcing shared resources can breed resentment, as seen here. The dad’s marriage to a struggling mom of six doesn’t obligate the teen or his mom to subsidize their lifestyle.

This reflects broader issues of autonomy in blended families. Dr. Papernow advises, “Parents must model respect for personal property.” The teen should keep the PS5 at his mom’s, and his parents need to address fairness without violating privacy.

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Check out how the community responded:

Reddit jumped into this family feud like it’s a multiplayer showdown. Here’s the community’s unfiltered take:

ProfessorDistinct835 − NTA. But it's your mom who needs to intervene here and set your dad straight. Also 100% leave your PS5 at your mom's. It's going to get broken at your dad's house with 6 kids running around.

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Idkwhatttoputhereeee − NTA. I’m 24 and my younger brother is 17 now. Parents have been divorced since I was 12. My brother is the gamer. Whatever “toys” mom bought stayed at mom’s period. Dad wants you to share so bad? Have him buy the family one.

chaingun_samurai − This makes my dad go crazy about us being treated the same. Clearly the problem is that he needs to get a better paying job so that he can create the lifestyle that he believes his horde of stepkids should have. He made the choice to marry a woman that gave birth to a basketball team plus an alternate. It's his problem.

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LavenderPearlTea − NTA. Why are his step kids entitled to what your mom buys for you? You didn’t flaunt anything. If anything, you tried to keep it on the down low. He’s the one who went through your phone. When will this ridiculous behavior on his part stop?

Is he going to get mad if your mom pays for your college but not for his six step kids? Is he going to demand you don’t go to college to make it “fair”? Is he going to demand you can’t get a car or buy a house because it’s not “fair” that you’re doing better than them?

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WindowPixie − Everyone else here is right, plus: Large, expensive electronics do not like to travel. Putting that thing in a backpack and ferrying it back and forth between houses is guaranteed to shorten it's lifespan like crazy, even if nothing gets spilled on it/ it never gets dropped. I doubt your dad will replace it if something bad happens to it in transit or at his house so yeah no. Hard no, POPS.. eta, also if he did replace it, bet it would be 'his' afterwards so yeah, again, hard pass

MeasurementNovel8907 − It's not your PS5. You're a minor. It's your mother's PS5, and she isn't obligated to provide it to your stepsiblings.. Thus, case closed, you are NTA

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SockMaster9273 − NTA. Mom bought the PS5. It stays at her house. Also, you weren't flaunting. You kept it hidden from them. You never told them. That is the opposite of flaunting.. Final thought on the subject, My brother has a PS5. It's not the most portable devise out there.

MorticianMolly − Don’t be bringing your good clothes, shoes, or other favourite belongings over either, they’ll soon become communal property. Nothing wrong with hand me downs to the younger kids but that shouldn‘t be expected either.

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Tricky-Progress3951 − And, why is your dad going through your phone at 15? Just a little weird.

Maleficent-Wave8246 − NTA.. You don’t have to like your stepsiblings. Has nothing to do with you.

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These bold takes pack a punch, but do they miss nuances? Is the dad misguided, or the teen selfish?

This PS5 saga lays bare the messy clash of fairness and autonomy in a blended family. The teen’s stand to keep his console at his mom’s, against his dad’s demands, sparks a debate about privacy, parenting, and personal gifts. What would you do if a parent tried to communalize your prized possession? Share your stories in the comments—let’s unpack this blended-family joystick jam!

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