AITA for farting everytime my wife barges into the bathroom?

In a cozy suburban home, where love and laughter usually reign, a peculiar battle brews behind the bathroom door. Picture this: a man, seeking solace with his phone during a private moment, only to be startled by his wife’s sudden entrance—like a detective sniffing out a mystery. For six years, this couple has shared everything, but the husband’s plea for bathroom privacy falls on deaf ears, sparking a hilariously gassy retaliation that’s left their marriage in a bit of a stink.

This quirky tale of boundaries and bodily functions has Reddit buzzing, as readers weigh in on whether the husband’s flatulent protest is genius or juvenile. It’s a story that tickles the funny bone while poking at deeper questions about respect and personal space in relationships, inviting us to chuckle and reflect on where we draw our own lines.

‘AITA for farting everytime my wife barges into the bathroom?’

My wife and I have been married for 6 years, like any married couple, we share everything, EVERYTHING. however, me being naturally a private person I just don't like it when someone invades my private space..the bathroom for instance. Let me just say that I take my time when answering nature's call. I just go in with my phone and do my thing.

Recently, my wife started barging in randomly for no good reason. It freaks me out and also makes me feel stressed and anxious because my private space is constantly invaded. I don't get why she does.she'd barge in whenever I'm in there, tajes a look around for a whole minute then slowly walks out.

I told her how I felt about this and she brushed me off saying 'you have nothing to hide, why are you so worried about me walking in randomly?'. I've had enough and decided I needed a way to kerp her out since she has taken off the lock. One thing my wife hates about me is my farting, she absolutely hates the smell,

and says it's disgusting so what I started doing is that everytime I'm in the bathroom and she barges in, I fart...like really loudly and produce a really (according to her) n**ty smell. It worked because once she hears the sound she runs out. I thought this was the solution but she picked up on what I was doing and discovered that I was doing it on purpose to keep her out.

She started arguing with me about it almost saying I'm banned from farting in the bathroom which is ridiculooous. I kept doing it which kept pissing her off, now she isn't even talking to me saying I'm being a child and an a**hole for this behavior.. AITA?

This bathroom saga might sound like a sitcom plot, but it highlights a real issue: boundaries in marriage. As Dr. John Gottman, a renowned relationship expert, notes in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, “Respecting each partner’s need for autonomy is crucial for a healthy relationship” . The husband’s anxiety over his wife’s intrusions suggests a breach of this respect, while her dismissal of his concerns raises red flags about communication.

The wife’s lock removal and aimless inspections hint at control or mistrust, perhaps rooted in unspoken insecurities. According to a 2023 study from the Journal of Family Psychology, 62% of couples report boundary violations as a top source of conflict . Her behavior, while not violent, leans toward overstepping, which can erode trust over time.

Dr. Gottman advises couples to “turn toward each other” by validating feelings, even in disagreements. The husband’s farting tactic, while creative, escalates rather than resolves the tension. A better approach? A calm, firm discussion about reinstating the lock and addressing her motives. Both should explore why she feels compelled to intrude—perhaps she’s seeking connection or reassurance—and find healthier ways to meet those needs.

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For now, the couple could benefit from setting clear boundaries, like designated “alone time” spaces, and rebuilding trust through open dialogue. This story reminds us that even in love, a little privacy goes a long way—and humor, while helpful, can’t replace honest conversation.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit didn’t hold back on this one, serving up a mix of laughter and sage advice hotter than a chili-fueled toot. Here’s what the crowd had to say:

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allmenmustdrinktea − NTA. Why has she taken off the lock?! Married or not, you're entitled to your privacy when you are in the bathroom and you shouldn't have to justify that to anyone. It is not okay for her to feel that level of entitlement. She is your wife, not your owner.

Bit_hPuddin − I discussed this with my husband. We decided what is good for the gander-is good for the goose. When your wife attends to “personal grooming”, go sit in there and have a chat. There is no privacy- *right*? There is no *lock on the DOOR*, so what is she even *doing* in there? You need to see. You need to look around.

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You need to let her see just how annoying it *is* to not be able to have some private time in the bathroom. You don’t have to do it every time or stay long. The very *idea* that you *might* waltz in *at any time* should be sufficient to make your point. Your point that you alll are entitled to a little alone time and *you don’t have to share everything,*. But my husband suggested you pull up a chair and bring popcorn. NTA

No-Jellyfish-1208 − NTA. Come on, everyone deserves privacy in the bathroom! The only acceptable reason to barge in when someone is inside would be if you heard thump, called someone's name and heard no answer - then you rush to see if they're okay and not unconscious in the shower with their head split. Come on!

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LuvMeLongThyme − I don’t know what “taking your time” actually means, I have heard of men camping out on the toilet for *hours*, even… but if you are only taking even… fifteen or twenty minutes? and there is *another*? Bathroom she could use? OP, Fart away.

Fart like there is no tomorrow. NTA Everybody should be able to take a few minutes and have some peace and quiet. But if you are hogging the only toilet in your residence, you need to find yourself somewhere else to chill.

SpaTowner − INFO: You can fart at will?

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rphgal − It sounds to me like she is suspicious of you for some reason and wants to keep an eye on you even in the bathroom. But it’s not right! She removed the lock? You aren’t a child. This is some manipulative and toxic behavior.

Super-Emu-4064 − Info: how long are you spending on the toilet? I mean, I’m 90% sure you’re not the a**hole but if you’re spending half an hour at a time in there and she’s using barging in as a way to get you moving then it’s more everyone sucks I suppose

charlieprotag − INFO: Do you have children and disappear into the bathroom when she needs you to be caring for them? Do you do this when there are chores to be done, or right when the groceries get home?. Is there another bathroom she can use?. It sounds like there’s something missing here.

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ThrowawayforMILBS − NTA. lol. dude im not allowed to interrupt my wife when shes pooping. im not allowed to ask her if she *might* be pooping, or say the word pooping while she is clearly pooping.. And you know what? Thats never bothered me. Cause why would i need to be a part of that.

yiiikes00 − Nta. She’s showing some major signs of being a perpetrator of domestic violence, which is about a perpetrator’s unhealthy need for power and control. The fact that she took off the lock from the bathroom is appalling,

let alone the fact that she barges in. I’d have a conversation about this being non-negotiable and leaving if she won’t abide. The fact that you feel anxious is a major sign that this is something more.. Edit: typo

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These Redditors rallied behind the husband’s right to privacy, with some suggesting cheeky counter-tactics and others sniffing out deeper issues in the wife’s behavior. But do these fiery takes capture the full picture, or are they just adding fuel to the stink?

This tale of farts and feelings leaves us giggling but pondering: where do we draw the line between closeness and personal space? The husband’s gassy protest may have cleared the room, but it’s the couple’s lack of communication that truly clouds the air. By addressing boundaries with empathy, they can turn this stinky situation into a chance for growth. What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Share your thoughts below!

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