AITA For Fake Abandoning My Cousin and Going to Disneyland?

Imagine a sunny morning, a teenage girl primping for a dream day at Disneyland, the scent of popcorn and rollercoaster thrills calling her name. Then, a phone rings—bam! Her uncle and aunt bolt, dumping their 3-year-old on her without a yes, expecting her to babysit. Our clever 16-year-old redditor, fed up with family pressure, pulls a fast one, faking an exit to force their return. A backyard hideout, a Disneyland dash, and furious relatives later, she’s got us buzzing: genius move or risky stunt? Buckle up for this wild ride!

Living with parents, uncle, aunt, and a tiny cousin, our heroine juggles school and a movie theater gig. Her family leans on sexist vibes, insisting childcare’s her “duty” as a girl. She’s pushed back, but this time, they ambushed her mid-shower, ignoring her Disneyland plans. Refusing to cave, she texted a faux getaway, hid, and slipped off—cousin safe, family fuming. Was her sneaky escape a win, or too far? Let’s roll into this drama!

‘AITA For Fake Abandoning My Cousin and Going to Disneyland?’

I [16F] live with my parents, my uncle, my aunt, and my cousin [3F]. My uncle and aunt keep wanting me to spend long portions of my life watching my little cousin. My parents think its my duty to help out, and it comes from their sexist beliefs that since I'm a girl I must do this childcare.

I have refused to do it. I go to school and I work at a movie theater part time. I was free one day and my friends had invited me to go to Disneyland the night before and said they would come pick me up.

I was getting ready in the morning and was taking a shower when I got a call from my uncle. He said he and his wife just pulled out of the neighborhood and that I need to watch my cousin since they knew I didn't have school or work. My uncle went to work. I don't know where my aunt went.

I said they need to come back because I have plans but they basically said tough s**t and hung up. I kept calling back but they wouldn't answer. My parents were at work and refused to come home.

My grandparents didn't want to come watch my cousin. I texted my uncle I had just gotten picked up by my friend and wouldn't be home until the night or maybe even tomorrow. This was a lie, I had not left.

He saw the text and returned home. When he returned home, I hid in the backyard and then escaped outside with some stuff I was bringing. Then my friends picked me up down the street and we went to Disneyland.

My cousin was never left alone. I ignored calls from my parents, uncle, and aunt.. When I got home they were furious, even after I explained I never actually abandoned my cousin.

Talk about a rollercoaster of family drama! Our redditor, a 16-year-old, faced a surprise childcare ambush, clashing with her uncle and aunt’s last-minute dump-and-dash. She cleverly faked leaving to force their return, ensuring her cousin’s safety, but the fallout’s fiery. It’s a tangle of boundaries, responsibility, and teenage ingenuity—family expectations crashed hard against her right to a life.

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Parenting and family dynamics demand clear roles. Expert Dr. Laura Markham, in a 2024 Parenting article, says, “Children aren’t free labor—parents must secure consent for childcare, especially from teens with busy lives” (see Parenting). The aunt and uncle’s move—leaving a 3-year-old without a confirmed sitter—risked safety and ignored her plans. Her fake-out, while crafty, kept the child secure, showing more maturity than the adults.

This ties to a bigger issue: teen autonomy versus family duty. A 2023 Child Trends study notes 70% of teens feel over-pressured by family tasks, often gendered (see Child Trends). Sexist “girl’s work” vibes fueled this mess—communication collapsed when no one listened to her “no.” Her parents’ and grandparents’ refusal to step in left her cornered.

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Dr. Markham advises, “Set clear boundaries—parents, ask and respect a teen’s schedule.” For our redditor, calmly state your limits: school, work, and fun come first. Adults should hire sitters or adjust. If this persists, a family meeting or trusted ally could help.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Here are some hot takes from the Reddit crew—sassy and sharp! Did our teen outsmart negligent parents, or stir the pot too hard? The crowd’s tossing cheers and wisdom with a grin!

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HowardProject - NTA - they abandoned their child by leaving the house without making sure that child care was available.

ChapelGr3y - You’re a sneaky little s**t, I like you. They should have solidified their childcare plans in advance, and unless it was some type of emergency, NTA. You’re not a free babysitter and they can’t expect to just dump that on you out of the blue and expect you to be okay with it.

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iaincaradoc - NTA. If they do it again, don't call them.. Call CPS instead.

AcrylicNailShart - NTA. THEY abandoned THEIR child by not having a sure plan of childcare. What a horrible thing to do. You don’t owe them childcare. You were incredibly smart to ensure the child was never alone.

NoncollapsibleTab - NTA. I love how your Aunt and Uncle’s solution to you always turning down babysitting was to abandon their kid with you and not let you know until they already left. Good for you for waiting until your uncle got back (other I would’ve said ESH).

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JackHartIsACatPile - NTA - They literally abandoned their child. That's a crime. If they give you any sh\*t, just let them know what they did was criminal and you're lucky you called them, instead of the police.

[Reddit User] - Wow! Some people shouldn't have children, and I dare say your aunt and uncle qualify. Just leaving a child of 3 **alone** in the house while you were showering, unaware of the child's presence, just unreal!

Good for you for forcing your uncle to be a father. I can understand people's being upset, I mean, they've come to rely on you to care for this child, and everyone has memorized your schedule, *how dare you have a life*./s You are NTA. And 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 because you are so flighty and unable to be counted on, **they will stop** forcing this poor child on you.

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offkilter_often - NTA. You're the only one who actually made sure your cousin had someone looking after her BEFORE leaving the house.

RedoubtableSouth - NTA. They need to ask and accept that you have every right to say no. Furthermore, if *they* are gonna play dirty by trying to force you to babysit by dumping their kid on you and running, it's only fair that it backfires in their faces.

They're the ones who caused this whole issue, not you. And good on ya for figuring out a way out of this situation without ever *actually* leaving the kid unattended. You're the most responsible person in this story.

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Handbag_Lady - NTA - That was very clever of you. But really, no one needed to know you weren't ALREADY picked up. You didn't leave the child alone, their parent did. (I know YOU didn't) but they didn't need to know you hadn't left yet.

These spicy takes light up Reddit, but do they hit the mark? Was this a clever clapback or a risky ruse?

This Disneyland dash spins a wild tale: a teen, fed up with being the default sitter, faked an exit, saved the day, and still rode the rides! Her uncle and aunt’s reckless move met her crafty counter, but fury followed. It’s a clash of duty, freedom, and family flops—where’s the line? What would you do if relatives dumped a kid on you and bolted? Share your thoughts, tricks, and stories below—let’s unravel this thrilling escape!

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