AITA for eating too many cucumbers?

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In a serene lake house, under the soft glow of a bedside lamp, a young woman nibbled on a cucumber, seeking a quiet moment of comfort. Her quirky habit—carrying cucumbers everywhere, sometimes devouring 35 in a day—never raised eyebrows until her boyfriend’s mother caught her mid-bite.

What seemed like a harmless veggie love turned into a relationship rift, with her boyfriend labeling it “deranged.” This Reddit tale spins a delightfully odd yarn of personal quirks clashing with social norms. Let’s crunch through this cucumber caper and explore what it says about love and acceptance.

‘AITA for eating too many cucumbers?’

For as long as I can remember I’ve had this “quirk” I guess you could call that I never snack on anything other than cucumber. I shouldn’t say never technically since socially I’ll get ice cream or eat a few chips at a party, I’m not a picky eater by any means but my snack of choice has always been cucumbers.

I eat pretty healthily anyways so a lot of fruits and veggies are a part of my diet. Since veggies are lower in calories I have to eat a lot of them to eat enough, so I’ll usually have some sliced cucumber in my purse that I munch on throughout the day and I’ll always have a cucumber in my car that I just eat whole when I’m driving.

I go through several cucumber daily. Although it’s not healthy, I’ve had days where I’ve felt really depressed and o**rwhelmed and have binge eaten nothing but cucumber. I think I’ve eaten perhaps 35 on very extreme days. Recently this “quirk” has begun to drive my (22f) bf (33m) of 6 months insane (his words not mine).

He says it’s highly inappropriate to carry them everywhere with me. We spent last weekend at his parent’s lake house and I provided my own cucumber to snack on. One night before bed I was in my room knowing on a cucumber like a savage when his mother walked in. Under normal circumstances I never would eat that around others, I’d slice it up.

She was puzzled, but chucked and said “my you do like cucumber.” My boyfriend later told me that I humiliated him with my childish and immature eating habits. I told him that his mom caught me in a low moment, he was being ridiculous, since he eats a bag of chips everyday and I don’t bat an eye.

He told me that chips were a normal snack and whole cucumbers were deranged. He told me I needed to stop eating cucumbers and that my behavior was becoming a deal breaker for him. I feel really bothered, but I think cucumbers are a weird hill to die and I don’t want to lose my relationship. So AITA?

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Edit: I’d just like to add that my boyfriend has never expressed any issue with my cucumber habits before now. The incident in question was because around 8PM I was getting really hungry and I don’t know his family super well so I didn’t want to go rummaging/ask for a snack and I didn’t want to bother them by asking for a cutting board or something to cut up my cucumber because of well, mild social anxiety.

So I shut myself in the guest room and figured I’d just snack on a cucumber quick. I don’t usually go hide and eat cucumbers haha. But then his mom walked in looking for my bf presumably and was a little surprised but seemed amused and not upset or anything. I honestly didn’t think it’d turn into such a big deal for him.

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This cucumber conundrum highlights how personal habits can spark unexpected relationship tension. The woman’s veggie obsession, while quirky, is harmless, yet her boyfriend’s harsh reaction—calling it “deranged”—suggests deeper issues, possibly control or embarrassment. Her binge-eating up to 35 cucumbers on tough days raises health questions, though.

Nutritionist Dr. Lisa Young notes in The Portion Teller Plan, “Extreme food habits, even healthy ones, can signal emotional coping mechanisms.” Studies show 20% of young adults use food for stress relief, sometimes excessively. Her cucumber craze might reflect anxiety, especially given her social discomfort at the lake house.

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The boyfriend’s ultimatum oversteps; her habit isn’t harmful, unlike his daily chips. A gentle talk about boundaries and moderation—perhaps checking for nutrient deficiencies—could help. She should stand firm but consider professional advice.

Heres what people had to say to OP:

Reddit popped off like a fresh cucumber slice—imagine a virtual picnic buzzing with opinions! Most rallied behind the woman, dunking on her boyfriend’s overreaction to her veggie love.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Dump your boyfriend and enjoy your cucumbers.. (Note: I personally find cucumbers disgusting, and it would still never occur to me to care about this)

stardew618 − NTA. “I (22f) and my boyfriend (33m)” was enough for me to be on guard, and the rest of the story confirms it. It’s rich that he called you childish when he’s dating someone so young.

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WebbieVanderquack − NTA. Is it a little weird? Sure! Is it 'humiliating' or 'deranged?' No.. My boyfriend later told me that I humiliated him with my childish and immature eating habits. I'm interested in this idea that children continuously snack on cucumbers until they mature.

I have to say it's not something I've ever encountered. Edit: 35 in a day would be putting a pretty heavy burden on your colon. I would just check with your doctor if craving that much cucumber is normal or a sign of vitamin deficiency or something.

ratfight − hey cucumber connoisseur, are we talking about slicing cukes, kirby’s, gherkins, english cukes? there’s a big difference between eating 35 gherkins and 35 english cucumbers. that’s almost 41 feet of cucumber on a bad day 8-/

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DTCarter − NAH. Your boyfriend is right and this is weird but I’m hesitant to call you an a**hole because it sounds like disordered eating. If you want to compare them to your boyfriends chips, how does the sentence “I ate 35 bags of chips on extreme days” sound to you?

raindancemaggieee − Tbh it sounds like some kind of eating disorder. Eating 35 cucumbers in a single day is extreme and weird. And I'd say that about any snack. You say you keep them in your purse, in your car etc that's a addiction

giovannisguillotine − NAH Your boyfriend is right that this behavior sounds extreme. 35 cucumbers in a day also sounds almost unbelievable. Especially if it’s the normal-sized ones I’m thinking of. Snacking on whole cucumbers is bound to be awkward when you don’t slice them so I can’t blame his mom for being a little unsettled by the sight, nor your boyfriend for being somewhat exasperated by it.

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It sounds almost like cucumbers have become a sort of coping mechanism for you and could there be some compulsive behavior involved? Obviously your boyfriend shouldn’t dictate whether you eat cucumbers or not, but might he just be worried by something that seems off to him? Do you eat normally outside your cucumber diet?

[Reddit User] − Did you eat 4 feet of the communal 6 foot cucumber?

Maeve4159 − Nta while eating whole cukes all day long is quirky, if it's a deal breaker, so be it. Kick him to the curb sister. And Try to drink more water. You might be craving IT, since cukes are mostly water

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senesor − I still think about this post sometimes.

But do these Reddit takes cut to the core, or are they just tossing salad for drama?

This cucumber clash serves up a quirky tale of personal freedom versus relationship expectations. The woman’s veggie habit is eccentric but harmless, yet her boyfriend’s dealbreaker stance feels like a sour pickle. Love should embrace quirks, not squash them. What would you do if your partner’s odd habit sparked a fight? Share your thoughts—have you ever faced a food feud that tested your bond?

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