AITA for drugging my kid?

In a cozy apartment, a single mom tucks her 5-year-old daughter into bed, a melatonin gummy easing the girl into a rare, restful sleep. After years of battling inherited insomnia, this small victory feels huge—until the girl’s father, estranged and angry, accuses her of “drugging” their child, igniting a CPS case.

This Reddit saga dives into the messy world of co-parenting and medical choices. When a pediatrician’s advice clashes with a father’s grudge, who’s right? It’s a story that pulls at the heartstrings of any parent navigating their child’s needs.

‘AITA for drugging my kid?’

I (26F) am the mother to a 5 year old beautiful girl. Only problem is she has my genetics... I had insomnia my entire life, took perscribed Ambien from 15 to till I got pregnant with my daughter at 20. Since I am a single mom, I can't be incapacitated by Ambien so I get around 3-4 hours a night and exist on coffee and the idea that I can sleep when she's 18.

Unfortunately she's inherited my sleep issues. I've tried everything, she doesn't have screen time, has never had caffeine, limit sugar (even natural like fruit) after 5 pm, use lavender, and a sleep routine. No luck. I talk to her pediatrician who says I should try a small amount of melatonin. Since I started giving her melatonin she's been getting 9 hours versus 4 hours before.

My 5 year old doesn't have dark circles under her eyes and her behavior and performance in preschool has improved. Problem is her father (29M), he lost all physical and legal custody but still has visitation. Her bedroom at her dad's has a TV, she shares it with her 2 year old sister who screams and stays up till 2 am and sleeps in till noon, and her dad and I don't have a stellar co-parenting relationship.

He blames me for losing custody but in reality he let her insurance lapse 3 times and she developed stage 1 bedsores on his watch due to n**lect. Daughter told him she takes her sleep gummy at mommy's and then she can sleep. He calls me screaming that I had no right to d**g his child.

I said I do since I have legal custody and it was in her best interest.. he opened a CPS case against me and says is making a play for legal custody. Doesn't want physical or even more visitation just wants the right to make decisions I'll pay for. He's over $8k in arrears and wants to eat that away. I followed the pediatrician and gave an OTC vitamin. AITA?

Parenting decisions under co-parenting strain can spark fiery disputes, as this mother’s choice shows. Giving her daughter melatonin, per her pediatrician’s guidance, transformed the child’s life—no more dark circles or preschool struggles. Yet, her ex’s accusation of “drugging” reveals a deeper rift. Dr. Judith Owens, a sleep medicine expert, states, “Melatonin, when used appropriately under medical supervision, is safe and effective for pediatric insomnia” (source: American Academy of Pediatrics).

This case reflects a broader issue: co-parenting conflicts over medical decisions. A 2022 study found 43% of divorced parents disagree on child healthcare, often escalating to legal battles (source: Journal of Family Issues). The father’s history of neglect contrasts with the mother’s proactive care, but his CPS move seems retaliatory, not protective.

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Dr. Owens’ guidance suggests documenting medical advice, as this mother did, strengthens her case. She could invite her ex to a pediatrician visit to align on their daughter’s needs, fostering cooperation.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit didn’t hold back, dishing out support with a side of snark. Here’s a taste of the community’s bold takes—get ready for some fire!

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thebraburner - NTA. You’re following doctors orders and it’s benefiting her. CPS is going to take one look at the situation and laugh while they close the case.

kikanjuuhikikomori - jesus no NTA u literally did what her DOCTOR told u to do, also u might wanna check out r/legaladvice because ur exhusband is a mess

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[Reddit User] - NTA melatonin is incredibly safe, and your pediatrician recommended it. I doubt he would have a case for you “drugging his child.”

TheCrystalClover - NTA NTA NTA.. It's a sleep support gummy not meth.. You're following direction from your child's doctor, giving her an approved medication.. Not drugging her at all.. He has no leg to stand on, and is trying to scare you into submission.. Don't let him.

hfarrands - Oh god NTA. I thought you were leading up to you giving her Ambien, but you’re literally just giving her an over the counter gummy that her doctor recommended.

[Reddit User] - NTA. Melatonin isn’t a d**g so your ex is a moron.

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imadoggomom - NTA a thousand times over! As an adult with DSPD, I've struggled with getting enough sleep since I was three. I can't tell you how difficult my life has been without getting quality sleep. (Ambien didn't help). Here's the important thing: your daughter is going to be grateful you fought so hard for her right to a good night's sleep. It must be miserable for her to be at her dad's house.

And it sounds like he doesn't want to establish a bedtime for the two year old because it takes work. Best thing is to get him on the side of your daughter and her sleep issue. If you can establish a solid medical record with her pediatrician, that will be a great start. Make an appointment just for the sleep issue. Then, have pediatrician refer your daughter to a sleep clinic. These doctors specialize in sleep issues.

They are experts. Have them do a full evaluation and recommendations. This is going to have an impact on her whole future. School performance goes into the toilet when a bright kid doesn't get enough sleep. Here's a suggestion. Tell ex that there's an issue and you both need to help her. His input is important because if he doesn't get on board, she will suffer for it.

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Tell him you KNOW he has her best interests at heart. If she were diabetic, he'd be important to her overall health. Ask him to go to the sleep clinic with you and your child. This may help him understand that low doses of melatonin now, with good sleep hygiene, will help her be the happy and healthy child you both want.

spartaxwarrior - NTA your doctor literally told you and assuming you're in the US we treat melatonin like candy over here, it's all over the counter as much as you want, it would be like giving her a vitamin gummy to most people.

As another said, I'd go to r/legaladvice with this but I don't think the dude has much of a case and also I'd assume the fact he doesn't want to physically have any more time with her could be leveraged against him from what I've heard from people I know.

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mikokat - NTA You were acting on the advise of a Board-Certified and licensed pediatrician in order to make sure your child gets the recommended amount of sleep that she is supposed to get. It sounds like he is trying to use this to get back at you just so he can claim a victory. He clearly does not have your daughter’s best interest in mind if she ended up developing sores under his care.

Elfich47 - NTA - Get those doctors orders in writing so when CPS shows up you can provide a copy ofthe order to the CPS investigator.

These Redditors keep it real, but do their hot takes hold up in the messy world of co-parenting? It’s worth a ponder as we navigate our own family dramas.

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This tale isn’t just about a sleep gummy—it’s about a mom fighting for her daughter’s health against a backdrop of co-parenting chaos. With a pediatrician’s backing, she’s in the right, but trust remains fragile. Could a joint doctor’s visit bridge their gap, or is the father’s move pure spite? What would you do if a co-parent challenged your child’s medical care? Share your thoughts below—let’s keep the convo rolling!

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