AITA for demanding my friend pay to clean my house?

A cozy winter evening took a turn for the bizarre when a friend’s visit left a Reddit user’s living room steeped in an unthinkable mess. Picture this: a warm living room, a humidifier humming softly, and the faint glow of Disney+ casting shadows. What started as a friendly chat about spring gardening spiraled into a moment of sheer horror when an 11-year-old’s shocking act came to light. The discovery? A humidifier filled not with water, but urine, leaving the host reeling and the room tainted.

The Reddit user, grappling with disgust, faced a dilemma that sparked heated debate online. Should a friend bear the cost of cleaning up her child’s mess, or is it just an innocent kid’s prank gone awry? This sticky situation dives into boundaries, parenting, and the unspoken rules of guest etiquette, pulling readers into a tale that’s equal parts cringe and compelling.

‘AITA for demanding my friend pay to clean my house?’

It’s winter and so we have a humidifier going in the living room. I had a friend with her 11 year old over. He wanted to watch a movie so I put on Disney+ and his mom and I went to talk in the kitchen. We ended up stepping outside so I could show her what my plans were for our garden this spring. She’s really into homesteading and had great advice.

When we were done, we went back in the house and eventually went back to the living room. It smelled really weird in there and I have a very sensitive nose. It kind of smelled like pee so I wondered if my cats peed in there but they were all in hiding because we had people over.

It really bothered me and I kept investigating before I realized the blue water holder of the humidifier was green…. I pulled it out and it smelled like pee. I was talking out loud while doing all of this and her son was basically like “yeah I peed in that. I think it’s really cool how it makes my pee just disappear!”To which I immediately wanted to vomit and burn my entire house down.

I was stunned and so disgusted and the mom was like shocked. She excused herself and her kid and left. It turns out he has a humidifier in his room to help with his chapped lips/dry nose and he’s being doing that in his room for months. I threw my humidifier away and realized I never wanted to go into my living room again because there is p**s mist all over the room.

The mom asked if there was anything she could do to make it up to me and offered to buy me a new humidifier but I said I’m fine with just never owning another humidifier, but I would really appreciate if she would split with me or pay the cost to have my living room professionally cleaned.

I want the carpet, sofa, and drapes steam cleaned, the walls cleaned, and every nook and cranny cleaned. The idea of even walking into my living room makes my skin crawl. She said that was too much and she can just buy me a new humidifier. She didn’t plan on doing any cleaning to her sons room. She kind of sees it as a nonissue.

I’m so disgusted but I feel like she should at least split the cost of the professional cleaning. She’s refusing and calling me the AH for trying to take advantage of the situation to get my living room cleaned. We’re kind of in a stand off and I’m wondering if I’m being an Ah? Is this really asking for too much?

This messy mishap is more than a quirky anecdote—it’s a clash of boundaries and accountability. According to Dr. Carla Marie Manly, a clinical psychologist specializing in relationships, “When a guest’s actions disrupt a host’s space, it’s reasonable to expect accountability, especially when the impact is significant.” Here, the OP’s discomfort stems from a violation of their home’s sanctity, amplified by the friend’s dismissal.

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The friend’s refusal to split cleaning costs highlights differing views on parenting. While the OP sees the act as unacceptable, the mother downplays it, perhaps viewing it as a childish quirk. This reflects a broader issue: inconsistent discipline. A 2023 study from the American Psychological Association notes that clear boundaries reduce behavioral issues in children by 30%. The son’s habit of urinating in humidifiers suggests a lack of such boundaries.

Dr. Manly advises, “Restorative actions, like contributing to cleanup, foster mutual respect.” The OP’s request for shared cleaning costs is fair, balancing friendship with accountability. For resolution, both parties could negotiate a partial contribution, ensuring the friendship endures while addressing the mess. Open dialogue, rooted in respect, can turn this cringe-worthy moment into a learning opportunity.

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Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a mix of outrage and humor hotter than a steam-cleaned carpet. Here’s what they had to say, raw and unfiltered:

imjusthereforaita − NTA. Splitting the cleaning cost (assuming it wouldn’t cost this friend more than 1-2 hundred $) seems pretty reasonable to me, especially when you’re not asking for the humidifier to be replaced.

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MyDearDoctor − NTA. I would be freaking out, too! She and her son can keep on breathing in his vaporized p**s if she wants, but it's ridiculous to expect you to do the same, let alone in your own home. I think asking her to split the cost of a professional cleaning is perfectly reasonable.

DarkestFate − NTA and what type of degenerate allows their kid to p**s in anyplace other than an actual toilet when one is available. That is so disgusting! It’s more than fair you offered to split the cleaning bill 50/50 when it is absolutely not your fault in the first place.

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pudge_d_fish − NTA, if she can’t help pay to have it professionally cleaned she can come clean it herself. And replace the humidifier. Her *11* year old essentially pissed all over your living room.

NeedaColdDrink − NTA. I am really struggling with the fact her child is ELEVEN and thinks it’s ok to pee in the humidifier??!?! Blech. I absolutely think she should split the cost and I would never go to her house.

laursieb − P**s mist is perhaps the best thing I've heard all week. Thank you for the laugh. Your situation sucks, and frankly its unsanitary. NTA, but maybe have her contribute what she can afford to the cost but kids do things like this, it was innocent and not worth losing a friendship over.

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OppositeStrawberry36 − NTA at all. Please please please tell me you got the age wrong!! 11 is way to old to pull stuff like that.

cheframsay666420 − NTA. Never that little monster back in your home and if she doesn’t want to pay for the damages then cut her completely out of your life

laughingsbetter − NTA - that 'friend' is teaching her kid warped values.

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Reasonable-Bear-1374 − Info needed, I have no idea how much it costs to professionally clean your living room in the manner you're describing. Is it much more than a new humidifier?

These Redditors rallied behind the OP, decrying the friend’s refusal to act. Some called the son’s behavior downright feral, while others chuckled at the “p**s mist” saga. But do these fiery takes capture the full story, or are they just stoking the drama?

This humidifier horror show leaves us pondering where to draw the line between kid chaos and parental duty. The OP’s stand for a clean home resonates with anyone who’s hosted an unexpected mess. Yet, the friend’s resistance sparks questions about fairness and forgiveness. A professional cleaning might restore the room, but can it salvage the friendship? Share your thoughts: What would you do if you found yourself in this urine-misted mess?

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