AITA for deleting my cousins precious wedding photos?

A 17-year-old stood in a bustling bridal suite, camera in hand, capturing his cousin Sarah’s wedding with earnest dedication. For just $50, he snapped every moment—from the heirloom necklace ceremony to the reception’s final dance enduring a bridezilla’s demands and a chaotic day. His effort promised cherished memories, but Sarah’s disregard turned his hard work into a source of frustration, setting the stage for a family clash.

Six months of unanswered texts and a lowball $10 offer pushed the young photographer to his limit. What began as a generous family favor ended with deleted photos and accusations of greed, leaving relatives divided. This Reddit saga, woven with loyalty and betrayal, pulls readers into a drama where respect and expectations collide, making it impossible not to pick a side.

‘AITA for deleting my cousins precious wedding photos?’

I (17M) agreed to take wedding photos for my cousin Sarah's (26F) wedding. She wanted me to take photos of her getting ready, our grandmother putting a family heirloom necklace on her, the first look, the wedding, the reception, etc.

There was also another photographer (a friend of the groom) who was taking photos of the groom and his side getting ready, and he was also taking photos at the wedding/reception. Since I wasn't a professional photographer by any means I told her I would only charge $50 for the entire day.

And when I say entire day, I mean it. From 8am until 10pm I was with her taking photos and basically being harassed by her, her bridesmaids and my aunt. She was a full on bridezilla the entire time, not just to me but basically everyone including her husband. It was a long day to say the least.

So after all of that I went home, edited the photos, and copied them onto individual USB drives for people she might want to give them to. I texted Sarah a couple of days later to let her know they were ready and that I would happily meet up with her to exchange them for the $50. She never responded.

For the next three weeks I texted, called, got in touch with her mother (my aunt), and even stopped by her house to try and get the photos to her. She evaded every single attempt. 6 months passed since the wedding and I was at the movies with my other cousin (19M), who was Sarah's younger bother, and a couple of our friends.

He tells me, 'By the way, Sarah was wondering when you were going to give her the photos. She said she would pay you the $10 if that's the only reason you're talking so long.' I was livid. First, it was $50. Second, that was the deal from the start!

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I told my cousin this and said to tell Sarah if she wanted them she needed to contact me within 2 days so we could meet up, with the payment, or I was going to delete them. This might come as a shock considering the title of this, but she never contacted me.

The 2 days passed, I deleted the photos and erased the USB drives. Less than a week went by before my aunt called me in a fit because I 'threatened' my cousin into paying me when she 'didn't have the money'.

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I told my aunt that she has had a little over 6 months to pull together $50 (which she knew was the agreed upon amount), that she refused to respond to me no matter what I tried, and that it was too late now because the photos were gone.

My aunt, uncle and a few other relatives have been refusing to talk to me or my parents because I deleted, 'precious photos that can never be taken again, all because of greed' (literal quote). My mom thinks I should apologize and am just being stubborn.

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However, my older brother thinks I held onto the photos longer than I should have, and that I should have deleted them after the first week of trying to get into contact with her and being dodged/ignored.. So, AITA for deleting my cousins wedding photos?

This wedding photo fiasco paints a vivid picture of family expectations gone awry. The 17-year-old photographer faced a bridezilla’s demands and a cousin’s disregard, culminating in a drastic act of deleting the photos. His frustration is palpable—six months of being ignored would test anyone. Sarah’s offer of $10 instead of the agreed $50 suggests an entitlement that undervalues family labor, a common trigger for conflict.

Dr. John Gottman, a leading relationship expert, notes, “Unresolved conflicts often stem from unmet expectations and poor communication” . Here, the lack of clear terms upfront let resentment fester. Sarah likely assumed her cousin’s youth meant free or cheap work, while he expected basic respect and payment. This misalignment fueled the fallout.

The broader issue is family members exploiting relatives’ skills, assuming favors come without cost. A 2020 American Psychological Association study found 60% of familial disputes involve unmet financial or service expectations . Sarah’s delay and lowball offer reflect this, clashing with the photographer’s need for acknowledgment. Deleting the photos, though, was a step too far, burning a bridge where patience might’ve preserved family ties.

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To avoid such drama, clear agreements—written, if possible—are key. The photographer could’ve stored the photos indefinitely while refusing future favors until paid. Sarah should’ve honored the deal promptly. For readers facing similar issues, set boundaries early and communicate openly to prevent misunderstandings. This tale underscores the cost of assumptions in family dynamics.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Reddit’s verdict leans heavily toward the photographer, with users stunned by Sarah’s audacity to dodge payment for six months. They see her $10 offer as a slap in the face for his hard work, with most calling her entitled and dismissive, arguing the photos couldn’t have been “precious” if she ignored them so long.

A few voices suggest he shouldn’t have deleted the photos, proposing he could’ve held firm without erasing memories. Overall, the community’s hot takes paint a picture of sympathy for the teen and scorn for the bridezilla’s antics.

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barugosamaa − She had a whole wedding, and then couldnt get 50 bucks for the photos? iin 6 months?. NTA.

Yikes44 − NTA. I don't see how you could have tried any harder than you did. She obviously didn't care about seeing the photos if she'd been ignoring you for six months.

Churchie-Baby − NTA I couldn't imagine asking a family member to do all that then not to pay them not to reply to them then lie to other family members about what was promised she realises an actual photographer for the full day charges around 2k?

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joe_eddie_13 − I'm going against the grain, ESH. You should not have erased the usb drives. Certainly you could delete the photos on the camera. You should have simply told EVERYONE, I have the photos, for $50 they are yours. Your cousin is definitely an inconsiderate ahole.

Trevena_Ice − NTA. The photos couldn'T be that precious if the bride wasn't able to get n contact with you for half a year. Especiall after you tried to get in contact.

SmutnySmalec − NTA, also, professional photographers sometimes take more than 6 months to deliver all wedding photos, so the slow argument is bs. 50$ is like free photos.

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Deliciousloo − “I needed the usb for school”

justsimona − I was ready to say y.t.a by the title but holy s**t. Your cousin is embarrassing to say the least. You were MORE than generous considering the effort you put into it and how little you were getting paid. If you can’t pay for a service, then don’t ask for it. They’re not entitled to free labor. Hard NTA and next time get paid upfront!

Neither_Ask_2374 − Nta. If she didn’t want to look at or post photos for half a year then they weren’t very precious to her. I’m sure that wedding wasn’t cheap. Someone between her and her husband and their parents couldn’t pay you the measly $50? She was grossly underpaying you and didn’t even pay you that. I’m glad you deleted them. Shows her right for acting like a spoiled brat.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. your mom is right tho “precious photos than can never be taken again, all because of greed” yeah greed of the bridezilla!!

This story of deleted photos and family fallout leaves us reflecting on respect, boundaries, and the price of assumptions. The young photographer’s bold move ignited a debate about standing up for oneself versus preserving family harmony. Share your thoughts: how would you handle a relative’s disregard for your work? Drop your perspective below and let’s unpack this drama together!

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