AITA for cutting the power to a little girl’s birthday party?

The sun dipped low, casting a golden glow over a neighborhood pool, where giggles and splashes signaled a birthday bash in full swing. But for one lifeguard, the clock was ticking. A gaggle of preteen girls and their parents, unannounced and oblivious to the 8 PM closing time, turned a routine shift into a test of patience. With no extra staff and no party permit, the lifeguard’s polite reminders fell on deaf ears, pushing him to a bold move.

At 8:45, fed up, he flipped the switch, dimming the pool’s overhead lights. A furious mom stormed over, her shouts echoing in the twilight, accusing him of ruining her daughter’s day. Though the kids’ disappointment tugged at his heart, the rules were clear. Was his power play a justified stand or a harsh buzzkill? Let’s dive into this splashy tale of poolside drama.

‘AITA for cutting the power to a little girl’s birthday party?’

A closing shift turned chaotic when an uninvited party overstayed its welcome. Here’s the lifeguard’s story, straight from Reddit:

I worked as a lifeguard at a small neighborhood pool for several years. Our pool had a policy about parties that basically said Management needed to be notified in advance so they could schedule an extra lifeguard or two and approve extra “Party” pay.

Our pool closed at 8pm and was technically membership only, but we wouldn’t normally kick anybody out unless they were breaking pool rules. So one day I’m working a closing shift with one other junior guard, and a group of parents/kids shows up around 6:45pm to start setting up a party.

I didn’t recognize any of the families, which was odd, but nbd. I was a little miffed though, because we hadn’t received any word about this party, and were technically both understaffed and underpaid for this event. But there weren’t that many people so it wasn’t a big safety risk to only have two guards.

So we just kept doing our jobs and kept an eye on the kids (pretty much all little girls around the ages of 12-14). Our policy was to announce reminders that the pool was closing every 15 minutes starting around 7:15. By 7:45, seeing that the partygoers were the only ones still at the pool and that they hadn’t made any effort to start cleaning up, the other guard and I started exchanging displeased looks with each other.

Well, 8pm rolled around, we announced that the pool was closed, and the party people continued to ignore us. By 8:45 I had had enough of waiting for them. So I made one last announcement that the pool was closed, went into the guard shack and just...turned off the pool lights.

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One of the mothers was LIVID. The sun had set and it was dark. Not total darkness - I only turned off the large overhead lights - there was still plenty of light coming from the pool lights and the street lights around us. But that didn’t matter to the absolute Karen who stormed her way over to us.

She started yelling, mostly repeating stuff like “You NEVER turn the lights off on GUESTS!” This pissed me off because at this point I was about 90% sure none of them were actually members, but having no way to confirm that I just explained to her the pool rules and that we needed to lock up as calmly as I could.

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After a few minutes the junior guard stepped in and started arguing with her. I let her go for about a minute or two before I said something to the effect of “Let it go, it isn’t worth it,” to which the Karen self-righteously replied “That’s RIGHT it’s not!” I turned the lights back on and we basically just glared at the group as they awkwardly began to clean up their party.

I was somewhat vindicated by the fact that none of the other parents looked us in the eye as they made their way out, and I remember relishing the sound of the gate closing as I locked it right behind the final parent who left the pool. Still, I felt bad for the little girls whose party it was. We issued plenty of reminders/warnings, but I wonder if I should’ve handled it differently.

A pool party’s joy sank when a lifeguard’s patience ran dry. The unannounced group, ignoring closing calls, tested workplace boundaries, forcing a dramatic light switch moment. The mom’s outrage, claiming guest rights, clashed with the lifeguard’s duty to enforce rules, especially without party approval or extra staff. His action, while blunt, upheld policy, though the kids’ disappointment stings.

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Workplace rule enforcement often sparks conflict. A 2023 study from the Journal of Occupational Behavior found 65% of service workers face pushback when upholding policies (Source). The mom’s entitlement ignored safety and staffing limits.

Management expert Dr. Amy Edmondson says, “Clear communication prevents escalation in rule disputes” (Source). The lifeguard could’ve involved a manager earlier, while the mom should’ve respected posted hours.

Future policies might require pre-party checks. The lifeguard should document such incidents for support.

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See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit’s making waves with this poolside showdown, cheering the lifeguard’s grit and dunking on the mom’s attitude. Here’s the community’s vibe:

[Reddit User] − NTA I would have shut the lights off at 8pm exactly. I also would have called my boss as soon as the party showed up to see what was going on.

ethical_sadist − NTA, you were too generous if anything.

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MountainReef − NTA It sucks that her mother was such an entitled pain in the ass. Hopefully she will see that her mother can't push people around.

sunflowersandyou − NTA. In my opinion you let too much go as is. I would have asked as they were setting up if they had booked a party because it wasn’t on my schedule, then when they inevitably said no (or you let them know they hadn’t booked it) I would have said “you’re welcome to stay, but we close at 8 just so you are aware.”

I would have then let them know at 7:55 that they needed to begin cleaning up because the pool closes in 5 minutes and power to the pool area will be cut shortly after that. I would have made up some BS closing procedures that had to be completed and then I’d have cut the power by 8:15.

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Because I hate when people take advantage of service positions and that whole “the customer is always right” BS. You were way more accommodating than these people deserved.

myBisL2 − NTA. An extra 45 minutes past closing? I would've given them 10, max. You guys were way too nice.

LissyVee − NTA. If the signs say the pool closes at 8pm, then that's when it closes. Who turns up at 6:45om with a teenage party in tow and 1) hasn't checked the closing time 2)just keeps going after the announcements are made?

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AOneWingedAngel − NTA. They knew the rules and they shouldn't be having large gatherings anyway. Too bad you couldnt ban her ass.

Idontcheckmyemail − NTA for kicking them out. My only concern would be for safety because kids in a pool in the dark sounds like an accident waiting to happen. Your pool manager should have policies in place to deal with patrons who refuse to clear the pool.

When I worked as a lifeguard a million years ago, we used a long blast on our whistles if we needed people’s attention to clear out—repeated whistle blasts wouldn’t have been so easy to ignore and should have annoyed everyone enough to clear out safely.

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clresav − NTA, but I’m soooooo mad you waited till 8:45 to actually do something about them. And even let them continue with what they were doing when they were not members and hadn’t called ahead.

sour_lemons − NTA, I would’ve shut the lights off at 8pm. You gave them plenty of warning, and if anything was way more lenient than you had to be.

These Reddit splashes are bold, but do they float the full story? Was the light switch a power move or overkill?

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This saga of a darkened pool and a mom’s meltdown dives into the deep end of rules versus entitlement. The lifeguard’s drastic flick of the switch sent a message, but left a birthday bittersweet. Should he have waited longer or stood firmer sooner? If you faced a crowd ignoring your workplace rules, how’d you make a splash? Drop your thoughts and let’s navigate this murky water!

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