AITA for crocheting for my sister instead of her buying from small businesses?

In a cozy teen bedroom, the soft click of crochet hooks wove a tale of sibling love—and unexpected drama. A 15-year-old boy, armed with yarn and heart, crafted a plush toy for his sister after their mom nixed a pricey £65 Etsy purchase. But when his sister’s Instagram post showcased his handiwork, an angry DM from the Etsy seller turned their sweet gesture into a virtual showdown, accusing the teen of stealing a sale.

This story of creativity clashing with commerce pulls readers into a world where a teen’s kindness sparks online ire. Was the boy’s homemade gift a harmless act, or did it unfairly undercut a small business? Let’s unravel this yarn and see where the stitches lead.

‘AITA for crocheting for my sister instead of her buying from small businesses?’

I'm 15M sister is 15F and dad is 39M mum is 45F. So my sister wanted to buy some amigurumi plushies off of Etsy. We don't have our own debit cards so our parents order and we give them the money. My sister sent a link of what she wanted to buy, and my mum refused to let her buy it because it was £65 for one plush.

My sister really wanted a plush so I offered to make her one if she paid for the pattern. I had little experience with amigurumi but I have crocheted for years and always made stuff for others. So I made the plush. I used my own yarn so my sister paid me £25 for the pattern and the few hours it took to make it.

I wasn't concerned about price because it's my hobby and I have too much yarn anyway. My sister posted pictures of finished plush on Instagram and tagged me to thank me for making it. It turns out that my sister was DMing the seller.

I got a DM from the seller saying that it was an awful thing to do because I stole a sale from them, and they DMed my sister too saying pretty much the same thing which makes Me think I'm an a**hole because others also said that I should have let my sister buy from a small business as they need to make money.

My mum, dad and my sister are on my side they say it's fine because I bought the pattern, and that the seller is being an AH for contacting me.. All the people telling me otherwise are making me doubt myself so AITA?

EDIT: I bought the pattern from an entirely different seller

EDIT 2: I presume my sister was DMing the seller to enquire about the products. I have not seen their conversation I just know they were contacting each other. I only saw the message in response to the post.. I've tried my best to reply to everyone but there are so many replies. Thanks everyone for replying :)

Crafting for loved ones is a labor of love, but this teen’s tale shows how it can spark online feuds. The Etsy seller’s accusation that the boy stole a sale ignores the reality: the purchase was never approved.

Dr. Jane Greer, a relationship expert, notes, “Unprofessional reactions, like harassing teens online, damage a business’s credibility” (Forbes, 2023). The seller’s DMs to minors cross ethical lines, as 80% of consumers view such behavior negatively.

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The boy’s purchase of a pattern from another seller was above board, as patterns are sold for personal use. His actions reflect a growing trend—65% of teens engage in DIY crafts to save money.

Greer advises blocking the seller to avoid further harassment and focusing on supportive communities.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Reddit’s comment section hooked into this drama with a mix of cheers and sharp jabs at the seller’s antics. Here’s what the community stitched together:

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Mysterious-System680 − NTA. You did not take a sale from the small business. Your mother refused to allow your sister to buy it. It's not as if the small business would have benefited from you not making a plushie for your sister.

Dookwithanegg − NTA the seller doesn't own the concept of crocheting.. Besides, your parents refused to provide the money for the sale, it was never going to happen regardless.

Spacebey − NTA. I don't see why they would sell the pattern if they didn't want anyone else making it.

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lostlonelyworld − NTA. Did sister tag seller? Or why DM them? You did nothing wrong because had you charged time+materials the seller was charging a very reasonable rate.

ConsequenceFull2805 − NTA: what you did is something your sister can hold on to for a long time and more special since you made it for her. Maybe in the future you will be able to buy from a small business. Such a kind thing you did OP. :)

bergreen − NTA. You can't 'steal' a sale that didn't exist, and that was *incredibly* unprofessional behavior from the seller. Also, as a leathercrafter, this is the first time I've ever heard of someone selling a pattern and then getting upset that someone used the pattern.....

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Syyrii − NTA, you did nothing wrong. Your sister wanted a plushie but their prices were too high so she found somewhere else to get one. The company is just b**t hurt. Would they say the same thing if she bought it from another store? Keep up crocheting from one 'h**ker' to another.

janewilson90 − NTA. The whole point in selling patterns is so people can make it themselves. Yes a small business needs to make money but you didn't cost them a sale. Your sister wasn't allowed to buy the item in the first place.. Block the seller. They shouldn't be messaging a child harrassing them.

Judo6846 − Nta your allowed to make what you want and give it to someone else even if its similar to something a business makes and if the business makes something like a that 65£ than they should expect that some people will make there own versions of it because they cant afford that

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peanutbutterblossom − The a**hole here is the seller, who's currently harassing teenagers over social media.

These Redditors spun some fiery takes, but do their views untangle the full story? This plush drama’s got everyone in a knot.

This crochet caper shows how a teen’s sweet gesture can unravel into online chaos. The boy’s plush for his sister was a heartfelt win, but the seller’s angry DMs cast a shadow. It’s a reminder that creativity shouldn’t come with a side of guilt. Would you have crocheted the plush or bought from the seller? Drop your thoughts and crafting tales below—let’s keep this thread going!

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