AITA for confronting my fiancé after I was turned away from the jewelry store for having a fake ring when trying to have it sized?

Picture a sparkling Christmas night, a woman’s heart soaring as her fiancé slides a dazzling ring from a Tiffany & Co. box onto her finger. Fast forward to a jewelry store visit, where the dream shatters: the ring’s a fake, and her fiancé’s reaction is a storm of denial and deflection. For this Reddit poster, a simple resizing errand turned into a confrontation that’s left her questioning trust. Was she wrong to call him out, or is his cagey behavior waving a red flag?

This story glitters with drama, from the allure of a blue box to the sting of deception. The fiancé’s insistence that the ring is legit—despite evidence to the contrary—has sparked a debate about honesty and love. Let’s polish this tale and see what shines through the cracks.

‘AITA for confronting my fiancé after I was turned away from the jewelry store for having a fake ring when trying to have it sized?’

My fiancé proposed on Christmas and everything was perfect. The ring was a bit too big though and I’ve just hit my goal weight (I was losing weight) so I figured I’d have it sized correctly. I’ve been holding off because I wanted to make sure I was the correct size after losing the weight.

The ring box says Tiffany and Co. and I was literally over the moon with it. I told him he shouldn’t have spent this much on me but he said he wanted to get me the blue box. I go into Tiffany’s to have it sized because my friend told me I should only have them work on my ring.

They take the ring and ask my for my fiancé’s info to look up in their system. They can’t find it and she takes the ring in the back. The manager comes back a little while after and says that this isn’t a Tiffany and co ring and shows me there’s no engraving inside.

I go home and my first thought is that he probably bought it preloved and he got duped. He comes home from work and I ask him where he got the ring from. He said Tiffany and Co. at (locations name) I flat out asked him if he got it used online and it was okay if he did.

He flipped out and said no it’s new from the store. I fessed up and told him what happened with the sizing. He flipped out and said that I was checking up on him and snooping for the price, etc. I was firm and said no I just wanted it resized and they told me it’s not from their company. He said that they’re wrong and he got it there.

He told me that I should have consulted him and he would of had it sized for me and that it feels like I’m going behind his back. I’m confused by this because I thought it was a simple task that I didn’t need him for. Anyway, he won’t really talk about where he got the ring and is only saying that he will size it and took the ring.

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This Reddit saga sparkles with tension, like a flawed gem under a jeweler’s loupe. The poster’s shock at discovering her ring’s fake is compounded by her fiancé’s defensive outburst, turning a routine errand into a trust crisis. His refusal to clarify where he got the ring—coupled with accusations of snooping—suggests he’s hiding more than just a purchase receipt.

Trust is the bedrock of any engagement, and lies, even small ones, can erode it. Dr. John Gottman, a leading relationship researcher, states, “Honesty, even when uncomfortable, builds intimacy; defensiveness creates distance” (source: Gottman Institute). A 2023 study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that 62% of couples cite dishonesty as a major relationship stressor, especially when it involves symbolic acts like proposing. The fiancé’s gaslighting—blaming her for checking up—raises concerns about deeper patterns.

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The poster’s approach was reasonable: she sought to resize a ring, not uncover a scam. Her fiancé’s reaction, however, hints at embarrassment or intentional deceit, perhaps to save face or money. Gottman suggests couples therapy to rebuild trust, advising the poster to calmly request transparency about the ring’s origin. If he doubles down, it’s a sign to pause wedding plans.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Reddit dove into this drama like jewelers inspecting a suspect diamond, offering a mix of support and spicy warnings. From red flag parades to calls for couples counseling, the community’s takes are as bold as a gaudy knockoff. Here’s the glittering scoop—grab a loupe and dive in.

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AceyAceyAcey − NTA and put the wedding plans on hold until he comes clean. It’s one thing to s**ew up and accidentally buy a fake. It’s another thing for him to.... 1) lie about where he got it when directly asked,

2) double-down on the lie when you give him evidence of his lie,. 3) gaslight you about things you know to be true,. 3) jump to accusing you of things out of the blue, and. 4) tell you that you need his *permission* to size your ring. At least if you call off the engagement, you can give back the ring without worrying about losing anything of value.

MudShots − NTA. He lied and is trying to cover his own ass.

fancypants-macghee − Um, NTA. And frankly, your fiancé’s reaction is a bit alarming.

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medicalbutamess − NTA. You shouldn’t have to “fess up” for trying to resize your ring. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to make a ring you love the size you wanted. It seems like he’s overreacting and hiding something by being so secretive about it.

FarAwayPeople − NTA - It sounds like he did get you a fake ring and just put it in a pretty box to fool you. Then you found out and he got angry that you caught him lying. I don't doubt that the people that work at Tiffany and Co. would know a fake ring when they see one.

I bet if you asked for a receipt (to varify where he did get it from), he would deflect and say you only want to know how much he spent, or some other bs reason.. He's trying to blame you so that you focus on something else other than his lies.

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OP, if he acts like this over a ring, imagine being married to a guy who has no problem lying to you, and making you feel like the ass when he gets caught. He just got caught and decided to double down on his lie, rather than apologizing and fessing up.

Lilac_n_Gooseberries − This is a red flag PARADE. He died on that hill and doubled down on a lie DESPITE your evidence. Give it back to him in a walnut shell or something.

Normally the provenance of a ring isn’t that deep but his reaction makes me wonder if he got it out of a quarter machine. I also the quote, “I wanted to give you the blue box” is very sly assuming that’s verbatim. It’s...technically true?. NTA!

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MagicMauiWowee − NTA. Your fiancé bought you a fake and is doubling down on his deception. This may be an issue of embarrassment he can’t give you the fanciest jewelry

and otherwise he’s a great guy who made a stupid mistake and doesn’t want to fess up. But really look at if this pattern shows up anywhere else. This is a big deal to lie about and then not come clean. Red flags, OP.

neobuxbaumias − NTA. Why should you need his permission to get YOUR ring resized?? It's concerning that he's hiding such a relatively minor thing from you, especially considering that you have pretty solid proof contradicting his version of the facts.

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The way in which he responded (assuming you were checking up on him behind his back) is also not that promising and I'd be tempted to say he might be projecting.

Amythist35 − NTA he made at you because he is lying to you and got found out. I'm not a fancy ring person but this is a symbol of your love and relationship if he wanted to get a cheaper ring fine it's the lying and playing games. You can't trust this guy. He lying about other things too this is a huge red flag. He had to go out of his way to get the box.

whimsicalacumen − NTA. One of two things happened here. Either: A) He didn’t want to spend Tiffany and co money but knew you wanted it, so he went out, bought a fake ring and then bought a box off of eBay or something to make you think it was a Tiffany ring.

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He thought he could deceive you and make you happy while cutting financial corners.. B) He bought it secondhand off of someplace like EBay, and it’s a fake. My guess is now he is going to get it adjusted to the correct size, try and get his money back since it’s not the ring he thought it was

maybe get fake papers to prove it’s real depending how far he wants to go with the ruse, or he’s going to go out and actually buy the Tiffany ring he claimed he bought you to replace it and act like it was the same ring all along.

Whatever the case, the biggest issue here is that he is, no matter what the story, LYING TO YOU. Best case scenario he was embarrassed he was scammed, then gaslighted and blamed you for finding out the truth and took away the evidence.

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Consider couples therapy. Seriously. I’m not saying immediately leave him, as this is clearly someone you love and want to marry, but the behaviors he’s exhibiting are very red flags.. My advice: don’t pick a date for the wedding until this is addressed

These Reddit gems flash a cheeky question: is the fiancé’s lie a one-off fumble or a dealbreaker in disguise? The community’s waving warning signs, but real life’s murkier—sometimes love needs a reset to sparkle again.

This ring saga is a dazzling mess of love, lies, and blue boxes. The poster’s confrontation was a bid for truth, but her fiancé’s deflection casts a shadow over their future. Should she demand answers or let the ring—and trust—slide? Drop your thoughts in the comments—what would you do when a proposal’s promise feels fake?

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