AITA for confiscating my daughter’s phone over a TikTok prank?

In a bustling suburban home, a mother’s heart sinks as she learns her 15-year-old daughter orchestrated a heartless TikTok prank, pretending to tell an 8-year-old her parents died. The phone used to film the cruelty is now locked away, replaced by a bare-bones flip phone. But as the teen’s grounding ends, her demand for her smartphone back ignites a fiery standoff, complete with tantrums and silent treatments. It’s a modern parenting saga that’s got Reddit abuzz.

This isn’t just about a phone—it’s about teaching empathy in the age of viral videos. The mother’s firm stance resonates with anyone navigating the wild world of teen social media, pulling readers into a story of consequences and tough love.

‘AITA for confiscating my daughter’s phone over a TikTok prank?’

Long story short, my daughter (15F) and a friend decided to play a very cruel prank on the friend's 8-year old sister. Basically my daughter hid in her closet filming for TikTok while the friend called the sister in and pretended to cry and told her that she had gotten news that their parents had just been killed in a car accident...getting the reaction and then telling her its not true.

Needless to say the friend's sister did not take it well even after being told of the truth and the parents contacted me. I was absolutely disgusted especially considering the intention was to humiliate her on TikTok. So in addition to grounding her I took her phone away and replaced it with an old one of mine that I locked down so it can't do anything besides make/receive phone calls,

take pictures and send texts, basically equivalent to an old style flip phone. That happened about a month ago. My daughter's grounding recently expired and she asked me when she gets her phone back. I told her 'When you can afford to buy your own.'

Since her phone was what she used for it, I don't see any reason why she should be allowed to one able to access such apps. She complained to my husband. He told me that he agrees she shouldn't get the phone back now but that I'm maybe being a bit too harsh since confiscating it until the end of the school year for example would still send the needed message.

So I told my daughter I'll consider it based on her behavior but she's still banned from TikTok regardless. Well she threw another tantrum. Truth is I'm just so disgusted she would do such a thing, and such abuse of an app means you don't get the app anymore and it seems fair.

Now she's giving me the silent treatment. Obviously this won't help in getting the phone back. So am I being too harsh or unreasonable? I get how important such phones and apps are now to teens' social lives, but I really can't let something like that go unaddressed.

Parenting a teen in the TikTok era can feel like taming a digital wildfire. This mother’s decision to confiscate her daughter’s phone after a cruel prank—faking a tragic loss for clicks—reflects a stand against harmful online behavior. The daughter’s lack of remorse and tantrums suggest she’s more upset about losing privileges than hurting a child, while the mother grapples with balancing punishment and growth.

This mirrors broader issues of social media’s impact on teens. Dr. Jean Twenge, a psychologist, notes, “Teens’ heavy social media use can reduce empathy, as online validation overshadows real-world consequences.” The prank’s cruelty highlights this disconnect. Studies show 60% of teens regret impulsive posts, underscoring the need for guidance.

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The mother’s shift toward dialogue over punishment is wise. She could encourage her daughter to apologize sincerely and volunteer with younger kids to rebuild empathy. A tech contract outlining app limits could prevent repeats.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit’s takes on this TikTok prank fiasco are as sharp as a viral video cut. Here’s what the community dished out, raw and unfiltered:

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pbc85 - NTA. The prank was terrible to begin with, but pulling that on an 8 year old is horrific. You should get your daughter into therapy to help understand why she thought that would be funny.

[Reddit User] - NTA. She traumatized an 8 year old. That child may need therapy. You are a good parent by helping her understand the severity of what she did.

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[Reddit User] - NTA, She literally posted an 8 year old on tiktok for the whole world to see, she can't control whether she wants to be on camera or not. And telling someone that their parents died is just cruel. As long as she can text her friends and stuff that's enough she doesn't deserve to have tiktok

Hazy-Hazel - NTA. 15 is old enough to know better. That poor little girl.

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Inconceivable76 - INFO. Does your daughter feel genuine remorse, or is she just remorseful of getting in trouble? Does your daughter understand that it is incredibly inappropriate in any situation to post videos featuring children on the internet without their parents approval? Does your daughter understand that posting videos online of anyone without their consent is wrong?

Benefit_Dense - INFO: has she expressed any genuine remorse over it? I'd say that's the key thing. If she's just upset over the inconvenience of the punishment, then she hasn't learned anything. If she's genuinely remorseful then it might be time to move past it.

[Reddit User] - NTA, I just can’t stand these “pranksters” on YouTube, twitch, tiktok, etc. My dad would do the exact same thing to us if we even dared to do even a tenth of what your daughter and her friend just did.

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runmuppet - NTA AT ALL. What an awful prank to play on a kid. I think you were more than generous by giving her a flip phone, she's still able to text with friends and can call you in case of emergency.

zisnotabird - NTA at all, she lied to a kid about their parents dying and doesn’t seem remorseful. Taking the phone until she can afford her own is exactly what I would do.

[Reddit User] - NTA. Sounds like your daughter needs some therapy, in no way was what she did a prank. I would also suggest if possible making her speak to people her age that have lost a parent, maybe then it will sink in how unfunny that is.

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These Redditors don’t hold back, but do their bold opinions translate to real-world parenting? It’s a mix of praise for the mom’s resolve and calls for deeper lessons—classic internet spice!

This mom’s crackdown on her teen’s TikTok prank is a gripping tale of parenting in the digital age. With Reddit cheering her on, she’s navigating the tricky line between discipline and empathy. What would you do if your teen pulled a cruel online stunt? Drop your thoughts below—let’s keep the convo going!

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