AITA for chopping down the trees in my backyard even though my neighbor liked them and asked me not to?

A backyard once shaded by swaying palm trees became a battleground when new neighbors turned leaf litter into a neighborhood feud. The homeowners, tired of maintaining trees they rarely enjoyed, faced complaints from neighbors who loved the trees’ vibe but hated their mess, even tossing leaves back over the fence. When the homeowners finally chopped the trees down, defying the neighbors’ pleas, a storm of online rants and accusations erupted. Was this a bold stand for property rights or a petty jab at nosy neighbors? This Reddit saga pulls us into a clash of personal choice and community expectations.

The drama resonates with anyone who’s navigated prickly neighbor disputes. With Reddit buzzing and tensions high, let’s dive into this tale of trees, tempers, and territorial rights to see what it reveals about backyard boundaries and neighborly peace.

‘AITA for chopping down the trees in my backyard even though my neighbor liked them and asked me not to?’

So our new neighbors renovated their backyard around 3 months ago, not long after they moved in. They added a pool, a hammock, a built-in grill, and a bar, they basically made a resort in their own backyard. Our backyard has grass and a bunch of tall palm trees that are right behind their fence.

So lately, a few of the dead leaves of our palm trees have been falling into their backyard, which wasn't an issue with the old neighbors, they rarely brought it up and we were always apologetic. The thing is, we've been considering getting rid of our palm trees for a couple years because of the maintenance

and also because we never spend time in our backyard, so when the neighbors started throwing the leaves back into our yard and yelling at us to be responsible, we decided it was time to cut them down. They didn't like this idea either.

They said that when they were planning their backyard, they were considering our trees as part of their scenery and that without the trees it would take away from their backyard. They also said that there isn't enough space for them to plant their own trees.

So they offered to pay for someone to come to our house to maintain our trees. This would usually be really nice but at this point we were set on taking down the trees, and we also didn't want to form a relationship with the neighbors because they were very rude

and we would feel like we owed them if they paid for the maintenance. So two days ago we cut down the trees and now they're furious, complaining to all the other neighbors, blasting us on the neighborhood forum and giving out our address.

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They told us that we are not being neighborly and that we're selfish. We told them that it's our property and we can do whatever we want with it, and they should've been responsible when they decided not to put trees in their yard. So, are we the assholes?

When neighbors clash over backyard aesthetics, it’s less about trees and more about boundaries. The homeowners’ decision to remove their palm trees stemmed from ongoing maintenance hassles, amplified by neighbors who complained about leaves while demanding the trees stay for their own view. The neighbors’ offer to pay for maintenance, though generous, came with strings—potential control over the homeowners’ property. Their subsequent public shaming on a neighborhood forum escalates a private matter into a community spectacle.

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Neighbor disputes over property decisions are common. A 2022 study by the National Association of Realtors found 49% of homeowners face conflicts with neighbors over landscaping or property use. Landscape architect Sarah Burgess notes, “Property owners have the right to prioritize their own needs, but open communication can prevent disputes from escalating”. Here, the neighbors’ rudeness and leaf-throwing undermined their plea to keep the trees.

Burgess’ advice suggests the homeowners could have proposed a compromise, like sharing maintenance costs without ceding control, before cutting the trees. Now, de-escalating via a calm response on the forum or a mediator could help. Resources like Neighbor Law offer legal tips on property disputes.

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Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit brought the shade—pun intended—with a mix of fiery support and cheeky jabs that rival the neighbors’ leaf-tossing antics. Here’s what the community had to say about this backyard showdown.

Stank_Floyd - NTA. In the immortal words of Abraham Lincoln: 'F**k those motherfuckers.'

queencuntpunt - NTA. Get right back on the neighborhood forum and point out that a**hole neighbor was constantly throwing the fallen leaves into your yard and yelling at you about them.. Your yard, your call.. *Waits for the reddit tree police*

dealraitheach - NTA. Still trying to wrap my head around the fact that they WANTED the trees…but complained about them and made them MORE of a problem for you by throwing the leaves back into your yard…. Also, why aren’t your other neighbors laughing in their face and shutting down their s**tty behavior?

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mubi_merc - NTA. Loving your neighbors trees but getting pissy when some of the leaves fall in your yard is just absurd.

SashayShantae - NTA. Are you me? I have a neighbor who enjoys the shade of my trees on the property line but complains every few months about branches getting close to his house. He’s a jerk, so next month, I’m getting all the trees cut down so he stops bothering me. It’s also for spite. Hopefully your neighbor is being mocked by your other neighbors for his rants and posts.

Business-Drag52 - NTA. Your property, your trees. You’re absolutely right that they would try to use the fact that they pay for the tree service against you. Good job cutting down the trees and I hope you enjoy your new back yard!

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allthelovelybones - NTA at all. Your property, your decision. Side note: When my exhusband and I sold our first home, there was a line of trees to the back of the property that provided privacy between our house and a development that was being built on the previously wooded land behind our house.

On the buyer's walk through just before closing, the buyer was furious that the trees had been cut down and threatened to walk away from the deal if he was not compensated for the trees. That were not on our/his property to begin with.

We already had a deposit on our new house we were to close on in three days and could not afford lose it, so it was cheaper to pay this guy off so the deal would not fall through. Bet your ass I wrote in the memo line of the check 'expensive ass trees we do not own'

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ForeverNugu - NTA - it's your property and your trees. Do what you want. If they were so attached to your trees, guess they shouldn't have been dicks about the leaves

BatDance3121 - You're correct in not wanting to be tied to your neighbors. How did they find out you planned to cut down the trees? Didn't they previously yell at you?? So you talk to them anyway about your your personal business - smh. Stop talking to them in person or the forum! They have a say on your property only when they pay the mortgage on it.

stupidsexyscorpio - NTA. Those are your trees on your own property, and you can do as you please with them. They say they liked them but they also were so quick to complain about them? They seem weird and I wouldn’t want to feel indebted to them either.

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These Redditors didn’t hold back, but do their takes cut to the root of the issue? Most back the homeowners’ right to chop, though some wonder if communication could’ve saved the day. What’s your stance on this tree-tastic drama?

This tale of axed trees and angry neighbors shows how quickly a backyard spat can grow into a full-blown feud. The homeowners stood their ground, prioritizing their property rights over neighbors’ aesthetic wishes, but the fallout has leaves flying in every direction. Clear boundaries and cooler heads might have saved the trees—and the peace. Would you chop down your trees to spite a nosy neighbor, or try to talk it out? Share your thoughts—let’s dig into this neighborly chaos!

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