AITA for causing a scene after my friend said the gift was from HER and not me?

In a bustling high school cafeteria, the air buzzed with birthday excitement as a carefully crafted gift changed hands. A young teen, brimming with pride, handed over a present they’d poured months into for their best friend, Allie. But when a smug friend, Cece, snatched the credit, the joy turned sour, sparking a heated confrontation that left everyone stunned.

The sting of betrayal cut deep, as the teen’s hard work was overshadowed by a friend’s audacious move. Readers can’t help but feel the raw frustration of being erased from their own labor of love. Was the outburst justified, or did it overshadow a special day? Let’s dive into this messy teen saga.

‘AITA for causing a scene after my friend said the gift was from HER and not me?’

My friend Cece and I decided to do a joint gift for my best friend Allie. We are all in our teens, think 14/15. Anyway over the past few months I’ve been working on allies gift, I’d regularly call Cece up to see if she could help out with things like packaging or picking small things out for Allie, she’d always say she was busy and hang up.

I managed to finish allies gift on time and when it came to her birthday, we gave the gift in school, at lunch. I handed it to her and gave her the card, originally on the card it said from me since I had done everything. Little did I know Cece had then took it and written her name on it and rubbed mine out.

When Allie read it she gave cece a hug then showed the presents and said to everyone “look what Cece did!” EVERYONE started to compliment her, saying how the present was so done well and how did she find the time for it, Cece smiled smugly and then just went on about how she had to put aside time for the present but it was sooo worth it seeing how happy Allie was.

I lost it, I’m a very emotional person and this just pushed me over the edge. I started screaming at how I’d spent ages trying to ask Cece to help yet she never did, how I’d spent months on it and she hadn’t checked up once. Everyone went quiet and Cece was fuming, I started crying and left.

Allie followed me and hugged me, she said she “knew it was me who did that, but let Cece have her moment” I was pissed, very pissed. Cece actually admitted that she didn’t do it all and that I did most of it after all her friends asked her about it.

They all texted me saying they were sorry but that I was an a**hole for causing such a scene and ruining allies birthday.. I know Allie doesn’t mind, Ceces ignoring me but reddit AITA?. Edit: thank you kind stranger for that award on a comment of mine, bless your heart

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Update: well a bits happened in the past ten minutes, Cece actually apologised (which I’m very surprised as she hates admitting she’s wrong) she then went on to complain about how Allie is such a mean friend and didn’t deserve my gift so she took the credit??? The entire thing was very confusing and i ended up blocking her.

This post has gotten a lot more attention than I deserve, thank you strangers for those lovely hugs and thank you reddit, I’ll have a talk with Allie and maybe try to get her side of things as well as ceces been saying things about me as well. It’s extremely messy, I know but teens right 😂

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2nd edit: lovely humans, please stop giving me awards, I really don’t deserve it. But thank you Redditors for all the judgment and advice to control my emotions/temper. I realise that I may be at fault here as well, thank you reddit! ❤️

Navigating friendships at 14 or 15 can feel like walking a tightrope, especially when trust is tested. The OP’s story highlights a classic teen dilemma: balancing loyalty with personal pride. Cece’s move to erase the OP’s name was a bold power play, likely driven by a need for validation, while the OP’s outburst reflects the intense emotions of youth. Both sides clash over recognition, but Cece’s dishonesty tipped the scales.

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This scenario mirrors broader social dynamics around credit and recognition. According to a 2019 study by the Journal of Adolescence, teens often struggle with peer validation, with 68% reporting conflicts over social status (journals.elsevier.com). Cece’s actions suggest a craving for attention, while the OP’s reaction shows how deeply personal efforts tie to identity.

Dr. John Duffy, a teen psychologist, notes, “When teens feel their contributions are dismissed, it can trigger intense emotional responses, as their sense of self is still forming” (psychologytoday.com). Here, the OP’s outburst was a natural, if heated, defense of their effort. Cece’s eventual apology hints at guilt, but her excuse about Allie’s “unworthiness” reveals deeper insecurities.

For the OP, moving forward means setting boundaries. Dr. Duffy suggests open communication: “Teens should express feelings calmly and seek allies who value honesty.” The OP could benefit from a heart-to-heart with Allie to clarify intentions and rebuild trust, while distancing from Cece’s drama.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s hot takes are as spicy as a cafeteria food fight! Here’s what the community had to say about this tangled teen tale:

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apricotsandolives − NTA. Cece is an a**hole and I’d of been really upset too, especially if someone had done something as malicious as rubbing my name off of a gift I spent months preparing.. Don’t waste any more time with this girl.

Sounds like you spoke with Allie when it happened but did she mention that you upset her/ruined her day like your other friends are saying? This might just be them stirring the pot. Check Allie’s okay but I wouldn’t worry about your other friends, I’m sure something else will happen and this will be old news.. EDIT: Thank you for the awards kind strangers 😁

Hemenucha − NTA. Keep in mind this kind of thing will continue to happen as you get older, usually at work. A team project will have that one guy who does little to nothing, but he'll soak up the accolades anyway when the project is a success.

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llama_problems − NTA the Cece’s of this world will always thrive and take credit for the work of others. Good on you OP for taking a stand.

juicejuiceboyo − NTA Cece is an a**hole. Allie is a little bit of an a**hole for going along with it when she knew what was going on.

Zaraihn − NTA The only one to be allowed to be mad at you is Allie. It was her birthday and her party, so only she can decide whether it was ruined or not. Now you probably could've responded calmer,

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but at that age it isn't the easiest to keep your emotions under control. (As an adult that is something you should be able to tho) Maybe some will say that you should've let Cede keep her moment, but this would only encourage her to keep such behaviour up.

Hera09 − NTA. Understandable.

iCallMyDickaJoyCon − NTA Cece and allie are assholes. Cece for obvious reasons but allie for basically letting her get away with it and painting you as the bad guy. If she knew then why not say thank you to YOU and not let cece be rewarded for her d**k move. Allie is just as bad as cece because now for letting cece pull that stunt people are now blaming you for 'ruining' her day.

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BugsRatty − she “knew it was me who did that, but let Cece have her moment”. No. No. No. Cece can have her moment when she actually did the thing for which praise is being offered. It is not fair to anyone - including Cece - if she gets unwarranted approval. What happens if she gets accustomed to getting away with that, then your friend group gets another Cece? Ugh.. NTA

louloukakapoo − NTA Cece isn’t worth your time and Allie shouldn’t really have needed to give her ‘a moment’ knowing it was you who did it, but I get that she was being polite. My best advice, write in pen!

MeowieCatty − NTA! I would also like to point out as someone who went to school for youth work that there is 100% something more going on here that OP may not even be aware of. While Cece is the AH, youth typically lash out like that because there is something more going on in their lives or home that they are not properly equipped to handle. They are still 14/15, they are kids.

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Allie is also nta. She messed up. She should have called out Cece, but she is a kid. She may be afraid of conflict and trying to keep everyone happy. Regardless, she checked up on OP and made sure they were ok. She seems to be attempting conflict resolution which should be encouraged.. Either way OP did nothing wrong, even with the outburst.

These opinions are bold, but do they capture the full picture, or are they just fanning the flames of drama?

This story reminds us how quickly teen friendships can turn into a soap opera, with loyalty and pride at stake. The OP’s passion for their gift shone through, but so did the sting of betrayal. While Cece’s apology offered closure, the messy fallout leaves questions. Should the OP have kept their cool, or was their outburst a fair stand? What would you do if a friend stole your spotlight? Share your thoughts below!

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