AITA for calling the cops and causing him to be taken in for taking my carkey and using it while I was sleeping?

Waking up to find your car and boyfriend gone is the stuff of nightmares, but for this Reddit user, it was a jarring reality. After her boyfriend Kevin snooped through her son’s room to snag her hidden car key and took her car without a word, she called the police in a panic. Found at a supermarket, Kevin claimed he was just grabbing breakfast, but his rage at her actions—and his brother’s berating texts—left her questioning her choice.

This isn’t just about a missing car; it’s a high-octane tale of trust, boundaries, and a shocking violation. With Reddit revving up over Kevin’s shady move, the user’s left wondering if calling the cops was too much. Buckle up for this wild ride and decide: was she right to sound the alarm, or did she overreact?

‘AITA for calling the cops and causing him to be taken in for taking my carkey and using it while I was sleeping?’

So, I been seeing this guy '30M' (Kevin) for several of months now. We'd visit each other weekly and last week, he spent the night with me. Next morning I woke up 9.am and couldn't find him nor my car.

I searched for my carkey that was at the bottom drawer in my son's room (I usually hide it in there and no one knows about this secret place) but couldn't find it. I freaked out and tried calling Kevin but his phone was dead so I ended calling the police after waiting for like 10 minutes.

Shortly after, I discovered that Kevin was found with my car at the supermarket's parking lot. He was taken in by authorities and the car was returned. He was fuming at me saying I should not have called the cops because he took the car to go by us 'breakfast'.

In my defense I said he never asked for my permission and I never gave him the okay to drive it. He argued that he thought I wouldn't mind much less escalate and call the cops after he's done a nice thing for me and my son.

He said he never had issues with cops but because of me now they thought he was a thief.. We haven't talked simce then. His brother keeps berating me saying I messed up and acted stupidly.. Amitheasshole for fraking out and calling the cops? I didn't even know how he got the key.

A boyfriend borrowing your car might sound like no big deal, but sneaking into your son’s room to steal a hidden key is a whole different gear. This Reddit user’s decision to call the police was a gut reaction to a missing car and no word from Kevin, whose claim of a breakfast run doesn’t erase the fact that he took her property without consent. His snooping in her son’s room raises serious trust issues, and his defensive anger only fuels suspicion.

This scenario highlights the importance of boundaries in relationships. A 2023 study by the American Psychological Association found that 68% of people cite trust violations as a top reason for relationship breakdowns. Kevin’s actions—taking the car without permission and searching a private space—breach both trust and basic respect.

Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman emphasizes, “Trust is built through consistent, open communication”. Kevin could have asked to use the car or left a note, and the user’s panic was justified given the circumstances. For readers, setting clear boundaries about personal property early can prevent such drama.

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See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit slammed on the brakes for this trust-busting tale, dishing out fiery takes with a side of suspicion. Here’s what the community had to say about this car-key caper:

namesaretoohardforme - NTA. EXCUSE ME HAS HE BEEN SNOOPING IN YOUR CHILD'S ROOM??? RED FLAG!

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TheDollarCasual - So let's see, this guy 1) went snooping around in your son's room, 2) took your car without your permission, 3) blamed it on you when you did the logical thing when you noticed your car was missing, and 4) recruited his brother to help 'berate' you. This guy sucks, NTA

LenoreSkellington - NTA. Are you serious? He rifled through your house to find a key. To your car. That he took. Without permission.. Do you know his driving history? Does he even have a liscense?. This guy way overstepped.. He could have at least left you a note instead of disappearing with your property without permission.

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XANDERtheSHEEPDOG - He said he never had issues with cops but because of me now they thought he was a thief. That's because he **is** a thief. He stole your car. Period. Dating does not equal consent. Cohabitation does not equal consent. Nothing but asking and getting an affirmative answer equals consent.

Caltratic_Hobbit - Um... forget him literally stealing your car, but what was he doing in your son's room where I'm assuming your son WAS SLEEPING rifling through his stuff while you were unable to intervene because you WERE SLEEPING.

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This guy is a creep and you need to keep him away from your son. He sounds like a hardcore predator. Protect your child and keep this man away from your family.. NTA. Edit to add: I highly doubt Kevin was getting you breakfast.

I bet he was meeting someone in that parking lot for an exchange of something, which is why he was pissed cops were involved and he tried to flip the script and make himself look like the victim. I'm telling you, he is up to no good.

brutelitops - NTA. So he 'found' your car key that you hid at the bottom drawer in your son's room?? Wtf. The fact that you went to extra lengths to hide your car key and he still found it and then you wake up with a missing car, calling the cops is a reasonable response.. Also, at the very least he should have left a note or a text.

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MbMinx - NTA. He stole your car. Never mind his intention - he could have taken an Uber. He took your key, he took your car. He didn't leave a note and he didn't even answer his phone. He 'thought' you wouldn't mind...I would mind very much if some guy I only knew for a few months stole my car.

Amour_fati - NTA. It would have been different if he had taken the keys off the kitchen table, still not right, but different. But how did he even know where the keys were hidden?Going through the kid's drawers? Change all your locks.

Oxfordcomma42 - NTA. He was NOT getting you breakfast, he searched your house for hidden keys stole your car and got caught. No decent person would search your house while you’re sleeping and take your car without asking.

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Teacher-Investor - NTA It was presumptuous of him to assume he could take the car this early on in the relationship. Who knows how long he was out with it? And, yeah, how would he know where to find the key? That would take a lot of snooping around. This guy is creepy af and untrustworthy. You'll be better off without him.

These high-octane opinions burn rubber on Kevin’s shady behavior, but do they capture the full scope of this trust crash? Reddit’s clear: theft’s theft, and this guy’s out of line!

This saga of a stolen car key and a police call races through the heart of trust and boundaries in relationships. The Reddit user’s instinct to protect her property was spot-on, but Kevin’s sneaky move and fiery backlash left their bond in the ditch. As she navigates the fallout, the question lingers: was calling the cops a fair reaction, or could she have hit the brakes? What would you do if someone took your stuff without asking? Drop your stories, advice, or spicy takes below!

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