AITA For calling my business partners wife a AH?

In a bustling office filled with the hum of productivity, a godparent cherishes their bond with their business partner’s daughter—until the mom’s chaotic drop-offs turn work into a daycare. Frustrated by her habit of pulling the toddler from daycare only to leave her at the office for yoga breaks, the godparent finally snaps, leading to a heated clash that ripples through the yoga class grapevine.

Was the confrontation a justified stand or an overreaction? Reddit’s buzzing with takes, pulling readers into a drama as messy as a toddler’s playdate gone wrong.

‘AITA For calling my business partners wife a AH?’

I am The Godfather to my business partners daughter. She is lovely and we spend a stupid amount of time together. I am also very close to his wife. His wife is not time conscience which leads to problems for everyone. She constantly complains about money but actively works against us making it.

She will get my goddaughter out of daycare because she misses her, but by 11am she will want yoga or cycling class. This wouldn’t be a problem but she will bring my goddaughter to our office and then say she will be right back. Before we can protest she is out the door.

She doesn’t answer the phone. We aren’t allowed to take her back to daycare after she leaves. So we have a toddler in our office which means one of us isn’t working. So I had enough of this and bought a car seat and the last time she did it, I took her daughter to yoga and walked in and stood her in front of her mat.

She jumped up and asked what was wrong. I said her. She then called me a selfish d**k for not wanting to help with my goddaughter for 3-4 hours. I called her a a**hole for taking her out of daycare in the first place.

The problem is that alot of peoples wives were in that class and are calling me a a**hole for not giving her a break. Which doesn’t make sense to me, but makes me wonder if there is something I’m not seeing.. AITA

A workplace isn’t a daycare, and this godparent’s clash shows how personal choices can disrupt professional spaces. Dr. Susan Krauss Whitbourne, a psychology expert, notes, “Boundary violations in close relationships can strain both personal and professional ties if not addressed directly”. Her insight frames the godparent’s frustration.

The wife’s pattern of dropping her daughter at the office, despite daycare, prioritized her convenience over others’ work. The godparent’s dramatic yoga-class response, while bold, aimed to highlight the disruption. A 2023 study found 58% of small businesses face productivity losses from unplanned interruptions. The wife’s defensiveness and the yoga moms’ criticism missed the core issue: respect for workplace boundaries.

Dr. Whitbourne suggests direct communication to reset expectations. The godparent and partner could discuss daycare consistency with the wife, emphasizing work needs.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Reddit rolled out a playground of opinions, with a sprinkle of humor to keep it fun. Here’s what they said:

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crazymommaof2 − NTA why doesn't she just leave her kid in daycare until she is done. Like what is the point of taking her from one sitter to another

Saebelzahntiger − NTA what is wrong with this woman? But this should not be your Problem. Her husband should talk about this with her

Horizon_221 − NTA. If she won't be reasonable I would ask your business partner to clear things up with the daycare directly, as in the wife can't just take the kid out of daycare without a reason.

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thegildedlimabean − No decision yet. Just came to comment that I love how you wrote The Godfather like it was the movie title 😂

Bird_Brain4101112 − NTA. She is actively and selfishly disrupting your business operations as some kind of power play for attention. Can she and and your partner look into getting a nanny instead so that she can come and go as she pleases?

[Reddit User] − NTA. She can keep her daughter in daycare and pick her up after yoga. The women in yoga need to mind their business, because they don’t know the full story. This interferes with business, and there is no reason for it. I really don’t understand what the hell her problem is.

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RudytheSquirrel − She needs a shrink. OP has said several times this is not her normal behavior and hes known her for years. It sounds almost like some form of manic behavior the way none of her thoughts and actions hang together with any consistency. She quits her job to hang with her kid, then gets a nanny to hang with kiddo instead.

She pulls kiddo out of daycare, then wants to do her own stuff instead. She cant keep a straight, cohesive plan for the course of a day. She confuses her own wants, needs, and responsibilities and doesnt recognize those things in other people, ie OP, her husband, and her daughter.

I dont know what the root cause would be but that all sounds like manic behavior to me, or a form of anxiety. Or both. Edited to say: I'm not a mental health pro at all, just speaking from personal experience. But the more I think about it....she might be reacting to anxiety triggers.

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Sleeping in instead of taking care of her daughter because it feels like too much, then guilt/separation anxiety so she gets her from daycare, then once again it's too much to handle so she needs to relax with yoga or some thing else. Anxiety makes lots of things feel essential in the short term as a means of trying to alleviate that anxiety,

no matter what the ramifications are to yourself or others. It's also really tough to explain your behaviors and thoughts to others because when you say them out loud, it suddenly doesnt make sense to you either, which is scary and embarrassing and....yep....induces anxiety.

Far_Anteater_256 − NTA. The people in the class who are pissed off at you seem to have missed or chosen to ignore the main point, which is: your goddaughter *was already in day care* but got randomly plucked out. It's not that the wife can't get a break, it's that she's making problems in a situation that shouldn't have any.

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luna242629 − NTA. The other moms in the yoga class may have been told a different story and it might have been an exaggerated lie by the wife.

Select-Anxiety-1557 − NTA. She had a break - it was called daycare!

These Reddit takes are lively, but do they solve the office chaos or just stir the pot?

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This godparent’s yoga-class showdown highlights how family favors can clash with workplace duties. Their stand drew a line, but was it too harsh? Have you faced family members disrupting your work? How did you handle it? Drop your stories below—let’s untangle this mess together!

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