AITA for calling a friend fake and saying her body positivity ideals are untrue garbage?

When a so-called friend’s words cut deeper than expected, how long do you stay silent? A woman reached her breaking point after enduring months of snarky comments about her appearance from Jenny, an acquaintance preaching body positivity. At a lively bar night, tensions boiled over, leading to a fiery confrontation. Was she wrong to call Jenny out, or was it time to expose the hypocrisy?

This story of clashing values and bold clapbacks has social media buzzing. From subtle jabs to outright insults, the drama unfolds with raw emotion and divided opinions. Let’s dive into this tale of friendship, betrayal, and standing your ground.

'AITA for calling a friend fake and saying her body positivity ideals are untrue garbage?'

The trouble sparked when Jenny, a newcomer to the group, joined through mutual friend Kat.

Jenny is more of an acquaintance than a friend, I met her through a mutual friend, Kat, after she started inviting Jenny to social gatherings a few months back. Kat...

as far as I'm aware she just wants Jenny to expand her social circle because she doesn't have many friends. Although I'm not Jenny's biggest fan, she does have nice...

Jenny’s loud stance on body positivity didn’t match her actions, grating on the poster’s nerves.

Unfortunately, to me, Jenny's negative traits outweigh the good and that makes me not her biggest fan. The biggest issue is her hypocritical views on body positivity. She preaches about...

that every body is beautiful and people should be positive towards all body types (which I do agree with, I would just rephrase it personally), yet she doesn't seem to...

Her comments about the poster’s appearance started small but soon turned vicious.

Any time we are together, she makes bitchy jabs at my body and looks which have just gotten worse over time. Starting off innocently enough with more joking comments to...

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Despite the poster’s pleas for her to stop, Jenny kept up the hurtful remarks.

When she started getting worse, I did tell her to stop but she continued regardless.

The poster stayed kind, never targeting Jenny’s looks, only offering compliments or helpful fixes.

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Now for clarification, I have never once commented on her appearance. The only times I have was to give a compliment or telling her if she was having an outfit...

don't say anything at all" but Jenny recently forced my hand. After months of hearing her constant criticism about my body, what happened last week made me reach my breaking...

Things exploded at a bar when Jenny insulted the poster’s relationship after seeing her boyfriend’s photo.

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Me, Kat and others had arranged to go to a bar, Jenny came after being invited by Kat. It was going smoothly until Kat asked how things were going with...

I obliged and showed them a picture with Kat jokingly saying she was jealous. Jenny has never seen or heard that I had a boyfriend before but was quick to...

She said that guys like him only ever go for girls that don't look like natural women, so she could understand why someone like him was with me.

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Pushed to her limit, the poster fired back, exposing Jenny’s double standards.

This continued with everyone telling her awkwardly to stop. I reached my limit and calmly told her to cut the s__t. She said that she didn't do anything wrong as...

telling her that she says she is body positive when clearly that is untrue garbage cause of all the s__t she has to say about my body. She said she...

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and she should get over whatever insecurity she has that is making her act like a b__ch. I left only to later get a call from Kat calling me an...

The fallout left Kat upset, blaming the poster for Jenny’s tears, prompting her to walk away.

Edit: I'm not saying that I have a nice or attractive body or anything like that (personally I see many MANY flaws with it) just that Jenny is constantly shitting...

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Edit 2: Just a side note, I have never had plastic surgery..

Edit 3: For people asking if Jenny is overweight: I excluded that information from my post because I didn't think it was relevant to the situation. For me, her weight...

Also I have intentionally kept my body type vague as well... I'm really surprised at the amount of people assuming our body types...

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This clash exposes the tension between preached values and personal actions. The poster endured months of Jenny’s insults, which targeted her appearance despite Jenny’s body-positive stance. While Jenny may believe she’s uplifting others, her behavior suggests jealousy or insecurity, lashing out at someone she perceives as “conventionally attractive.” The poster’s outburst, though sharp, stemmed from valid frustration after repeated boundary violations.

Dr. Brené Brown, a research professor, notes, “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are”. Jenny’s hypocrisy—preaching self-love while tearing others down—undermines her authenticity. Kat’s defense of Jenny may reflect loyalty, but it overlooks the poster’s pain. Both parties could benefit from honest reflection on their actions.

To move forward, the poster could initiate a calm conversation with Kat, explaining how Jenny’s comments harmed her mental well-being. For example, “I felt attacked by Jenny’s remarks, and I need support, not blame,” could open dialogue. Setting clear boundaries, like avoiding events with Jenny, might prevent further conflict while preserving the friendship with Kat.

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This situation highlights broader issues of authenticity and respect in friendships. True body positivity uplifts all, not just select groups. The poster’s stand was a step toward protecting her self-worth, and open communication could mend or redefine her relationships.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Social media users largely backed the poster, praising her for calling out Jenny’s hypocrisy and standing up to bullying.

[Reddit User] − NTA. Jenny was being hypocritical and deserved to be called out. Also if your friend can't see the problem with Jenny, you might need a new friend...

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progressivelens − NTA. I'm so tired of people thinking they are "entitled to their opinion" and not entitled to consequences of being an asshat.

[Reddit User] − NTA. A lot of ‘body positive’ people are only body positive when the body is not conventionally attractive. If the body is attractive, thin or perky then...

bizgtr − NTA- you don't deserve to be bullied because of your body, even if it's because it's a stereotypically attractive body.

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You didn't criticize her physically, which would make you lose reason, but you focused on a very specific situation that has repeated itself too many times. I'm my opinion you...

Kataddyr − NTA. You can't call a person's body type "fake" and "unrealistic" when you're standing right in front of them? ??

Like I understand that s__t when it's photoshopped pictures of women in magazines and s__t but you are a real person directly in front or her? Fat positivity is supposed...

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Some offered balanced views, noting the poster’s approach could have been softer but affirming her right to push back.

perhapsnew − NTA. Have a calm conversation with Kat. Ask her if it's OK to bully people based on how they look. Show examples how Jenny bullied you. Ask if...

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Don't buy any "but it's different" crap. Based on this conversation you will need to decide if you keep Kat in your life or not. If you keep her, make...

JoeyJoeySiwa − NTA probably could've been handled better but I probably would've snapped if I was constantly called 'fake' over and over again too. But yes, someone did need to...

And all of this could've been avoided if Jenny had simply stopped when you let her know the first time :/ So, in summary, you're NTA, she was, could've easily...

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Cvtk123 − NTA. Takes guts to call someone out on their s__t. I think she was, as the new girl to the group, trying to assert her dominance and may...

Be careful though, if she is as manipulative as it sounds(crying and making Kat feel bad for her when she was clearly in the wrong) she could be driving a...

A few users injected humor, lightening the mood while still supporting the poster.

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[Reddit User] − Jenny is a bit like Demi Lovato lol, talking about how body positivity is important but then shitting on Taylor Swift’s group of friends because in her...

Body positivity means accepting every healthy body, curvy, fat, skinny, toned, hourglass body. .. whatever and even people who got surgery. .. as long as they don’t try to make...

cr0wsb4br0s − NTA. She was trying to put you down in a passive aggressive manner. Nothing wrong with telling people to shove it when they act like that.

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[Reddit User] − NTA 'Just my opinion' is no defence for talking trash.

Magicbean96 − Info: is Jenny over weight? A lot of "body positive" people honestly believe it's only for plus size people.

MoonpawX − NTA. You didn't actually attack Jenny, you first told her to stop, which she didn't, and then you called her out on her hypocrisy. It's not like you...

just-peepin-at-u − NTA she is “entitled to her opinion” but once she voiced that opinion, there are consequences. I honestly don’t understand why it is so hard for so many...

SwiggyBloodlust − Body positivity means accepting bodies with plastic surgery, in wheelchairs, with scars and bearing the brunt of disordered eating. Ultimately, the biggest way to support all bodies is...

This fiery bar showdown reveals the sting of hypocrisy and the power of standing up for yourself. The poster’s clash with Jenny exposed a gap between words and actions, leaving friendships strained. While Kat sided with Jenny, most agree the poster was justified in calling out the double standards. What would you do when someone’s “values” become a weapon—confront them or walk away?

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