AITA for building a fence around my backyard and keeping it despite my neighbors protests?

Picture a sprawling backyard atop a gentle hill, where the view stretches to wooded serenity—a homeowner’s dream turned battleground. For one resident, the joy of sipping coffee on their porch while working from home was shattered by a swarm of neighborhood kids treating their yard like a public soccer field. After failed pleas for peace, a towering wooden fence went up, sparking a neighborly uproar over lost views and play space.

This tale of property lines and clashing expectations captures the tension of personal space versus community desires. The homeowner’s quest for quiet collides with neighbors’ sense of entitlement to a shared landscape. Readers can feel the frustration of a once-idyllic yard now at the heart of a feud, wondering if the fence is a fair boundary or a selfish blockade.

‘AITA for building a fence around my backyard and keeping it despite my neighbors protests?’

I live on the outskirts of a big town/small city making me one of the few people with a big yard. I live on top of a little hill and my yard is really big and runs all the way to a small wooded area and then the field next to it is also mine it pretty much cuts my neighbors yard off(Think like an upside down L shaped yard).

One of the major draws of the area I live in is it's lovely view it was also a big part of why I chose to live here. Most of my neighbors have no fences. Before Corona I was only really home in the evening and weekends corona has forced me to work at home pretty much all the time(I only have to come to the office once a week at most) as a result I have started making a lot more use of well...

My house lol, this includes the yard. I got a backporch and I have noticed that I love sitting outside with my work laptop and a cup of coffee so that is what I have been doing. The problem is, because I was not home much I barely do any gardening aside from cutting the grass which means my yard especially the portion at the back with the turn is a perfect soccer field for the neighborhood kids,

especially my neighbors kids are using it pretty much all the time, I even caught them dragging a goalpost into it. I went to talk to the neighbors as I am not happy with random people using my yard and even less happy about notbeing able to work because of a horde of screaming kids in my yard,

even if it isn't fenced but I was met with the whole 'Kids will be kids, They don't have anything else to do for fun right now, don't worry, you are not using it anyways.' I told them I did not want them using it regardless, but as you can guess by me writing this post the kids kept using it.

So I put up a big wooden fence(The preassembled ones where you just gotta put in the posts and drill in the big wooden panels) it was quite a lot of work while only being able to ask 2 friends for help but after a few days I was done. My neighbors kept coming out to complain, begging me to remove it etc claiming they now didn't even have a view.

I figured they were overreacting but now that I am done their yard is literally tiny and their view went from a beatiful hilly landscape with woods, to the top of a wooden screen meanwhile my view is still the same. Their kids have since come over to ask to play in my yard as have a ton of other neighborhood kids as have their parents who were angry their kids now have nowhere safe to play and I am starting to feel s**tty.

Fencing a yard to reclaim privacy is a homeowner’s right, but it’s a match to a powder keg when neighbors feel robbed of views and play areas. This homeowner’s patience wore thin after repeated trespassing by kids, ignored by parents who dismissed their concerns. The fence, a last resort, restored peace but tanked the neighbors’ scenic outlook, igniting a classic suburban showdown.

The homeowner’s stance is rooted in property ownership, while neighbors lean on an informal community norm of shared spaces. Real estate expert Barbara Corcoran advises, “Your property is yours to control, but good fences need good communication”. Here, the neighbors’ refusal to respect boundaries left the homeowner with little choice, though earlier dialogue might have softened the blow.

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This reflects a broader issue: neighbor disputes over land use. A 2022 survey by FindLaw found 42% of Americans have faced property line conflicts. The homeowner should confirm the fence complies with local codes and isn’t on easements, as suggested by Reddit, to avoid legal pushback.

For solutions, they could offer limited yard access during non-work hours or mediate with neighbors to ease tensions.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

Reddit swung hard for the homeowner, torching the neighbors’ entitlement with a mix of sass and logic. Here’s the top comments that lit up the thread:

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happy_panda2400 - NTA and depending on where you live you might be liable if someone gets hurt on your property.

NanaLeonie - NTA. Your neighbors are acting like you’re obligated for your yard to be a public park. Plus they were obnoxious about it. Put up whatever kind of fence is allowed by county code.

pr0jektile - NTA. You asked them nicely to not have their children play there as it was affecting your ability to get work done. They ignored your request and their children continued to use your private property, and disrupt your workday. To add, depending on where you live, if one of them got hurt on your property, you may be liable for some of the injuries.

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You put a fence up around your private property, as a result of their unwillingness to cooperate. Perhaps you could have reached a middle-ground where they could use it outside of working hours and on your days off, but they basically told you to go pound sand when you said you didn't want them there. Now, their reduced view and lack of any flexibility on your part is their own fault.

I would make sure you check with your local building code office and make sure the fence is allowed, that the appropriate permits are pulled and approved if required, and that all of the fence sits inside the property line and doesn't block any easements that would give the neighbors a legal means to force you to remove the fence.

[Reddit User] - NTA. It’s your property. The parents have no say. I bet most just don’t want the kids being inside bugging them.

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Skippy2716 - NTA. You tried asking nicely, they acted entitled. You have the right to be able to work outside undisturbed. Their view is very much a nonissue unless they want to make you an offer for the section behind your house.

Glad-Translator-3502 - NTA Did you trade your time for money? Did you buy this house with an attached parcel of land? Did you ask nicely for kids not to be in your yard? Did you pay for the fence and materials? Well I have news NTA, maybe I grew up in an area where you just don’t trespass on land even as a kid that’s disrespectful.

srslyeffedmind - NTA the same parents who quickly replied with “kids will be kids” would sue you for everything if one of their kids was injured on your property.

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tnichols14 - NTA. I swear you give people an inch they take a mile. We have 23 acres with 2 ponds. The property sat empty for quite a while before we moved it. So people got used to fishing out of our larger pond whenever they wanted.

One day after we moved in my husband caught a a guy and his buddy finishing our back pond (smoking pot. It's illegal in our state) We had saw their car parked on our property. He walked over and had a polite conversation that this was our property and he wasn't comfortable with them at the back of out property doing good knows what.

At the end of the conversation my husband told it was alright for just that one guy to come by every once in a while but that was about it. Several weeks later my husband deployed and while I was out feeding the animals one night I saw the same car and 5 others!

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All came over to hunt and fish our property without permission. Had to go out and put up Posted Property signs all over because people felt entitled to our property. We did not want to be responsible for some i**ot getting hurt on our property or causing damage.

IllustriousComplex6 - Info: did you confirm that they don't have any view rights, easements or property boundaries within the fenced off area?

Amythist35 - NTA they were basically letting their kids run wild on your property and are upset their free playground is gone. You had to do the fence, because they refused to listen to your concerns.. I also bet these parents would sue you if anyone of their precious children got hurt on your property.. They don't care how their actions affected you. Just how not having access is affecting them.
These Reddit zingers cut deep, but do they overlook the neighbors’ perspective? Or is the fence a slam-dunk for property rights?

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This backyard saga is a wild ride of screaming kids, stubborn neighbors, and a fence that flipped the script. The homeowner’s stand for peace turned their yard into Fort Knox, but at the cost of neighborly vibes. Was the fence a boss move for privacy, or a shade too petty? Would you let the kids keep playing or double down on the barricade? Spill your thoughts below—what’s the play here?

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