AITA for blowing up at my sister for naming her daughter after a fungal infection?

In a cozy living room filled with the glow of anticipation, a baby shower buzzed with laughter and gifts, including a $900 crib and a playful list of joke names from a brother to his pregnant sister. Their shared love for quirky humor, rooted in their medical backgrounds, made the list a lighthearted jab—until the sister announced her daughter’s name: Malassezia, a fungal infection straight from the gag list. What was meant as a chuckle turned into a family face-off.

The brother’s jaw dropped as he realized she was serious, picturing his niece’s future taunts over a name tied to itchy skin woes. His protests met stubborn resolve, leaving him wondering if he’d overstepped or if his sister’s choice was a misstep. Caught between humor gone awry and concern for his niece, this sibling spat raises a question: when does a name cross the line?

‘AITA for blowing up at my sister for naming her daughter after a fungal infection?’

So my (20M) sister (27F) and her husband had been struggling a LOT with baby names. She was determined to find the single perfect name-- even by the time of her baby shower (nearly five weeks before the due date), she didn't seem any closer to picking something out than she was at the start of her pregnancy

Anyway, I knew she was struggling, so in addition to the $900 wooden crib on her list that I got for her, I gave her a list of (obviously) joke baby names. We have a really close relationship, and it was in line with both our senses of humor.

She's a nurse, and I'm a biology student, so all the names were medications, infections, unpleasant animals, etcetera, that all sound like lovely girls' names out of context. Some of them were a little bit obscure, sure, but I included some obvious ones like 'Viagra' and 'Hernia' for good measure..

Two weeks later, she told me she and her husband had finally settled on a name. Malassezia. The baby's name is Malassezia. One of the names on my joke list. Outside of the immediate issues (nearly impossible to pronounce on the first try, the 'ass' smack dab it the middle of it,

the first syllable being mal-, literally meaning bad or evil), it's also the name of a very common fungal infection. One that my sister and I are both genetically predisposed to. *One that we've both had multiple times throughout our lives.* Her daughter will almost certainly catch it at some time!

I pointed it out to her, and she said that yes, she knew what it meant, and she knew my list was intended to be a joke, but she just *really* liked the way it sounded. (I don't think the husband knows what it means- I think he'd reject it if he did.) She says that it's so obscure that no one will ever think twice about it.

(Except, you know, when little baby Malassezia turns 14, finds a weird spot on her neck, and goes on her phone to google what it is...) I told her that the name was completely unacceptable, and I was shocked that she chose it. I even suggested some similar names, like Mallory, Azalea, or Anastasia, that would be more acceptable,

but she wouldn't hear it! She said that since I'm not one of the parents, I have no business telling her what she can and cannot name her child, and that I'm stepping way out of line. I think it's pregnancy hormones, and she'll regret the decision very soon after her daughter is born.

This brother’s shock at his sister’s naming choice is understandable—Malassezia, a fungal infection, isn’t your typical nursery pick. His joke list, meant to ease her naming stress, backfired spectacularly, and his pushback reflects care for his niece’s future. Yet, his sister’s insistence on the name, despite knowing its meaning, suggests either defiance or a unique taste, creating a sibling rift over parental rights.

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Naming expert Dr. Laura Wattenberg, creator of Namerology, observes, “Names carry social weight; unusual ones can invite scrutiny or bullying”. Malassezia’s obscurity might shield it initially, but its medical link could spark embarrassment, especially given the family’s predisposition. The sister’s claim that “no one will notice” overlooks how Google and teenage peers can uncover such quirks, potentially impacting her daughter’s confidence.

Baby naming disputes are common, with 30% of parents reporting family disagreements, per a 2022 BabyCenter survey. The brother’s suggestions like Mallory show he’s trying to bridge the gap, but his sister’s autonomy prevails. Her dismissal of his concerns as meddling highlights a tension: family input versus parental freedom. If she’s not pranking, her choice may reflect pregnancy-driven resolve, but regret could follow.

To move forward, the brother should gently share his concerns with the husband, as Dr. Wattenberg advises neutral third-party input to depersonalize disputes. If the name sticks, supporting his niece with confidence-building nicknames could soften future challenges. This saga invites reflection on how far family should weigh in on naming decisions.

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Check out how the community responded:

Reddit’s response was a mix of disbelief and amusement, with many siding with the brother’s alarm over Malassezia’s fungal roots. Commenters worried about future bullying, likening it to names like Chlamydia, but others suspected the sister was pranking him back, given their shared humor. The community leaned toward cautioning her choice while respecting her parental rights.

gopher-tuna − NTA - I share your frustration and you're looking out for your niece. While your sis is right that it's *her* parental right, you're not stepping out of line -- you're family and you're cautioning her. Reminds me of a girl in my class back in elementary school who (whom?) had a unique name;

Spontaneous... that was her name. We were all fine with it until 6th grade, when that was one of the words we were taught. You can imagine what chaos ensued for the poor girl.. Also... Malassezia sounds like a Disney villain.

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Question: would the hospital allow that name? I know people choose 'unique' names for children, but could you really name your child Chlamydia? That's not considered emotional abuse?

Parking_Pomelo_3856 − NTA. Just tell the husband what it means. He’ll shut it down

TeddyStella − Is it possible your sister is trolling you back about the baby name? Most of my friends and family have had no idea what baby name they liked until the baby arrived and some still struggled.

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There is no rule you HAVE to know what name you’ll choose to name the baby prior to arrival. Hell my parents named my sister, forgot what they named her when filling out paperwork and named her something different.

Neakhanie − Dude, she’s pranking you.

Ulquiorra1312 − Nta its bad. Worse no obvious short form. I knew someone whose initials were GAS. I personnally didnt notice my signature reads as arsey jones (R C JONES)

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Fluid-Text-3425 − She's messing with you

BliepBlipBlop − It's there a chance that she's fooling you in return?🤔

Traditional-Pen1029 − YTA. Only because you gave a joke name list and seem unable to tell she's joking back. Our in utero baby name was Maurice Morris (similar) and then Mackerel Sam for the next one. The only part of that which ended up true is Sam as a middle name because we got so used to calling them that.

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AiryContrary − Wow, I thought it was gonna be Candida.

8blackhand8 − NTA. Is it possible that the sister may be pulling a counter joke on the OP? 😂

The debate highlighted a universal truth: baby names spark strong opinions. Some urged the brother to alert the husband, while others chuckled at the absurdity, suggesting the sister’s trolling. Reddit agreed that names matter, but the line between concern and overreach is blurry in family dynamics.

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This tale of a joke gone wrong shows how a playful gesture can spiral into serious family drama. The brother’s heart is in the right place, but his sister’s bold choice stands firm, leaving a quirky name at the center of their clash. How would you handle a loved one’s wild naming decision, balancing care with respect? Share your thoughts below.

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