AITA for blowing up at my friend for her behaviour at my wedding?

Picture a glowing bride, radiant in white, surrounded by love and laughter—until a whispered rumor slices through the joy. At this dream wedding, a lifelong friendship unraveled when Anna, the bride’s best friend, spun a tale of betrayal. The bride, expecting a day of celebration, instead faced a sting of deceit as Anna claimed she was ousted from the bridal party out of jealousy. The air thickened with tension, leaving guests buzzing and the bride heartbroken.

What started as a day of vows and unity turned into a battlefield of loyalty. The bride, caught between love for her friend and the sting of betrayal, faced a dilemma that left her questioning decades of friendship. Readers, brace yourselves for a story of wedding drama, whispered lies, and a confrontation that changed everything.

‘AITA for blowing up at my friend for her behaviour at my wedding?’

So I have this friend Anna 32F. We’ve been best friends since we started school and despite a few small arguments we have always been close. About 2 years ago my now husband and I decided to get married after 10 years of being together and 2 children we set the date for about a month ago.

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I asked Anna to be my MOH and she immediately accepted. About 7 months ago at my bridal shower Anna excitedly announced she was pregnant. She doesn’t have a partner so she told everyone how she was using donated sperm. I was so happy for her. She assumed I was going to kick her out of the bridal party and I told her it wasn’t happening.

She could do as much or as little as she wanted to do because I’ve been there and I know how exhausting pregnancy can be. As the months progressed Anna came to me and said she was feeling o**rwhelmed. She had deemed her pregnancy to be “high risk” because she was so tired and put herself on bed rest.

I said it was no problem, if she still wanted to be in the wedding I would make any accomodations for her so she could. She told me she wanted to come to the wedding but not be in the bridal party anymore, I told her no problems. It was fine. Whatever made her happy. In the meantime I took her to her appointments and she came to my dress fittings.

I ended up asking another good friend to be MOH and she was thrilled. The day of the wedding comes and Anna turns up in her MOH gown (no problems, I assume she just felt beautiful in the dress) and proceeds to tell everyone that I’d kicked her out of the wedding because I was jealous of her pregnancy and I didn’t want a “fat girl” in my wedding pictures.

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Everyone kept this well hidden from me on the day but in at least 5 of the videos from the wedding you can clearly hear Anna talking about me telling people that I’m such a horrible friend and I’m jealous because she’s pregnant. I was shocked and the next time I caught up with Anna I asked her what the problem was, I tried to be accomodating but she insisted on not being in the wedding.

It was her choice. She said it was just a joke and she was just being funny. It wasn’t a big deal. I yelled at her that it wasn’t funny and people believed her claims. I told her she was an awful friend for doing that to me. I wasn’t jealous of her, I had tried to be a good friend to her but this felt like a slap in the face.

She exploded at me about it and said I was a bridezilla. I told her to leave my house and we haven’t spoken since. Now she is saying that I verbally abused her for being pregnant and ruined her pregnancy by making it all about me and my stupid wedding. AITA?

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Update: I just heard through a mutual friend that apparently once I got engaged, she was saying that she should have been married first because I had kids first. She initially was going to wear a white maternity dress to the wedding but everyone told her not to. So she planned all of this. I feel really stupid for trusting her so much but lesson learned. I’ll never speak to her again now.

Anna’s actions at the wedding reveal a tangled web of jealousy and manipulation. As Dr. Irene Levine, a psychologist specializing in friendships, notes in her blog, The Friendship Doctor, “Jealousy can erode even the strongest bonds when one friend feels overshadowed by another’s milestones”. Anna’s choice to spread rumors at the wedding suggests a need to reclaim attention during the OP’s moment.

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This situation highlights a broader issue: how envy can destabilize friendships. Research from the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (2018) shows that 30% of friendships face strain due to competitive dynamics, especially during major life events like weddings. Anna’s pregnancy announcement at the bridal shower and her later accusations point to a pattern of seeking the spotlight.

Dr. Levine advises, “Honest communication is key to resolving conflicts, but when trust is broken, setting boundaries becomes essential.” For the OP, confronting Anna was a natural response to betrayal, though yelling may have escalated tensions. Instead, calmly addressing the issue and limiting contact could protect emotional well-being.

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To navigate this, the OP could reflect on the friendship’s history and prioritize relationships built on mutual respect. Readers can learn from this: addressing jealousy early with open dialogue or distancing from toxic dynamics can preserve peace.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a spicy mix of support and shade for the OP’s saga. Their takes were as lively as a wedding dance floor, with some calling Anna’s behavior a masterclass in pettiness. Here’s the unfiltered pulse of the crowd.

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thirdtryisthecharm − NTA. She's been setting you up to the the 'bad guy' in her narrative since before the pregnancy announcement. Are you sure you were close before this?

Old_Buffalo2686 − NTA. Time to cut ties with this nut job

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Tricky-Flamingo-7491 − NTA This girl is absolutely not your friend. I'm genuinely baffled by her behavior at your wedding, and she has the audacity to STILL try and play the victim? You didn't make her pregnancy about you, she made your wedding about her. Just block her everywhere, you're better off without her in your life.

mygreyangel − Anna is jealous, it's very telling that she chose your bridal shower to announce her pregnancy. Everything she's done has been to pull the focus onto her or to spoil things for you.. She may have been your friend in the past, she isn't now.. Definitely NTA

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murphy2345678 − NTA. It sounds like Anna is jealous that you have a husband/father for your children and she doesn’t. I would question if she used a sperm donor or it was a ONS.

[Reddit User] − NTA - Up until the point where caught her talking s**t about you at your wedding I was thinking “What’s the problem here?” Because it seemed like you both were being good to each other but then Anna turned out to be a snake in the grass.. From what you stated it doesn’t sound like the things she was saying was a “joke” and if it was a joke, she’s got an awfully “funny” sense of humor.

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Popular-Emu7380 − NTA. She needs therapy. And you need to stop defending her, ffs, in your replies. She is not a true friend. She lied to you, and about you. Wake up. This “friendship” is unhealthy. Be glad it’s over, and block her. She made her bed. Let her lie in it.

coldgator − NTA. Something is wrong with her.

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Straight-Singer-2912 − She said it was just a joke and she was just being funny. It wasn’t a big deal.. oh HA HA HA! Can she explain the joke to me, then, because I don't get it...?. She just wants EVERYTHING to be about her. She was on VIDEO telling people you were a horrible friend. How is that a 'joke', when now she's saying you verbally abused her?

There's nothing more to say. She is not a friend. Block her and drop her. Make sure your friends and close family know the truth. No matter what YOU do or say, she is going to lie to make herself look better. She sounds awful and I'm **really** surprised this is the first time you've seen this side of her; I bet if you look back there's lots of other times.. NTA

[Reddit User] − Sorry but your friend sounds bat sh#$ crazy.

These Redditors rallied behind the OP, slamming Anna’s lies as a low blow. Some saw her actions as a cry for attention, while others urged the OP to cut ties for good. But do these fiery takes capture the full story, or are they just fueling the drama?

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This tale of wedding betrayal leaves us pondering the fragility of trust. The OP’s heartbreak shows how quickly a friend’s envy can turn joy into chaos. While Anna’s actions stung, the OP’s courage in confronting her speaks to the strength it takes to stand up for oneself. Reflecting on this, it’s clear that friendships thrive on honesty, not hidden agendas. What would you do if a close friend betrayed you on your big day? Share your thoughts and experiences below!

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