AITA for being upset that wealthy boyfriend got me a cheap gift?

Imagine the salty breeze of a luxurious yacht, the sun glinting off crystal waves, and a young woman, thrilled to be welcomed by her boyfriend’s wealthy family. The 21-year-old, beaming with gratitude, joins the group as her boyfriend hands out gifts—sparkling watches, elegant dresses, and bottles of fine wine dazzle the crowd. Then, her turn arrives: a flimsy plastic bracelet, the kind tossed out for free at his family’s company desk. Eyes turn, some amused, others pitying, and her cheeks burn with a mix of shock and shame.

Was this a misstep or a message? She bites her tongue, thanks him, but the sting lingers like sea spray on a sunburn. Later, a heartfelt chat reveals a botched grand gesture—a dream meetup with her favorite TikTok cat gone awry. Does this excuse the public fumble? Let’s sail into this choppy tale of gifts, gaffes, and good intentions.

‘AITA for being upset that wealthy boyfriend got me a cheap gift?’

My (21F) boyfriend (21M) comes from a wealthy family, and I am from a middle class family. His family went on a cruise, and all the siblings and their s/o’s came along. I was happy to be there and very grateful that his parents invited me. At one point, everyone was sitting down together and my boyfriend started bringing out gifts.

His parents and siblings and their s/o’s got things like watches, dresses, fine wines, and other clearly expensive things. When he got to me, he gave me one of those plastic bracelets with their company name on it. You can get those at the company’s main headquarters for free. I was a little taken aback and a little embarrassed but didn’t want to be rude.

Everyone was kind of looking at me in a way that they were both amused and also pitiful. I didn’t want to complain so I said thanks and moved on. When we got inside, I asked my boyfriend what that was about and he told me to be grateful and stop complaining because he always gets me nice gifts, which is true. I just stopped pushing it because I felt like I was being selfish there and he did have a point.

I feel like what he did was very degrading. He could’ve gotten me no gift at all and that would’ve been less humiliating. I feel like trash for feeling this way, but he’s always been mindful and I don’t understand why he did that. It made me feel cheap in front of everyone.. Idk, AITA for feeling this way and even bringing it up?

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Navigating a yacht-sized gift gaffe can feel like steering through a storm—tricky and disorienting! This young woman’s hurt stems from a jarring contrast: her boyfriend’s lavish presents to family clashed with a cheap bracelet for her, waved in front of all. His intent wasn’t malice, but a panicked pivot after a scammed cat meetup plan sank. Still, the public sting and his sharp “be grateful” retort left her feeling like a bargain-bin afterthought.

Gift-giving in relationships often mirrors deeper dynamics. A 2021 study from the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found 68% of couples view gifts as symbols of value and care—misfires can signal disconnect (source). Here, the boyfriend’s flub wasn’t cost, but context—public optics amplified the awkwardness.

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Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, notes, “A gift is a tangible object that says, ‘I was thinking of you’—its thoughtfulness, not price, carries the weight” (source). Applied here, the bracelet flopped because it lacked intent, and his defensiveness dodged the real issue: her hurt. He’s owned it, which is a start—kudos for that!

Moving ahead, clear the air: share feelings calmly, no blame, and ask what he’d do differently. Build trust—suggest a fun, low-stakes redo, like a cozy date. Missteps happen; it’s the repair that counts.

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Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

The Reddit squad dives in with fiery, funny takes—dissecting this yacht gift mix-up with flair! From cries of a shady “test” to quips about saving face, they’ve got theories galore. Check out the raw buzz below.

CrystalQueen3000 - NTA Normally I’d vote the other way and have a chat about entitlement but holy s**t girl, that was a pointed dig at you designed to make you feel less than.. He did it publicly and in front of all his family.. I’d nope the f**k out of that relationship.. It’s not about the cost of the gift, it’s about everything else.

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GreenEyedKittyCat - NTA Even though his family might be acting very nice towards you, they may be suspicious that you are only with your boyfriend for money. So this might have been a test, and/or a way of him proving to them that you don’t care about material things.

VoyagerVII - NTA. The issue isn't that he didn't get you a good enough gift; the issue is that he very carefully and deliberately showed you up in front of his family.. I would ask him in private what he was trying to do there.

PerkyLurkey - NTA simply stop mentioning it, and behave as if nothing has happened. Personally I loathe these types of tests, but you too can use this situation as a test. This goes into your vault. This entire event. In the vault. You don’t mention it, you don’t readdress it, you barely remember it if he asked. You simply say “what’s that? Bracelet?

Oh, I thought it was a quirky gift that was very interesting, not something I’ve dwelled on” and then brightly change the subject. This isn’t a big deal, because you don’t have any of the information concerning this situation. So you must let it go, but keep in mind there is this “thing” that may resurface with him, by him running this play again. If another “test” happens, you can be prepared.

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You can decide if you want to,respond with a joke, “oh it’s a plastic foot file, which is either a gigantic hint about me needing a pedicure, or I, being reminded again that I’m not yet part of the family” and then just smile brightly, and pretend to scuff up your heel. No big deal. OR you address it head on, “oh testing my level of gold-diggery with a lesser gift to, gauge my reaction,

how many years do I need to date you before I’m trusted to not love you for the gifts you buy me?” And then just stare at him. Don’t look,away, don’t feel guilty, don’t be angry, simply state a fact. Depending on which way you choose, you will need practice. You will need to practice, without crying during this interaction. Maybe if you practice 100 times, you can be ready.

This will happen again. You need to be ready. You will need to,decide what to,do before it happens again. But you can’t bring it up beforehand, because then, you will be judged as caring only about the money. You need to react in the moment to-start a conversation .. Good luck PS he may be proposing soon, and wanted to test your reaction in front of family. It’s a BS move, but it’s possible. Be ready.

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stacity - NTA A company bracelet? I think this was a gag or a test? A test whether you’re in it for him or his money? Who knows? But there’s some disconnect here… Edit: I say gag because you were thankful of the gift and since this was done in front of everybody, they must of felt bad that you actually believed it was a good enough gift. This is my wild take.

Tradingfool0001 - NTA but it would seem he showed everyone your place in his life.

[Reddit User] - Maybe a bit of a joke that fell flat? I think there's something missing here and I can't quite put my finger on it. Did you guys get into a fight or something? It feels so wildly out of character for any significant other to do, especially amongst a bunch of friends or family.

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Maybe the family thinks you're not in it for the right reasons and your reaction seemingly confirmed their suspicions? Maybe he had another gift planned but the moment got ruined. The story seems off, but I'm gonna go with a NTA because with the info I have, it just seems like a crappy encounter all around.

Fullback70 - This story is weird. A 21 year old bought his SILs dresses? How would he know what size they were or what they liked? Same with buying fine wine, how does he know the preference’s of the recipients. That’s not something that most 21 year old would care about. Then to purposely single out his girlfriend in front of the family like that. Weird.

SneezyCanuck - Why were there gifts being given out? Was he the only one giving gifts? I feel like there is lots of missing information.. You can feel however you feel.

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azula1983 - the stop complaining part feels like he did it on purpose to humiliate you. I do not care about money/stuff that much, but that would hurt. Not something you do by mistake either. i would let it rest since you are stuck on a ship with him....

but this feels all sorts off wrong. NTA, after you are off the ship, best get a clear answer to why he did that. He is not a beter person for having rich parents, and should not be trying to make his girlfriend feel like he us.

These zesty Reddit takes spark a laugh and a think—did he fumble a test or just trip over good intentions? Does this sail smoothly now, or is there a leak in this love boat?

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This yacht-side saga drifts from a cringey bracelet blunder to a boyfriend’s scrambled save—his heart aimed high, but the delivery sank low. A 21-year-old woman felt cheap, yet his apology and wild cat tale steer them toward calmer waters. Gifts aren’t about dollars, but thought—and this one missed the mark before a course correction. All’s well that ends well, they laugh, but the ripple lingers. What would you do if a gift left you sidelined in front of family? Share your thoughts, stories, or sage advice—let’s navigate this together!

The author has added to this article:

 

*UPDATE*. Hey everyone! Thanks for all your comments and theories. Some of them made me cry, some of them made me laugh, and some of them made me angry and confused. All of them helped me gain confidence to talk to my boyfriend about the situation. I straight up asked him about what went though his mind when he did that. I told him I’ve been thinking about it ever since we came back from the trip.

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Why was he even giving our gifts? Why did he give me that? Why did he think it was okay?. Actually, no one on here guessed it right! Neither did I! He was giving out gifts because he wanted to give me a big gift, and I was supposed to be the last one. He actually had managed to set up a day with me and this adorable cat I follow on TikTok.

The owner lives close near the harbor where we’d be stopping, and I’ve loved this cat since 2020 when we first started dating. I still stalk the page regularly! But the owner had backed out last minute, even after charging a s**t ton. We were supposed to meet soon, but now he didn’t have a gift for me and basically got scammed.

He said what he did was stupid and he just took a bracelet out last minute to save face… but he realizes now it was stupid lol. As for his comment, he apologized and said he has no excuse. He said he was more angry with himself and the cat owner and took it out on me.

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I understood and forgave him because it was out of character and I know he just wanted to do something nice for me. Alls well it ends well guys 😂 We’re moving past this! Sucks that I can’t meet that little kitty, but this is a story I’ll always remember.

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