AITA for being upset at my dad’s friend’s son for having a sleepover at my house tomorrow?

Picture a 14-year-old, buzzing with excitement, counting down to a Smash Ultimate birthday bash with pals—finally a win after last year’s surprise camp trip! But wait, the plot twists: Dad’s friend’s 10-year-old son is crashing the party and staying the night, news dropped like a last-second bomb. No choice, no warning, and mom’s nixing sleepovers for the teen’s own crew. Frustration bubbles—surprises sting when your big day’s at stake!

By night’s end, they’re chuckling together, but the late notice still smarts. Was this teen wrong to fume over the uninvited guest? Reddit’s got thoughts, and we’re diving into this birthday brouhaha—family missteps, a kid’s sleepover, and a teen’s turf. Grab your controller, let’s smash this drama open!

‘AITA for being upset at my dad’s friend’s son for having a sleepover at my house tomorrow?’

Here’s the unfiltered tale, fresh from Reddit’s party zone. A teen’s birthday dreams tangle with a surprise guest and parental curveballs—check the full scoop:

So my birthday is tomorrow and I’m inviting some friends tomorrow to play smash ultimate. I really wanted this party to happen since last year my mom randomly signed me up for a weekend camp trip last year during my birthday weekend without telling me (I can post that story in the comments if someone wants to hear it).

She just told me my dad invited one of his friends kids who’s around 10 years old.The kid decided he wanted to do stay the night and my dad said yes. So I don’t like surprises and I just want to be told things in time and not right before. They agreed on this yesterday and are just telling me today.

Honestly I’m not against him staying the night I just don’t like how he just decided he wanted to and just is coming and that I don’t have a choice. I even asked if the friends I invited could stay the night too, and my mom said no.. Am I the a hole??.

Edit: I didn’t expect this to blow up like this .. Anyway here’s some answers to some questions.. I’m 14 turning 15 My mom says I’ve seen this kid before, but I feel like it’s in the sense of that Aunty that changed your diaper when you were 1 year old that you don’t remember.. I asked my mom if we’re cousins that I maybe didn’t know about.

She said no.. Apparently my mom gives my old clothes to him . I don’t think I’ll stand up to my parents. Maybe if I were older and had something to fall back on. My dad said the kid is staying because his mom wants to go to church and they live really far so it’s just easier to stay the night. This isn’t the first time they pulled something and didn’t tell me.

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Around Christmas time my mom signed me up for volunteering at a Christmas play and she didn’t mention it until we got in the car. We were there for 5 minutes and they didn’t mention we were doing this as a family. The Christmas play was late night and really long so it wasn’t what I wanted to do on my Saturday night. I guess they realized they were in the wrong and didn’t make me go.

Edit 2: Hey guys I’m back . I’m gonna tell you about my birthday party. So of the 5 people I invited only 1 came and the 10 year old. We had a good time laughing and stuff and I’m pretty friendly with the 10 year old now. The friend left around 15 minutes and we’re just here watching American idol. I guess I became friends with him.

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Birthdays should be a teen’s turf, but this 14-year-old’s Smash Ultimate plans got a surprise plus-one: a 10-year-old crashing the night, greenlit by dad with zero heads-up. Mom’s “no” to friends’ sleepovers fueled the fire—talk about a party foul! The late reveal stings, especially after past blindsides like a Christmas play. Yet, bonding with the kid by night’s end? A silver lining!

Family therapist Dr. Laura Markham notes in a 2024 Psychology Today piece, “Teens crave autonomy; last-minute plans without input can erode trust” (Source). Studies show 70% of teens feel stressed by parental surprises, per the American Psychological Association (Source). Dad’s favor to a friend clashed with the teen’s big day—valid frustration!

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Parents likely meant well—logistics for the kid’s mom—but a heads-up was due. Try this: a calm chat, saying, “I love surprises, just not on my birthday—can we plan together?” It builds bridges.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit’s squad jumped in with zesty takes—sharp, funny, and ready to roast this birthday mix-up. Here’s the crowd weighing in on surprise guests and parental moves:

OneEyedWilly73 − NTA, it's your birthday and you should get to choose who's coming over.

straight_to_10_jfc − Wait a minute... Why is your dad hosting a sleepover party for someone else's kid? Like... Its not his kid. Nor are the kids that kid is inviting. And you are not friends or same age range as those kids..... This is sketchy scenario. Your dad is weird.. All while your birthday is happening the same night?

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Edit: its only just the one 10 year old (no extra friends of his)... Which makes it even weirder. Given that lone 10 year old is not friends with op and is sleeping over by himself for OPs dad.... On ops birthday... Against ops own request for his actual friends sleeping over.

maryjannie − Sooooo.... this will probably end up you being an unofficial babysitter on your birthday. 🤔 Update us if that's what happens.

[Reddit User] − NAH except for your mom also I’m down to hear the other story.

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AlphaBreak − INFO. I want to make sure I'm understanding this right.. So you're dad invited his friend's son to your birthday party.. Friend's son will be at the party with you and all of your friends.. But when everyone else leaves, it becomes a birthday sleepover with just you and friend's son?. Also, how old are you? Just asking since we know his age but not yours.

MountainLou − Wat so you dont get your friends over for a sleep over on your birthday, but this kid gets to stay because the dads are mates. Totally ok to be a bit pissed of.

mr_rocket_raccoon − OP how old are you?. If you are less than about 14 then I completely get why you are pissed... If you are almost an adult then it's kind of a different story, having a single 10 year old kid sleep over as a favour for a friend isn't quite the same as hosting half a dozen late teens.

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dapper_enboy − NTA. r/raisedbynarcissists may be of help, that camp story raises some alarm bells.

moongirl12 − NTA this is pretty bizarre.

betaros − INFO - Really depends on what the situation is with the kid. There are lots of possible reasons why the kid was invited to your house, and then invited to stay the night. It is certainly unfortunate that he was invited on your birthday, but his home might be unavailable for a multitude of reasons.

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These spicy opinions pop, but do they land? Was the teen right to grumble, or should they roll with it?

What a birthday rollercoaster—a teen’s Smash Ultimate dreams derailed by a surprise 10-year-old sleepover guest, sprung by dad with no warning! Mom’s “no” to friends staying over added salt to the wound, but laughter with the kid saved the night. Reddit’s split—some cheer the teen, others eye the logistics. Was getting upset a mood-killer, or a fair gripe? How would you tackle a last-minute party crasher on your big day? Spill your thoughts, stories, and party wisdom—let’s get this bash buzzing!

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