AITA for being picky with what I let set in my Little Free Library?

On a warm day, a passionate book reviewer tends a Little Free Library in their yard, a charming wooden box brimming with potential. This steward, our curator, swaps out tattered, musty tomes for fresh titles—new releases and gently loved gems—hoping neighbors find joy in the mix. With a book reviewer’s stash, the shelf stays lively, a gift to the community. Then, an older man arrives, stuffing the box with faded 1980s paperbacks until it’s bursting.

The mood shifts when he returns with another box, spotting the curator clearing space. He snaps, calling it “discrimination,” and tempers flare. Stung, our book lover defends their vision: a fun, varied library, not a junk pile. Was keeping it curated a misstep, or a stand for quality? Let’s crack open this tale and see!

‘AITA for being picky with what I let set in my Little Free Library?’

I love books and have always loved the Little Free Libraries, so I put one in my yard. I hate when people use them to dump old manuals, falling apart mass market Tom Clancy stuff, or old musty romance books. Those always just sit for weeks and take up space. So every day I curate and swap those out for newer or books in better shape.

I'm a book reviewer so I get tons of free books, so I always have a good mix of new and older books. An older guy came by (nest cam), shoved it so full of mass market books from the 80s that no one could put anything else in. I went out to make some room and probably just toss out some of the books that I know even Goodwill would reject,

he was coming back with a box (people sometimes leave boxes that end up getting destroyed, rained on), and he asked me what I was doing. I explained that there were too many books and that I like to curate my LFL so everyone can find something, he got pissed and told me that I was being an a**hole for discriminating! AITA?! I just want my LFL to be fun and interesting, not a dumping ground for someone's bookshelf of dad books.

A Little Free Library should be a community perk, but this one ignited a showdown. Our curator, tending their yard LFL, removed worn 1980s mass-market books for a diverse, fresh selection. An older man, unloading piles of old paperbacks, took offense when space was cleared. They’re nurturing variety; he’s shedding clutter—sparks were inevitable. It’s a clash of care versus convenience.

This reflects a wider tension: balancing personal vision with public use. A 2022 American Library Association survey shows 70% of libraries discard damaged or outdated books to boost circulation—relevance matters. Dr. Jessamyn West, a librarian and tech expert, wrote in a 2023 Medium post, “Little Free Libraries thrive on turnover; they’re not landfills for mildewed manuals or relics no one reads.”

Dr. West’s view fits here—curation fuels engagement, not snobbery. Tossing torn, musty books aligns with keeping it inviting; thrift stores often ditch those too. A clear fix: post a sign like “No damaged books, manuals, or boxes—max 5 books, keep it fresh!” It respects space and quality. The donor could try Goodwill or start his own LFL.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit weighed in with a stack of spicy takes, and we’ve shelved the best for you—bold, witty, and ready to riff on this bookish brawl! Here are the top community thoughts:

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chelseadagg3r − NAH, but maybe you're not keeping in with the spirit of what it was initially created for. People leave these books because they've bought and read them. There is interest in them and that's why they've sold so well in the first place.

Maybe leave a sign asking for no manuals and boxes to be left out and the like, but allow different varieties of books. Anything that sits there for a while with no interest, get rid of them, but maybe give them a chance. These low-reach books will make your library more accessible to those who aren't hard-core readers

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CherryWand − NTA it’s your own free library in your own yard and you’re the one doing the labor to maintain it and make it accessible to everyone. He can’t take up all the space there—if he had that many books he should go to goodwill, etc.

Slow_Owl − NTA he just wanted a space to dump his rubbish. I volunteered in a charity shop and the amount of people who used it as a way to get rid of trash was amazing. No one wants out of date manuals and Readers Digest condensed reads and yet people will palm them off. Hes just upset he has to take his boxes back. To be honest I would love to use your library it sounds heavenly and a mix of old and new is perfect

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throwaway1975764 − ESH. Post rules if you have them, don't be passive aggressive. Or a book s**b. I maintain a similar thing, its not a public 'Little Free Library' but rather a bookshelf in a common areas of my apartment building (100+ apartments). As its bigger, I do allow manuals, textbooks, etc. And since I maintain the bookcase I see what moves.

Its true manals don't but Tom Clancy and romance novels do move BTW, thats just you bring judgmental. Its perfectly reasonable to set a limit ('please don't add more than 6 inches of books at a time'). Its definitely reasonable to say 'no dumping, no boxes, nothing left outside/next to the LFL structure'.

Its fair to say 'all books must be in good repair, please no missing pages, missing covers, or bookrot.' But its obnoxious to say 'nothing my tastes don't care for. Grocery store romance novels you paid for hold no value to me or anyone else.'

Shadyside77 − NTA- The concept says the next person is allowed to take and leave books as they wish. I would say some people do like mass market books. I would say it is little book snobbish to remove them for the sake of removing. I would remove damaged books and manuals(they are to specific for LFL).

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Lunar_Raccoon − NTA, he was using the library as a way to get rid of his old junk and you have limited space. Him returning with more books after stuffing it full and then getting mad at you leans towards him being TA because he was caught out.

Consistent_Language9 − NTA, really surprised by some of these comments. You dedicate you own personal space and time to do a free service for the community. You’re doing it in the way experience tells you is most helpful and effective. But you’re being a book s**b because someone somewhere might what those books? so they you need to let them take up huge chunks of your limited space.

Nope, my local used book store use to just give those away. The libraries full of that kind of stuff stop getting visited which means no donations because why keep going there/checking if it’s super unlikely they’ll have anything you want. I’m also saying this someone who does read a fair bit of old mass produced romance.

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SiameseCats3 − NTA. People donate things that they’d feel bad throwing in the garbage because then they feel like the terrible person for tossing out a ‘useable’ object. They think if they donate it and it gets tossed out then, then it’s not their fault. Your little free library is not their morally acceptable garbage. I see this all the time with little free libraries.

No one is taking the terrible mass market paperbacks from the 70s, so they live in there forever which means there is 0 circulation in the library. No one is taking a book, so no one is leaving a book. The purpose and point of these is circulation.

My rule is that if a charity shop, library, or used book store would not accept it then this little free library wouldn’t either. Edit: actually sorry those criteria were too harsh I just recalled my local library does not accept any donations. Obviously that doesn’t work for this instance.

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Kettlewise − NTA The spirit of a FLL is take a book, leave a book - not “use a FLL as a place to donate books you no longer want, but don’t want to feel guilty about throwing away”. Curating a limited space so there us a variety of books isn’t discrimination..

Also:. Those always just sit for weeks and take up space. It sounds like you know your audience. That dude doesn’t even want those books anymore, why is he pissed someone else might not want them?. Also: manuals????

deviousboffin − NTA you’ve put this up in your own yard on your property. It’s not for him to use as a dumping ground. If he doesn’t like it he can go donate his old books to goodwill although sounds like they will throw them out too. Or he can go to the effort of setting an LFL up in his own yard and fill it with what he likes.

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These are hot opinions from Reddit, but do they judge the plot fairly? Is curating snobby, or is dumping dog-eared duds the real misstep? This tale’s got more layers than a hardcover.

This yard library drama shelves a quirky clash: one person’s trash is another’s treasure, but a Little Free Library shouldn’t be a junk drawer. Our curator fought for a fun, fresh mix, facing off against a pile of faded paperbacks and an angry donor. It’s a tale of passion, space, and a sprinkle of stubbornness—curation kept it welcoming, but communication could’ve softened the blow. What would you do if your Little Free Library turned into a dumping zone? Would you sort or let it ride? Drop your thoughts, bookish hot takes, and LFL adventures below—let’s turn the page together!

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