AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for asking me if I’m gay again?

A straight man who has been dating a bisexual woman for five months is constantly asked the same question: “Are you gay?” It started with initial concerns in the bedroom, escalated when she told a friend, and now she’s even digging into his porn history. He’s told her — calmly, clearly, multiple times — that he’s straight. Today, she asked again. He finally lost it. Now he’s wondering if he’s an idiot for getting angry.

The online community didn’t hesitate: he wasn’t. This was no longer suspicion disguised as concern. Social media users denounced the double standards, the invasion of privacy, and the tiresome cycle of having to “prove” one’s sexuality to one’s own partner.

‘AITA for being mad at my girlfriend for asking me if I’m gay again?’

The relationship kicked off with a rocky intimate moment that planted the seed of doubt.

What began as a single question turned into a pattern of doubt and boundary-crossing.

Today’s question finally pushed him over the edge, tired of defending the obvious.

The issue is respect. Constantly being questioned about a partner’s stated identity after a clear answer is given erodes trust. Searching for porn? A blatant invasion of privacy. Add to that the irony of a bisexual woman refusing to accept a straight man’s truth, and the hypocrisy becomes even more painful.

Moreover, initial sexual difficulties are normal—anxiety, new partners, pressure. Exploiting an awkward moment to stir up lingering doubt turns intimacy into interrogation. Indeed, no one should have to “prove” their sexuality with their browsing history or repeated oaths.

Relationship therapist Esther Perel warns in her 2021 podcast: “Doubt can be a gateway to deeper connection—but only if it leads to curiosity, not accusation.” Here, it becomes controlling.

Repairing requires a serious conversation: “I told you I’m straight. I need you to believe me. If you don’t, we have bigger problems.” Set boundaries—another question equals a breakup conversation. If she’s fantasizing, repressing, or looking for a way out, she needs to be the one to address it, not him.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

The community rallied hard behind the guy, calling the repeated questioning disrespectful and invasive.

A few urged him to stand firm and consider walking away.

Some zeroed in on the privacy breach and bigger red flags.

At the end of the day, he said he’s straight—multiple times. Believing your partner shouldn’t require evidence, audits, or endless cross-examinations. If she can’t accept his truth, the relationship can’t survive on suspicion alone.

Would you stay with someone who wouldn’t take your “I’m straight” at face value?