AITA for being angry with my fiance over the prank he pulled?

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A lively family reunion, filled with chatter and warm embraces, turned sour for a 28-year-old woman when she discovered her fiancé’s shocking deception. Expecting him to join her in meeting extended family, she was instead greeted by his identical twin brother, sent as a prank to stand in his place. The betrayal stung, unraveling trust built over eight years together and leaving her humiliated in front of loved ones.

The Redditor’s anger flared when her fiancé laughed off the stunt, dismissing her hurt as overreaction while he lounged at home with video games. Her parents, livid at the disrespect, rallied behind her, amplifying the stakes of this seemingly playful ruse. This tale of trust shattered by a thoughtless prank pulls readers into a whirlwind of love, loyalty, and the fine line between humor and harm.

‘AITA for being angry with my fiance over the prank he pulled?’

I(28F) and my fiance(28M) have been together for 8 years. We met during college and we are both really excited for the future. He has a twin brother that lives overseas. They look exactly very closely alike. It is hard to tell the different at times. I have met his brother a few times over the years. He hasn't been able to visit due to the pandemic.

My family was having a large reunion this past weekend. My fiance complained about the reunion and told me he could not to attend. I told him that it would mean a lot to me and he could meet more of my relatives. The day of the reunion, he tells me that he will meet me there. I get to the reunion and I see him sitting in his car.

He was wearing a baseball hat and seemed in a good mood. While we were chatting with family members, my Aunt asked him what he did for a living and he answered. I started to see something off, but kept my moth shut. When I got home, I saw my fiance sitting on the couch playing a video game.

I asked if he had a good time at the reunion and he told me he did. I then asked for him to tell my cousins name was. He thought about it for a long minute and then started laughing. He told me that his twin brother attended the reunion and he was dropped off by a friend.

I was so angry with him that I asked him to leave so I could think everything through. He went to stay with a friend and I'm still so devastated that he would pull this kind of prank on me. My parents are very upset with him and are being very supportive. He thinks I'm being dramatic and there was no harm in what he did.. AITA for being angry with my fiance over the prank he pulled?

This story exposes the sting of a prank that crossed into betrayal. The Redditor, expecting her fiancé’s support at a family reunion, was blindsided when his twin brother attended instead, a stunt her fiancé deemed harmless. Dr. Harriet Lerner, a relationship expert, notes, “Trust hinges on mutual respect; dismissing hurt erodes it”. The fiancé’s laughter and minimization of her feelings reveal a lack of empathy.

The prank reflects a broader issue: when humor undermines trust. A 2023 study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that 64% of couples report trust issues after pranks that humiliate one partner. The fiancé’s choice to skip an event important to the Redditor, opting for games while sending his twin, prioritizes his amusement over her dignity.

Dr. Lerner’s insight underscores the need for accountability. The fiancé’s dismissal of the Redditor’s hurt as “dramatic” signals a red flag, suggesting a pattern of downplaying her feelings. The twin’s complicity and the public nature of the deception, in front of unsuspecting family, amplify the embarrassment. A genuine apology and open dialogue are crucial to rebuild trust.

To move forward, the Redditor should express her hurt calmly, setting clear boundaries about respect in their relationship. Couples counseling (resources at BetterHelp) could help navigate this breach. If the fiancé continues to trivialize her feelings, reevaluating the relationship may be necessary. Partners should ensure pranks uplift both, fostering laughter, not pain, to maintain a healthy bond.

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These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s community sided with the Redditor, labeling her not the asshole and condemning the fiancé’s prank as immature and disrespectful. They saw his twin-swap as a deliberate avoidance of her family, humiliating her in a public setting.

Commenters flagged the fiancé’s dismissal of her hurt as a warning sign, urging her to reconsider the relationship. They emphasized that pranks should bring mutual joy, not pain, and criticized his choice to prioritize video games over an event she valued.

NUT-me-SHELL − NTA. I’d have been tempted to go home and tell your fiancé how much you enjoyed sneaking away for s** during the reunion. Tell him it was the best it’s ever been.

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ElevatorOk8601 − NTA. That wasn't a 'prank' but a horrible stunt attempt for him to avoid a family reunion. I would evaluate this relationship and ask if pulling that 'prank' was really worth upsetting his future in laws. Not to mention how the extended family will feel if they find out this stunt.

usernamesarestewpid − NTA - and remember this AITA rule: 'A prank is ONLY funny if both people are left laughing.' Just because he thinks it's harmless doesn't mean that you do.

MeasurementNovel8907 − I'd have started talking about how the make-out session you had at the gathering was the hottest ever and he should ask his brother to teach him some things.

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bamf1701 − NTA. That was not a prank - that was a childish, immature stunt. It is no wonder you were angry at him. 'You are being dramatic' - the mating call of the a**hole when they have been caught and called on what they did.

I don't know if your fiancee has a history of pulling stunts like this, but he needs to grow up. Pranks are silly things that make people laugh. If they make people hurt, it is just bullying. The fact that you were hurt shows that there *was* harm done by his stunt.

Diesel07012012 − NTA.. Homie dropped these.. 🚩🚩🚩

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Sock-United − NTA Really better rethink marrying this guy. It wasn’t harmless. It was stupid. Expect more mean pranks from him and his dumb brother. How far would they have taken it?. The fact that he downplays how you feel is a gigantic red flag.

Porfiada − NTA. The fact that he skipped something you clearly said was important to you just to play videogames is ridiculous

sbrgrl1093 − NTA. and that type of breach of trust would scare me.

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mdthomas − Tentatively calling BS This reminds me too much about the post where a twin pulled a 'prank' by having his brother switch places with him at his wedding.. NTA if real

This saga of a prank gone wrong highlights the fragility of trust in relationships. The Redditor’s anger at her fiancé’s twin-swap stunt sparks a vital conversation about respect and boundaries. How do you handle pranks that cross the line into hurt? Share your experiences to keep this discussion alive.

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