AITA for basically forcing someone to switch seats with me on a plane?

Picture a dimly lit plane cruising through the night sky, bound from Dubai to Australia, where a weary traveler sinks into an aisle seat, hoping for a snooze. Beside them, a woman in the window seat, cozy in her chosen spot, mentions a possible UTI and a need for frequent bathroom trips. “No worries,” the traveler nods, popping on a movie—until the shuffling starts. Every few minutes, she’s up, jarring their peace, and the tally hits ten in fifteen minutes. Sleep feels like a distant dream.

Exasperated, they suggest a seat swap—denied! She clings to her window view, but after more relentless interruptions, a sly “fake sleep” ploy flips the script. She caves, swaps, and fumes. Was this a clever move or a cranky overreach? Buckle up for this high-flying tale of seats, stamina, and showdowns.

‘AITA for basically forcing someone to switch seats with me on a plane?’

Last week I travelled from the UK to Australia. On the flight from Dubai to Australia I had the aisle seat in one of the back rows with only 2 seats. The lady next to me in the window seat told me she thinks she's getting a UTI so she might have to use the loo a few times. I said no worries and we started watching movies.

However, after a few hours she started having to go every few minutes. It was night time and I wanted to sleep so I offered her to change seats after she just asked me to get up for the 10th time in 15 minutes. She said absolutely no way because she consciously booked the window seat so she could sleep better and watch out the window later.

After 30 more minutes of getting up constantly I had had enough and asked her to switch again. Again she said no so I decided to pretend to be asleep. Next time she asked me I just didn't answer. She got pretty upset and threatened to call an FA over.

I told her to go ahead but she didn't. After 10 more minutes of me not moving she finally agreed to switch seats with me. To was quite mad and said next time I should book the window seat if I wanted it. But all I wanted was not getting up every minute.. AITA?

Nighttime on a plane, and a constant seat shuffle turns rest into a runway wreck. The traveler’s frustration is relatable—ten bathroom trips in fifteen minutes disrupts any chance of sleep. The window seat woman’s initial refusal to switch, citing her booked spot, seems stubborn, especially as her needs clashed with her plan to snooze and sightsee. Pretending to sleep to force a swap? A cheeky move, but desperation fuels creativity.

This highlights a wider travel tussle: seat etiquette on flights. A 2019 survey by YouGov found 59% of passengers say frequent bathroom trips by a window seatmate justify a swap request (source). Flexibility can smooth the ride for all.

Travel expert Rick Steves notes, “Airplane seating is a social contract—consider others’ comfort as much as your own” (source). Here, her refusal ignored the traveler’s plight, but faking sleep nudged a fix. Next time, flag a flight attendant early—they’re pros at mediating.

Going forward, chat calmly: “I’d love to rest; can we swap for now?” If issues persist, loop in crew for a solution. Flights are shared spaces—compromise is key.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit flyers swoop in with punchy, no-nonsense takes—cheering this seat swap saga with a smirk! From jabs at her bathroom marathon to nods for standing ground, the crowd’s got opinions. Buckle up for the lively buzz below.

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lil_chimichanga - NTA. I get why she chose a window seat, but how much sleep could she possibly get if she was getting up to the bathroom constantly?

Thrwforksandknives - NTA. I believe that initially she thought she would be able to sleep and thus she booked a window seat, but 10 times in 15 minutes is well beyond excessive and she should have recognized she had a problem.

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The polite thing would have been for her to say (perhaps around the 3rd or 4th time) 'I'm really sorry, but could we switch seats? It looks like I'm going to need to go to the bathroom a fair bit.' For what it's worth, I book the aisle seat because I know I'm going to need to use the restroom more often than most.

australiz - NTA, and her complaint of 'I booked a window seat I should be entitled to it'. Respond with 'I booked a seat so I could sit in it. You're denying me my entitlement to actually sit in it'.

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cinnabonmermaid - NTA Not your fault she was having bladder issues. She shouldn't have been rude the first time you asked. I absolutely would've done the same thing in your situation, especially when you were trying to sleep.

Allaboutbird - NTA. What was the point of her booking the window seat to 'sleep' if she was constantly in the bathroom? It was incredibly rude of her not to switch when she was clearly inconveniencing you.

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slothyslother - NTA- Just because she booked the window seat doesn't mean that she is entitled to continue forcing you to get up and move because of a UTI. You can not expect a person to continue moving and getting up and down just because you don't want to move.

T-Thewolf - NTA - she knew she would have to get up a lot. So she should had accepted the offer.

lavasca - NTA. I’d have assumed she meant a roundtrip every 4 hours or so. Yikes!!!!

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Dear-Midnight - NTA but you should have talked to the flight attendant as soon as it became a problem. Most of them are good at sorting out this kind of thing.

PSMF_Success - NTA! She was acting like a total A-hole for not offering to switch. If someone has to use the bathroom more than once every 2ish hours on a flight, they need to book an aisle seat.

These Reddit quips fuel the debate—was she clueless, or was the fake-sleep trick too sly? Does a booked seat trump all, or should common sense take off?

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This turbulent tale lifts off with a traveler craving sleep, grounded by a seatmate’s endless bathroom dashes. A polite swap plea flops, but a crafty “snooze” act lands the window seat—though not without grumbles. It’s a bumpy ride of rights, needs, and night-flight nerves. Was forcing the switch a fair play, or did patience stall too soon? What would you do if your seat became a revolving door on a red-eye? Drop your thoughts, tips, or flight stories—let’s taxi this chat to new heights!

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