AITA for banning my 5 year old from watching YouTube?

A parent sparked a lively discussion after deciding to completely ban their five-year-old son from watching YouTube. The main culprits? Popular family channels like Trinity and Madison, the Tannerites, and Ryan’s Toy Review. The parent worries these polished, toy-filled videos are giving their child unrealistic expectations about family life, wealth, and parenting.

It’s a relatable struggle for many families today—screens are everywhere, but deciding what’s okay for little kids feels trickier than ever. When a young child starts comparing your modest home to massive American mansions, it’s hard not to hit pause and rethink the content.

AITA for banning my 5 year old from watching YouTube?

The parent explained how their son’s usual TV time revolved around big family vlogger channels that feature endless toys and perfect moments.

I'm the a__hole for banning him from watching YouTube, all he does when he watches TV is sit there and watch videos by the usual suspects... Trinity and Madison, the...

They laid out the core reasons for the ban, focusing on how these videos distort reality for a young child.

The reason I banned it you ask?. it's not educational his perception of what actual families are like is skewed. These people don't film the parts where they argue, scold/discipline...

they're spoilt. It's no secret that such families have made millions from their kids and as such, every other video shows them being showered with toys and money huge houses.

Our son seems to think that our 2 bedroom flat in England is abnormal compared to these multi million pound homes in the states.

Beyond the materialism, the parent shared deeper concerns about exploiting kids online and long-term effects.

I don't agree with these channels anyway. Nobody knows yet the repurcutions these kids face from being publicised so heavy from a young age and the embarrassment they might feel...

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The heart of the worry came down to protecting their son’s view of his own family and parents.

I'm just scared that his belief on how good we are as parents is being challenged by these unrealistic videos. He's too young to understand that this isn't the norm..

This situation touches on a growing concern among child development experts: the impact of “highlight reel” content on young minds. Family vlogs often show curated, high-production moments that can make everyday life seem inadequate by comparison. Psychologists note that children under seven struggle to distinguish fantasy from reality, let alone edited online personas from real families. Exposure to constant unboxings and lavish gifts can fuel materialism and entitlement.

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Dr. Gail Saltz, child psychiatrist, has said curated social media can harm self-esteem: “Children compare their real lives to others’ polished versions and feel theirs falls short.” A better approach involves guided viewing—watching together and discussing what’s real versus staged. Setting firm limits while offering alternatives (books, outdoor play, creative activities) supports healthy development.

Many experts recommend apps like YouTube Kids with strict parental controls or sticking to vetted educational channels. The key is balance and conversation, turning potential issues into teaching moments. Ultimately, parents know their child best. Choosing to remove harmful influences entirely at this age shows thoughtful parenting.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Most users backed the parent wholeheartedly, agreeing the content is unhealthy and praising the decision to ban it.

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aylaabb − NTA. I’ve watched a few family vloggers just to see what the hype is about and it’s so incredibly fake that it could be damaging to a young...

Kids are drawn to these channels because they want to be the kids in them. This is not a positive outlook to have on life,

so thank you for actually paying attention to what your kid is doing and stopping it accordingly. I would suggest that you maybe find another hobby for him that isn’t...

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Legos, learning to ride a bike, listening to music are all suggestions off the top of my head but you know what your kid would be interested in better than...

itsamecatty − NTA. I just banned my 5 year old from it last week and already he is so much more well behaved.

He is a total ahole immediately after watching and until he can watch again. I’d love to allow him a little time here or there for educational things but it’s...

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Before you know it he’s right back to watching Ryan’s squeaky ass mom and oaf of a father exploiting their children.

clevelandcray − NTA I agree he’s too young to be on YouTube. Play games, read books, explore.

[Reddit User] − NTA- I hate Ryan so much. .. my 5 year old would watch that crap all day if we let him. There are wonderful, fun, entertaining apps...

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Several suggested alternatives or shared how limiting YouTube improved behavior and gratitude in their own kids.

[Reddit User] − NTA My oldest daughter is 7.5 & I took away YouTube about 6-8 months ago. She still watches tv & has apps & games she can play,...

We do occasionally watch music videos together, but that’s the extent of it. I had the kids YouTube & all the parental stuff on lock,

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but there was still some creepy stuff & even though at face value it looked fine & kid friendly, halfway through the video. . let’s just say it got weird.

Also she was huge into the toy reviews & unboxing, which was fine to a point, but it definitely skewed her perception of what was normal to have

& as a result ended up behaving in a very entitled manner & always wanting more & more material things. She was constantly asking for new things & even when...

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showed no gratitude for them & just asked why she didn’t get more. Now I consider myself a pretty open communicator, but no matter how many talks or conversations I...

or rules I laid down, or consequences I gave, her behavior was not changing. Within about 2-3 months of no more YouTube, she’s back to the little girl she was...

& has much more gratitude & respect when it comes to receiving gifts. So YouTube is banned in this house til my kids are all much older. A video doesn’t...

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[Reddit User] − So many parents seem to stick their kid in front of a screen and use it as a replacement for actual parenting,

it's great that you've assessed the material and made a conscious choice that it's not helping your child's development. NTA.

[Reddit User] − NTA get him learning to cook with you. You could use YouTube for recipes

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sweet_cinnamon − NTA. YouTube use needs to be heavily monitored by parents if children are being exposed to it,

as companies tend to use family influencers to advertise to children by masking it as "entertainment". It's just like monitoring and limiting screen-time!

bengalbelle480 − NTA. You should absolutely be careful of what your child is watching. There really is some garbage on YouTube.

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My daughter watched one of those videos with the kids who get everything they want, act however they want, etc. At first I thought it was no big deal just...

But then there was a bit about a monster under the bed and she got scared and wouldn't sleep in her bed for a week. Your child is young and...

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A few offered more balanced or curious takes, suggesting moderation over a full ban or asking about replacements.

TC1851 − NAH. Your kid is 5 so obviously not TA. Your behavior makes a lot of sense for those reasons. YouTube has good stuff on it though so I...

ardvarkandy − Ehh, could go either way. Obviously there are problems with YouTubers, but banning it altogether will likely just make him upset and teach him nothing.

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Rather than banning YouTube, it would probably be best to limit it. Say, 30 mins of YouTube a day. It would be ideal to sit down and explain to him...

Make this a teaching moment. Maybe even watch some videos with him and have a discussion after. That way, he gets some of what he wants but learns from it...

[Reddit User] − **NAH** I absolutely agree with every point you made. But, this isn't really about 'spoilt and super rich kids,' rather than about social media in general.

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When I was 13, I became really obsessed with my classmate's IG. (although to be fair, she was my crush and I was obsessed with her anyway...)

She was only slightly better off than us, but her posts and stories made me really envious and evil, my parents said they didn't recognize me anymore.

And I'm talking about a personal IG account with around 200 followers here, not a famous influencer. It was absolutely not her fault, but it wasn't really my fault, either.

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Modern social media (and skilled, self-esteemed extroverts) can make mentally weaker individuals with low confidence, like I was back then, feel really bad about themselves,

their bodies, their loved ones and their possessions. The relief when I finally hit the 'unfollow' button was immense. Only then I realized how unrealistic this fake image of someone's...

This girl's great IG skills (and my already low confidence) made me physically obsessed with her even though I wouldn't normally give a damn about her.

I stopped obsessing over her, but I also stopped hating her as she seems like a nice, kind person. I was a 13 y. o.

unpopular kid, but some grown men can become obsessed with women they don't even know (ever heard of simps? )

Now try to imagine what that can do to a five year old boy. EDIT: Mind you, computers and information technology are generally beneficial.

ViolaClay − INFO it's not educational Okay, then what are you having him do instead?

[Reddit User] − NTA, I watch YT all the time and would never let my child near it. The families they show are twisted and dysfunctional and will do anything...

thebluemennoods − NTA YouTube sucks it’s full of disinformation and horrible people who are a bad influence. Yes there are some good creators but they’re heavily outweighed by bad ones...

At five years old, kids soak up everything they see, and shielding them from polished, materialistic content feels like solid parenting to most. The parent’s concerns about skewed expectations and exploitation hit home for many. Finding fun, real-world alternatives can fill the gap beautifully. What do you think—full ban or strict limits with conversations?

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