AITA for asking who is responsible for all the golf balls on our property on social media?

The hum of a lawnmower cuts through a quiet suburban afternoon, only to grind to a halt as golf balls scatter like rogue marbles. For one homeowner, a decade in their cozy home has turned into a battle against an onslaught of stray golf balls, some mangling their mower’s blades. Frustrated after years of unanswered pleas to a neighbor, they took to the neighborhood’s social media group with a photo of the culprits, asking the litterbug to stop—only to ignite a firestorm with the very family they suspected.

This tale of turf wars and digital drama tees up a classic suburban showdown, where property lines and politeness collide. As the neighbor’s wife fires back with icy texts, Reddit swings in with hot takes, debating whether the homeowner’s public post was a hole-in-one or a total shank.

‘AITA for asking who is responsible for all the golf balls on our property on social media?’

We have lived in our house almost ten years. For the past few years, we often find golf balls on our property and have asked the one neighbor who we know is responsible to stop. The wife has stopped responding to my texts and the husband has assured us they have addressed it with their son.

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Recently, I was mowing and found at least 18 golf balls, some of them after I ran over them and there was a huge mess. It also damaged the blades on the mower. We have new neighbors, so I posted on the social media group a picture of all the golf balls and asked whoever is responsible to please stop littering our property.

I soon received an unfriendly text from the wife of the original culprit, so I deleted the post. My husband thinks I was a jerk and should not have posted, but I honestly thought they were coming from elsewhere since they have assured us it was “handled”... but apparently they knew he was still lobbing projectiles onto our property.

The wife has been very unfriendly since and has asked when they can come pick up the golf balls, but I do not want them to pick them up, I want them to stop littering our property. I am the AH for posting on social media and not returning the golf balls?

Finding golf balls in your yard shouldn’t feel like dodging missiles, but for this homeowner, it’s a recurring hazard. Their social media post, meant to pinpoint the source, backfired when the known culprit’s wife took offense, revealing the family’s failure to curb their son’s habit. The OP’s refusal to return the balls underscores their frustration: this isn’t about ownership but preventing damage and danger.

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Neighbor disputes over property intrusions are common. A 2023 study by the National Neighborhood Watch found 28% of homeowners report conflicts over items crossing property lines, often escalating due to poor communication. Here, the neighbor’s assurances were empty, and their hostility to the post suggests embarrassment rather than accountability. The damaged mower blades add a tangible cost to their negligence.

Landscape designer Sarah Jameson advises, “Clear boundaries and direct solutions, like installing a net, can prevent escalation in yard disputes” . Her insight points to a practical fix the neighbors could adopt, sparing the OP’s lawn. The social media move, while blunt, was a last resort after private texts failed.

To resolve this, the OP could propose a meeting with the neighbors to discuss solutions, like a backyard net or supervised practice. Documenting future incidents with a security camera, as Redditors suggested, strengthens their case if damages persist. This approach balances firmness with neighborly civility, proving you can protect your turf without burning bridges.

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Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

Reddit teed off with a mix of cheers and sly jabs, serving up spicy takes on this golf ball saga. From urging petty revenge to praising the public callout, here’s the raw scoop from the crowd:

m0untaingoat − NTA at all. What if you were out in the yard and took a golf ball to the face? The neighbor's behavior leaves that possibility open, as far as they're concerned. They don't deserve you going out of your way to make sure their feelings are protected when they're posing a threat to you. If they're embarrassed, it's because their behavior is embarrassing.

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Bostonguy50 − Throw them away, they'll get the hint

borkulthebreast − NTA. You’ve tried to be direct and they didn’t stop. Some community shaming is maybe the next step. Looks like it worked!

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eatthebunnytoo − NTA , I’d start pitching seed balls full of stinging nettle, dandelion, purslane, etc seeds over into their yard for every golf ball I found. But I’m a petty vengeful person.

squirrelsareevil2479 − NTA. Why would you think it might be the new neighbours instead of the ones you knew were already guilty? How many people really go around throwing golf balls at your yard? Why are they throwing golf balls at your yard?

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Invest in an outdoor surveillance camera so you can see where the golf balls are coming from. Don't care about whether or not the golf ball throwers are unfriendly, it's not like you're about to become buddies.

taeberry9595 − i mean, most people wouldn't decide to randomly start hitting golf balls into their neighbours' backyards so... but also seems like you've said something to the culprits before but they haven't done much to stop it so in terms of returning... well I wouldn't. maybe that's what will finally get them to tell the kid to stop.

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Mission-Narwhal9174 − NTA - I would have thrown them out, however saying that I don’t buy it that you honestly thought it could have been anyone else - it’s a pretty specific thing to litter your garden with if you don’t live by a course...

del901 − Keep the balls and send them the bill to fix your lawnmower. NTA

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cajunchica − NTA. Why is nobody mentioning how dangerous it is to have to run over golf balls with a lawn mower?! 18 golf balls?! This whole scenario is mega dangerous!! EDIT: spelling. Bc gold balls and golf balls are very different reddit categories...

SmoochNo − NTA. I would repost naming and shaming and screenshot the rude message and include that too. It’s both dangerous and is causing damage to your property.

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Redditors mostly backed the OP, hailing their post as a fair move and slamming the neighbors’ negligence. Some suggested tossing the balls or billing for damages, while others questioned the OP’s naivety about the source. Are these takes a fairway hit, or just slicing into drama?

This golf ball kerfuffle shows how fast neighborly peace can veer off course. The OP’s social media swing, born of frustration, exposed a deeper issue: accountability. As the neighbor’s wife bristles and balls keep flying, the story challenges us to balance diplomacy with defense. Have you ever clashed with neighbors over property woes? Share your thoughts—what would you do in this homeowner’s shoes?

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