AITA for asking my husband to stop waking up early to exercise while on vacation?

The sun hasn’t risen, but the hotel room is already stirring. A young mother, let’s call her Emma, lies awake as her husband slips out of bed at 5 a.m. for his daily workout, rousing their toddler son who shares their bed. The child’s whimpers signal another sleepless morning, leaving Emma exhausted and frustrated on what should be a restful family vacation.

After days of disrupted sleep and a cranky toddler, Emma pleads with her husband to skip his early workouts. He resists, valuing his routine and time with his brother, but her insistence sparks tension. Was Emma wrong to prioritize sleep over his fitness, or is she just fighting for a moment’s peace?

‘AITA for asking my husband to stop waking up early to exercise while on vacation?’

My husband usually wakes up early so he can work out daily. During our vacation our son was sleeping in the same bed as us as he wouldn’t sleep otherwise. Every single time my husband got up to exercise it would wake our son up which meant I had to wake up at 5am too.

A lot of the time our son would be in a bad mood from having been woken up early too so it wasn’t ideal. After the fourth day, I asked him to stop waking up early to exercise for the rest of our 2-week vacation. He told me he would be more careful not to wake our son up but I told him our son would wake up as soon as he left the bed so he had to stop.

We argued over it but he did eventually agree to stop reluctantly even though it meant he couldn’t exercise as much as he wanted to without missing time with his family and it also meant he couldn’t workout with his brother which his brother was unhappy about.. Was I TA for making him stop?

Emma’s request to pause her husband’s early workouts highlights a common family vacation struggle: balancing personal habits with collective needs. Her toddler’s disrupted sleep, triggered by her husband’s movements, underscores the ripple effect of one person’s routine on others.

Dr. Wendy Walsh, a relationship expert, notes, “Sleep deprivation in parents can strain relationships and reduce patience, especially on vacation” (source: Dr. Wendy Walsh). Emma’s husband’s commitment to exercise is admirable, but his insistence overlooks the toll on Emma and their son’s well-being, placing the burden of childcare on her.

This reflects a broader issue: parental sleep challenges. Studies show 70% of parents with young children report sleep disruptions (source: Sleep Foundation). Emma’s plea aligns with prioritizing family health. Solutions like a separate sleeping arrangement or later workouts could help.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Reddit users chimed in with empathy and wit, weighing in on Emma’s sleep-deprived struggle. Here’s what they said:

[Reddit User] - NTA - if he is waking his son up at 5am he should be caring for his son at 5am.

Moon-MoonJ - NTA.. Don't wake up the 16month old at 5am. He can either exercise at another time.

NotThisAgain234 - NAH. You’re not doing it to be mean, it’s just a reality that you both have to deal with. If you’re staying with family you probably don’t have much flexibility as to sleeping arrangements, but it seems like a separate bed would solve this. Maybe if a crack of dawn workout is important enough to your husband he could choose the couch. Or a cot or room with two beds if you’re in a hotel.

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TheCraSaVaB - NTA I think what most people are missing is that this is a vacation. Whether both parents work or OP is a stay at home mom she has to get up early in her regular day to day. Vacations are to sleep in.

Yes the husband has a routine but as a light sleeper myself that wakes up because the dog was snoring on a different floor in a different room it’s impossible getting back to sleep. That’s not even taking into account a child.

Edit: to further explain what I meant by ‘Vacations are to sleep in’ because apparently I gave people too much credit in grasping that the comment was based on/and for OP specifically. Everyone does things differently and vacations differently and that’s ok.

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At this point you’ll say ‘then why can’t he do what he wants’ because through his actions he is now affecting his wife AND son’s health. While many of you may think that’s a stretch, sleep is part of that especially since she mentioned that her sons behavior changed because of it.

mewley - NAH. Having a baby who won’t sleep sucks. There is no easy fix. I get why your husband was bummed and upset but also his exercise can’t come at the expense of everyone else’s wellbeing (and it sounds like most of burden of waking up the baby was falling on you). You’re all doing the best you can.

No_Way402 - NTA I'm not a parent myself, but I often hear about how you new parents have trouble sleeping 'cause of how hard it is to get the child to fall asleep, or because of how often they wake up throughout the night.. I don't know if that's the case here, and that's not important. Your husband and bro-in-law can miss the 5 a.m. work-out for these couple of weeks.

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Their ripped muscles won't leave them overnight.. Sorry if I assume things, but shouldn't an infant get or try to have a regular sleeping schedule? 1) Your son (who's still just a baby) needs his sleep, and you do too, otherwise how will you yourself enjoy this vacation?. 2) Next time you guys go on vacation you can just arrange differently.

[Reddit User] - Depends on how old your son is. Maybe you should have another rollaway bed brought into the room if that’s an option. No assholes here in my opinion.

United-Plum1671 - NTA We’re talking about a baby not an older kid. He can stop for vacation

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Scary_Vanilla1730 - Just get separate bedroom? He can sleep on the sofa if he wants to wake up at 5

These takes are heartfelt, but do they capture the full story or just rally for rest?

Emma’s stand for sleep over her husband’s workouts is a relatable cry for balance on a family vacation. His routine matters, but so does a toddler’s rest and a mom’s sanity. How do you juggle personal habits with family needs on a trip? Share your stories—what would you do in Emma’s place?

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