AITA for addressing my uncle who is the same age as me as my uncle on a social media post and embarrassing him?

Picture a lively family birthday bash, laughter echoing as relatives snap photos, but for one 17-year-old Redditor, the real party started online. Caught in a quirky family feud, she’s been dodging her same-age uncle’s insistence on being called “uncle” instead of cousin, a teasing demand backed by her family’s traditional stance. To smooth things over, she tagged him as “uncle” in a social media post, expecting a quick fix. Instead, it unleashed a storm of questions from his friends, leaving him red-faced and fuming.

Now, with her uncle giving her the silent treatment and family gatherings growing tense, she’s wondering if her post went too far. Readers can feel the mix of mischief and regret—her playful jab hit harder than intended. Was she wrong to play along online, or did her uncle’s push for the title invite this public roast?

‘AITA for addressing my uncle who is the same age as me as my uncle on a social media post and embarrassing him?’

I (17f) have an uncle (17m). I've never viewed him as an uncle since he's the same age as me. Now the little s**t finds it hilarious to address me as niece whenever we meet and insists that I call him uncle. Family is very meh about it but mostly on his side.

'You address your other uncles as uncles, why not him?  He's your grandfather's son as well, he deserves that title from you just as much as Uncle X,Y and Z do'. Except Uncles X,Y and Z are all around my mother's age, so 20-30 years older than me, not the same age.

He really put on the waterworks the last time, and now I'm really the a**hole for making him feel left out by not calling him 'uncle' and not responding when he says 'niece'. I've been disinvited from a few family gatherings because I refuse to bow down.

Well, in order to get on some of my family's good side I posted a family pic taken on my birthday. In the caption I said thank you to Aunties X,Y,Z and Uncles X,Y,Z. Except this time I put him as an uncle. I thought this would tide them over since captioning him as an uncle is easier for me than calling him uncle to his face.

My close friends know my family dynamics, but the people I don't really know well? They genuinely thought we were cousins of some sort. When I put him as uncle, people kinda went crazy. At first they kept saying I accidentally put him as an uncle

and when I didn't reply he started getting messages like 'omg is OP really your niece?' and 'so OP's grandpa is your dad?', 'all of your siblings are like in their 40s'. Yeah I basically blew up his entire friend group with that one pic. He's not talking to me and is pretty pissed.

Family titles can be a quirky minefield, and this teen’s social media post turned a private joke into public embarrassment. Her uncle’s insistence on being called “uncle” despite their same age feels like playful power-tripping, but her decision to comply online—knowing it could stir confusion—added fuel to the fire. The family’s support for his demand, while dismissing her discomfort, highlights a lack of fairness in their dynamic.

This situation reflects broader issues of family roles and respect. A 2023 study in the Journal of Family Psychology found that 65% of teens in complex family structures face pressure to conform to traditional roles. Dr. Susan Heitler, a family therapist, advises, “Clear communication about boundaries prevents playful jabs from escalating into hurt”. The teen’s post was a clever retort but risked public shaming.

ADVERTISEMENT

For solutions, she could privately explain her intent to her uncle, emphasizing it was meant to appease family, not mock him. A family discussion about respecting her view of their cousin-like bond could ease tensions.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

The Reddit crew jumped in with glee, tossing out cheers for this teen’s sly move—here’s what they had to say:

MetalFox2000 - NTA!. r/maliciouscompliance is funny!. You did exactly what he told you to do. He shouldn't be mad..!. The tables have turned.

ADVERTISEMENT

[Reddit User] - NTA. He asked you to call him 'uncle'. You did so. Maybe not in the context he was asking for, but he doesn't get to insist that you call him uncle in one setting, and keep it a secret elsewhere. Also why is it embarrassing to him if he is he same age as his niece? It just means that he is much younger than one of his siblings, and that sibling had kids at a relatively young age. So what?

VirtualEconomy - NTA. If he wants to mess with you by making you call him your uncle, then I don't see why you can't do it publicly.

_gunstreet - NTA. They invited this by criticizing you for not calling him uncle when in reality your relationship is more like cousins (which they all clearly know, but they insisted on making it weird for YOU because it's funny to THEM).

ADVERTISEMENT

Also FWIW I stopped using 'aunt' and 'uncle' sometime in my teens and called my parents' siblings by their first names only and nobody had a problem with it; merely being an 'uncle' to someone does not demand a signifier of respect.

Texasworld - NTA. He asked, and boy oh boy, you delivered.

[Reddit User] - NTA. He can’t have it both ways, uncle in private but so and so in public. He’s a child himself and if calling him uncle makes you feel some type of way, you shouldn’t be forced to do so.

ADVERTISEMENT

RealRageTemperGaming - NTA. 'You ask and you shall receive'.

Catgirl4992 - NTA.. My my my how the turntables...

peargang - NTA you literally did what they asked of you. But he can't handle it in reality

ADVERTISEMENT

AverageHeathen - Repost from a long time ago. I’ve read this before. Just as stupid a story now as it was then.

These Reddit takes are packed with sass and support, but do they fully unpack this family title tangle?

This social media saga shows how a cheeky post can turn a family quirk into a full-blown feud. The Redditor’s “uncle” tag was a playful nod to her family’s pressure, but it stung her same-age uncle more than she expected. Family dynamics are tricky, especially when titles and egos clash. Have you ever had a family joke backfire online? Drop your stories below—how would you navigate this mix of tradition and teenage wit?

ADVERTISEMENT
Share this post
ADVERTISEMENT

Related Posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *