AITA for harshly telling a guy who burnt me that apology is not good enough?

Working around red-hot metal and heavy forging tools leaves little room for mistakes. In places like a training forge, a moment of carelessness can quickly turn into a serious accident. But in one workshop where apprentices were learning the craft, one teenage student had developed a reputation for treating tools like toys.

He constantly spun things in his hands—keys, bottles, gloves, even blacksmithing tools—like makeshift fidget spinners. Most of the time it was just annoying. Occasionally it meant someone getting bumped or nearly hit. But one day, that habit crossed a dangerous line. A glowing piece of metal heated to around 800°C suddenly flew through the air and struck another apprentice, leaving a painful burn. The injured student snapped at him in anger—but later started wondering if he had gone too far.

‘AITA for harshly telling a guy who burnt me that apology is not good enough?’

The situation began with the original poster describing a fellow apprentice whose behavior had long made the workshop uneasy:

I am a blacksmith apprentice and we have this guy (17yo) at the workshop who is basically a walking safety hazard.

He isnt very keen on doing what he should be doing, gets distracted easily, then gets bored and everything he touches he treats like fidget spinner, be it his keys,...

This isnt very pleasant not only because he frequently drops said home-made "fidget-spiner", but he ocassionaly hits someone with it. Any attemps to get him to stop have been futile...

When he causes an accident, he is always extremely sorry and behaves for a little while, then starts doing it again.

I know that he has some mental health issues but Im not sure if they have something to do with that (few times he mentioned therapy sessions while leaving an...

Anyways today he was forging a bell and sure enough, he started to play with the tongs with the hot metal in it, he dropped it, and the swing sent...

burning my forearm. We are talking orange heat here, so around 800°C (1500°F), which, of course, was quite unpleasant for me.

The teen rushed to apologize and grabbed first aid supplies, but this time the injured apprentice couldn’t just brush it off:

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Again, he was extremely apologetic and he rushed to the first aid kit to get me panthenol, but I was quite angry with him and even though this was actually...

I basically hissed at him to shove it until he learns to not endanger everyone in the workshop (it was longer rant though, including scolding him for always spinning the...

He was on the verge of tears, hid at the toilets for half an hour and then basically acted invisible until it was time to go home.

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In the time he was gone I was told by few of the other guys in the workshop that it was time that somebody put their foot down,

and they basically cheered, which made me immediately alerted (they can be quite assholes towards him, even when hes not actually doing anything wrong) that I might have been too...

I do stand by what I said the apology is basically meaningless when he keeps doing the same thing over and over again, no matter how many times someone tells...

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But I also feel really bad over being harsh on him and making a scene when hes already unpopular in the group and has mental health issues to deal with...

Later, the poster added more context about the environment where the incident happened:

edit: Thank you for all the comments, guys. I try to read them and reply when there is some uncertanity or the like, but there is a lot of them...

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The apprenticeship is not a part of a job, we are learning the trade in a school-like environment.

The guy and I are classmates, but I am older (I already finished my school, this is more of a hobby for me). I didnt tell the foreman about the...

In another update, he described trying to address the issue directly with both the teen and the foreman:

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edit2: I went and talked to the metal-spinner and the foreman. Things did not go very well.

I pulled the metal-spinner (who was still acting invisible) aside once the first break started and talked to him about the incident again. It was tbh more of a monologue...

I suggested he tried to get diagnosed as per the comments). Then I told him that I was going to report the incident (I wanted to be upfront about this,...

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and asked him to go to the foreman with me (he always reacts a bit better when you acknowledge your fuckups). He looked quite shocked, then basically begged me not...

I reminded him that he already said so to almost everyone at least 20 times. I tried to persuade him to go, but he refused, so I went alone.

The story took another unexpected turn shortly after:

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I got some ass chewing from the foreman for not reporting the injury the day it happened, the neccessary bureaucracy was done. When told how it happened, he basically just...

And theres the real kick. He wasnt in the workshop. I asked one of the guys to go look if hes at the toilets, but he wasnt there either. We...

He didnt come back. I got quite scared for him but foreman said he has it handled so I went after my work. At the end of the day we...

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Accidents in high-risk environments rarely happen out of nowhere. More often, they build up over time through repeated small lapses in attention or unsafe habits that go unchecked. In this situation, the injured apprentice faced a complicated emotional response: anger after being burned, mixed with guilt about confronting someone who might already be struggling.

Workplaces involving heated metal, machinery, or heavy tools operate under strict safety expectations for a reason. A piece of metal heated to roughly 800°C can cause severe burns in seconds and may lead to permanent damage. Because of that, horseplay or careless behavior is typically treated as a serious violation in many industrial environments.

Organizational psychologist Dr. Tessa West, author of Jerks at Work, notes that group dynamics often play a role in correcting risky behavior. As she explains, “In high-risk environments, even small lapses in attention can lead to serious harm. Teams often rely on social pressure to correct unsafe behavior before management steps in.”

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That dynamic may explain why the injured apprentice reacted so strongly. When someone repeatedly ignores warnings in a dangerous setting, coworkers may start to feel that their own safety depends on speaking up.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

Once the story spread across social media, readers had plenty to say about the situation.

Many felt the injured apprentice’s reaction was completely justified given the danger involved:

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Reddit User − NTA. Mental Health issues do not excuse behavior issues when attempts are not made to alleviate them. -signed, a therapist with mental health issues.

Reddit User − NTA. He legit injured you with his reckless behavior! You are working in a dangerous workshop setting, no place for horseplay.

Others emphasized just how serious the potential consequences could have been:

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Killer_Sass − NTA There are appropriate ways to behave in any workplace - moreso when the workplace has dangerous materials.

TheViciousBitch − you are talking about true safety issues. .. Spinning around molten metal that hot. ... You could have lost a hand or limb. NTA

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Some commenters shifted the focus toward management responsibility:

snewton_8 − NTA The people who run the workshop are opening themselves up to legal action because of this guy.

GrandpaJoeSloth − NTA- I don't know why the actual blacksmiths (or whoever is in charge) have not dealt out consequences.

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Meanwhile, a few readers tried to interpret the behavior through a psychological lens:

drwookie − Not a regular poster here, but was sent this link. Please forgive any protocol breaches (ignorance, not malice). I do blacksmithing as a hobby, and have a pretty...

[Reddit User] − NTA - But I am very glad you're wary of it based on those peoples reactions. This person needs to be more professional or he's gonna seriously...

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[Reddit User] − NTA. You can't be careless in jobs where you're handling dangerous materials and equipment. He learned that the hard way.

F__king off in the work place earns you some harsh consequences. It isn't just a simple thing, we're talking the risk of serious injury or death. Good on you for...

Stoat__King − NTA. I can see why you might think you were too harsh. And if it was something minor maybe you would be right. But this isnt minor at...

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SpectacularTurtle − NTA and your coworkers are right. It's well past time that someone took his behavior seriously and it's pretty unacceptable that whoever is responsible for managing your work...

His behavior isn't just unprofessional and obnoxious, it's unsafe. He's putting everyone at risk and saying sorry but continuing to do so is meaningless

[Reddit User] − NTA I worked in a kitchen and a porter THREW a knife into the sink I was using from 6 feet away and then expected me to...

I told him to stuff his apology and stay the f__k away from me in future. Nobody is entitled to your forgiveness

What began as a typical day in a forge turned into a painful accident and a heated confrontation between classmates. On one hand, repeated unsafe behavior can’t be ignored in environments where injuries can happen in seconds. On the other, reacting harshly toward someone who may already feel isolated can leave lingering doubts afterward.

The incident raises a difficult question about accountability and empathy in shared workspaces. When safety is on the line, how much patience is reasonable—and at what point does someone need a serious wake-up call? What do you think? Did the injured apprentice overreact, or was his frustration completely justified?

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