AITA for giving a DoorDash driver 2 stars because he didn’t follow my instructions?

A Los Angeles resident found herself questioning her decision after giving a DoorDash driver a two-star rating. Living on a steep, busy street with no safe stopping area, she had carefully written delivery instructions asking drivers not to park directly in front of her building.

Despite sending reminders and choosing the no-contact option, the driver parked in the middle of the turning lane, knocked repeatedly on the building door, and later told her the situation was dangerous. She responded with a low rating. Now, after her boyfriend warned that poor ratings can cost drivers their jobs, she is wondering whether she went too far.

‘AITA for giving a DoorDash driver 2 stars because he didn’t follow my instructions?’

She explains the safety issue and her detailed instructions.

I live on a busy street in Los Angeles and there's no place to stop a car in front of my apartment building. It's also on a hill, which reduces...

There are two small side streets where drivers can pull off, both about equal distance from my building. I've been using DoorDash's no-contract delivery option.

My current instructions read, "You shouldn't stop your car on (Street Name). If the building's front door is locked, you can leave the food outside. If it's unlocked (directions to...

I don't specify which side street they should pull onto because they're equal distance and I figure they can choose based on the direction they're coming from.

Since I started using the no-contact option, I've been texting the drivers the last 2 sentences of my instructions. I leave out the part about the street because:

1) it's the first part of the instructions, so I figure it'll catch their eye when they see that, and.

2) this street is obviously busy and stopping in front of my building is clearly a bad idea. If you're familiar with LA, think Wilshire or Sunset but with no...

The delivery did not go as planned.

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A few days ago, I ordered DoorDash and did everything I've described above. I got the message that the driver was approaching, and about 30 seconds later I heard someone...

I really didn't want to go outside because I'd gotten over being sick (small fever and cough you get the picture) just a day before, so I copy pasted the...

The banging kept up. I felt that maybe he hadn't seen my texts and the noise was probably disturbing my neighbors, so I went out, got the food, thanked him,...

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He said, "look out there," pointing to the street. I looked out and saw a car parked in the turning lane in the middle of my street. He said, "That's...

The confrontation led to a low rating and second thoughts.

I told him that I knew it was dangerous and that's why I said in my instructions not to stop his car on this street.

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He continued to say how dangerous it was, how people can't stop there, etc. and I repeated that the instructions said not to stop there.

Then, he said, "okay, okay" like he was annoyed, and we went our separate ways. I gave him two stars instead of five because he didn't follow my instructions at...

I was very annoyed that he seemed to think it was my fault he parked his car in the middle of a busy street, and that I didn't get a...

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My boyfriend says I'm an a__hole because if DoorDash drivers get below a certain (high) rating, they get fired, and times are tough right now. That got me feeling a...

I don't want him to get fired for this one thing, but I don't regret my rating because it will be one of many, many ratings and if he's usually...

edit: this got a lot of attention while I was asleep! Thanks to all who gave a judgement. I especially appreciate the delivery drivers and those who kindly helped me...

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I assure you I did read your advice and will continue to read future comments, even if I don’t respond.

Ratings systems in gig-based delivery services place significant power in customers’ hands. Drivers depend on consistently high scores, which can create tension when expectations are not met. In this case, the customer clearly attempted to provide safety-focused instructions and selected a no-contact option, indicating a preference for minimal interaction.

From her perspective, the driver ignored written directions, created a traffic hazard, and then blamed her for the danger. This reversal of responsibility likely intensified her frustration. Additionally, repeatedly knocking despite a no-contact request undermines the purpose of that option. Customers reasonably expect basic adherence to instructions when they are clear and safety-related.

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On the other hand, delivery work in large cities like Los Angeles can be chaotic. Drivers navigate traffic, time pressure, and unclear building access. Some commenters suggested simplifying instructions to reduce confusion. Ultimately, the conflict reflects a broader issue: balancing empathy for workers in difficult conditions with accountability for professional conduct.

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Many commenters strongly supported her rating decision.

loegare − Should have gave him one star. He didn’t even do contactless

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hmg07 − NTA. If 2 stars gets him fired, he shouldn't probably up his customer service game. When times are hard it's not on the customer to tolerate more bad...

it's up to the service industry employee to maintain good service to keep their job. The customer shouldn't look for reasons to s__ew them over but hard times are no...

kongtroll584 − NTA. This guy really needs to be more careful. We're in the middle of a pandemic and he's banging on doors when people choose the "no contact" option,

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(really that should be the only option for a while). Plus he was rude and after he was the one who didn't read your directions.

LexChase − I’m an Uber eats driver. That guy was an a__hole. You are NTA. He will be risking his own safety and that of others frequently and disturbing the...

You should have not just rated him poorly, but lodged a complaint. You provided instructions which would have kept everyone safe.

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He ignored them, blamed you, disturbed your neighbours, and ignored social distancing guidelines. He gives us all a bad name, and shouldn’t be allowed to drive for door dash. For...

youm3ddlingkids − NTA why did you even give him two stars?

Others offered more mixed or critical perspectives.

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[Reddit User] − 2 stars is bit too harsh but he should have read that instructions.

[Reddit User] − YTA. You are a terrible customer and a Worse human being.

[Reddit User] − ESH that dude was outta line but you really should simplify your instructions. Door Dash in LA is a nightmare as is, I can’t imagine when/how drivers...

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A few comments bluntly disagreed.

[Reddit User] − I was prepared to judge you TA but the lecture from him makes you NTA. I think texting part of the direction and not the others is...

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but this guy just seemed to not pay attention and then didn't listen. I might have done 3 stars instead though, but don't think you're wrong given his attitude.

ItsNeverMyDay − YTA. Let him be rude, whatever, you’ll live. Give 5 stars anyway. He’s out delivering food while you’re too scared to go to the door. He’s allowed to...

This situation highlights the complicated balance between empathy for gig workers and accountability for service standards. Clear instructions were given, yet they were not followed, leading to safety concerns and frustration.

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Was a two-star rating fair given the circumstances, or should customers overlook mistakes during difficult times? How much responsibility falls on drivers to carefully read instructions, especially in high-pressure environments? Share your thoughts on where fairness and compassion should meet.

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