Job interviewer ghosted me and then had one of his employes tell me to “go home”, so I did

Have you ever gone out of your way for an opportunity, only to get treated like an afterthought? Most people would walk away annoyed, maybe vent to friends, and move on. But sometimes the disrespect hits so hard that it pushes someone to leave a mark – literally.

A job seeker drove 35 minutes after a long shift for an interview that never happened. The owner bailed, sent a teen employee to dismiss them rudely, and the whole thing ended with a petty act of revenge on the front lawn. Was it justified, or did they take it too far?

‘Job interviewer ghosted me and then had one of his employes tell me to “go home”, so I did’

The story starts with high hopes for a promising job opportunity.

While I do have a job already, I thought it would be worthwhile to see what else is out there. A week ago, I found a job posting on indeed....

The only downfall is that it's a 35 min drive out of town. I had a good conversation with the business owner (via indeed inbox) and he seemed like a...

I explained that I work every day from 7am-3:10pm and he understood that there is a bit of a commute to his shop. He asked me if I could meet...

I told him that it isn't possible as I was done at 3:10 and can't do a 35 min drive in under 20 mins. I explained that I would be...

so I gave him with my phone number just in case something was to change, and we left on a good note.. I drove rather fast, getting there at 3:37,...

Things quickly turned frustrating once the job seeker arrived.

I show up. Business closed. I figured he was somewhere nearby, so I get out of my vehicle to search. I look over to my left to see 2 teenagers...

I approach them and ask them where their boss was while explaining that I had a meeting with him now. One of them then informs me that he just left...

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He calls his boss, saying who I am, etc. The teenager chuckles, says "ok" with a "you gotta be f__king kidding me" look on his face and then hangs up.....

He said go home", this time laughing uncomfortably. I now have another 35 min drive ahead of me and I am very irritated. I decided to leave as his boss...

but instead of driving the gravel driveway back onto the highway (the way I came in from) I decided to leave him a present to remember me by: some donut...

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The aftermath brought one last bizarre twist from the owner.

30 mins after that, he felt the need to reach out to me and introduce himself via PRIVATE NUMBER, but I let it go to voicemail (as I was driving),

which upon listening to later on, further proved to me that all his negative google reviews were more than likely ALL true, and that this person isn't someone to do...

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The central issue is blatant disrespect during a job interview process. The candidate invested time, effort, and a long drive after work, only to be dismissed rudely through an employee. The owner’s decision to leave early without warning, then send a message to “go home” via a teen worker, shows poor communication and zero accountability. The candidate’s reaction – doing donuts on the lawn – escalated things into minor property damage.

The job seeker probably felt humiliated and powerless in the moment. Power imbalances in hiring already create stress; add a long commute, a blown-off appointment, and public dismissal, and frustration boils over. The owner, on the other hand, might have panicked or changed his mind but chose the coward’s way out instead of direct communication. That avoidance turned a simple no into a humiliating experience.

Career coach and workplace expert Alison Green has written that “ghosting candidates is one of the most common complaints in job searches, and it erodes trust in the entire hiring process.” When the disrespect becomes personal and public, people sometimes respond with symbolic acts of pushback to reclaim dignity.

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A smarter move would have been to document the incident, leave a factual negative review on Google/Indeed, and walk away. For the future, candidates can set firmer boundaries early (like confirming exact times in writing) and treat red flags as deal-breakers. The owner could have owned the mistake with an apology instead of a private-number call. Both sides learned the hard way that respect saves everyone headaches.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

The online crowd split between cheering the petty revenge, sharing similar horror stories, and warning about potential legal trouble.

Most readers celebrated the move as sweet justice and a dodged bullet. They loved the pettiness and saw it as harmless payback.

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CoderJoe1 − Dodged a bullet

RepresentativeSun588 − I decided to leave him a present Me: Please s__t on his door step; PLEASE S__T ON HIS DOORSTEP. OP: some donut tire skid marks Not the kind...

kapudos28 − Sweet, sweet beautiful petty revenge. So simple, yet so effective.

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Ben_Kenobi_ − I once drove around an hour to a place for an interview. The dude talked to me, but he kept saying that he didn't have the questions to...

The dude had me sit in a room for a while, then came and talked to me for a few minutes about nothing, and then it was over. Dude seemed...

RemoteCity − I went to an interview once, an hour each way. .. she was 30 min late and the first words were "I'm so sorry to do this to...

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The most annoying thing was I was trying to be gracious and like "oh no, of course, kids are the most important, I hope he's OK," and she was like...

Anyway, I went back the next day, spent 3 hours interviewing with SOMEONE ELSE (which was also annoying - she greeted me again, and then passed me off completely, so...

Others shared their own tales of bad interviews while staying supportive overall.

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OK_Royal6055 − My brother did something similar, but with different results. He'd put in for a week off, only for his employer to literally tell him the day before he...

My brother had already bought nonrefundable plane tickets and probably spent at least a couple grand, so he told his boss that wasn't fair and wasn't happening.

Boss told him to GTFO and go "cool down til you're showing me the respect I deserve. In fact, I'll just see you tomorrow. " My brother is 49 and...

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Knowing where his boss lived, my brother decided to tear his yard up too. The lawn, mailbox, trash cans, shrubs, everything. Guy lived out in the country, so there were...

He shows up at my parents house for usual Friday dinner a couple hours later, mad as hell. My parents ask him what's wrong, and he said he was both...

The Boss got home, saw the damage, and immediately called the cops telling them who'd done it. They came to his apartment, listened to him emphatically deny everything for 15...

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The boss's mailbox, complete with name and address, was literally stuck in the front grill. AND the boss was standing there laughing his ass off to make it even worse.

Hardest I ever saw my mom and now late dad laugh when my brother got to that part. I was dying too

demimod2000 − I am still waiting for an interviewer to "call me back". He said he'd call me back the next day. ..this was in August.

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If he wasn't interested, then he should have just said so. He kept me from another possible job and I am mad at myself for believing the b__tard

A smaller group called out the risks, focusing on property damage and possible consequences.

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[Reddit User] − You did property damage to a guy who has your resume?

pepperpat64 − Did he agree to meet you at the later time you proposed?

MarkG1 − So you vandalised someone's property after they have your name and witnesses?

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Nomadic_Homebody − I’m surprised you did that. I’d be worried he’d sue for damaging his property.

YahoooSeriouss − Doing a skid mark isn’t petty revenge it’s just stupid.

RJack151 − You put the target on him.

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PublicConfusion − My only question is, once he said to come at 3:10 and you said 3:45, did he agree and respond or did you assume it was ok?

This experience highlights how poorly handled rejections can turn small frustrations into big reactions. Ghosting and rude dismissals during hiring show a lack of basic professionalism, and they stick with people longer than any interview ever could. The donut marks were a flash of anger that felt good in the moment, but they also carried real risk.

Respect costs nothing, yet it prevents most drama. Would you have kept your cool and just driven away, or does a stunt like donuts feel like fair payback when someone wastes your time? Have you ever gotten petty revenge after a bad interview – and did it feel worth it?

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