WIBTA If I Broke Things Off With A Guy Because He Wouldn’t Drive Me Home?

How much should you expect from someone you’ve only dated a handful of times? One 21-year-old woman thought a sober guy who invited her to his town would at least make sure she got home safely after the last bus left.

Instead she found herself stranded at midnight, forced to pay $50 for an Uber while he walked away because he was “too tired” after a six-hour shift. The real sting came when he didn’t even wait ten minutes for the car to arrive.

‘WIBTA If I Broke Things Off With A Guy Because He Wouldn’t Drive Me Home?’

The situation started out normally enough with a fifth date planned across towns.

The evening went well until it was time to leave.

With no other options, she booked an expensive ride and he left her waiting alone.

She later clarified common questions in an edit.

The core issue is mismatched expectations and a sudden lack of basic care in early dating. She assumed (reasonably, based on past dates) that a sober driver would get her home safely. He saw no obligation once the date ended.

Her disappointment stems from feeling disposable rather than just the logistics. His shrug and quick exit signaled indifference to her safety at two months in, which erodes trust fast.

Relationship coach Matthew Hussey points out, “Someone who truly likes you will move mountains to make sure you feel safe; indifference this early is the clearest sign of how little you actually matter to them.” (Hussey, 2022) Walking away without waiting ten minutes for an Uber confirms that indifference.

Moving forward, spell out transportation plans explicitly before heading to another town. More importantly, treat any moment someone shows they won’t prioritize your basic safety as the final data point you need. Ending things now is not overreacting; it’s protecting yourself from investing more in someone who already demonstrated he won’t show up when it counts.

Let’s Dive Into The Reactions From Reddit:

The social media response was swift and almost completely united in telling her to walk away without guilt.

Nearly everyone focused on the safety red flag of him leaving her alone at midnight.

Several emphasized that waiting for the Uber was bare-minimum decency.

Two months in is exactly when the mask starts to slip. One late-night shrug showed this woman how little effort he was willing to give when she actually needed help.The takeaway is clear: anyone can be charming for a few hours on a date, but real care shows up in the moments that are inconvenient. Walking away from indifference this early saves years of disappointment later.

Would you end things over one incident like this, or give him another chance with clearer communication first? Where’s your personal line when it comes to basic safety on dates?