WIBTA if I told my mom that her dogs are the only ones not allowed on family vacation?

A frustrated adult child booked a family cabin getaway but now faces a showdown: ban mom’s food-obsessed Yorkie-Maltese duo while allowing a sister’s well-mannered pit bull. Past incidents—devoured pizza, raw meat, and barbecue-chip carnage—left carpets ruined and the host fed up.

In addition, what makes the story more complicated is mom’s proven track record of picking her “babies” over human relationships, refusing visits to the poster’s home after the dogs were barred. With a deposit on the line, the planner dreads turning vacation into a constant food-guarding ordeal.

‘WIBTA if I told my mom that her dogs are the only ones not allowed on family vacation?’

The chaos began innocently enough, with small dogs turning counters into all-you-can-eat buffets.

My mom has 2 half Yorkie half Maltese dogs, these dogs are my mom's world. The problem is they are obsessed with food, they will go to any lengths to...

Next was an entire pizza that was snatched off of the table the moment I went to grab sodas from the kitchen. In the span of less than a minute...

Escalation followed at the next gathering, proving warnings and backyard requests were ignored.

Next get together they found there way inside even tho I asked my mom to keep them in the backyard. They got into my kitchen and tore open 2 bags...

At this point I told my mother her dogs were not allowed at my home. She has stopped coming by altogether, which does hurt my feelings because if it's a...

A relaxing cabin trip now hangs in the balance, with one dog welcome and two very much not.

I'm planning a family vacation, booked a nice cabin for the whole family to stay in. My sister is bringing her dog (well behaved female Pitt) so I know it's...

I don't want to spend the whole weekend making sure not a single scrap of food is left out for even a second otherwise her dogs with tear it apart...

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My sister told me to just tell my mom that she has to keep a close eye on her dogs but I have tried that before and shes proven time...

WIBTA if I tell my mom her food crazed dogs are not allowed on family vacation even tho another dog will be there?

Tiny terrors with zero impulse control can torpedo any gathering, and this cabin host is right to draw a hard line.

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The crux: mom’s untrained dogs have repeatedly destroyed property and ignored boundaries, while the sister’s pit bull poses no such threat—fairness isn’t sameness when behavior differs wildly. Some argue all dogs or none, yet that punishes the responsible owner. In addition, what makes the story more complicated is mom’s emotional prioritization of pets over people, turning a simple rule into a relationship test.

Wider trends reveal poorly managed dogs strain families, especially in shared rentals where deposits ride on cleanliness. Training, crating, or boarding are solutions mom refuses.

As dog behaviorist Victoria Stilwell explains, “Food-obsessed dogs need management and training; without it, owners choose chaos over courtesy” (Victoria Stilwell, Positively).

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Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

The majority of social media users backed the cabin planner, insisting untrained dogs forfeit vacation privileges.

Mira_DFalco − Nope, NTA. If your mom is going to insist on her feral destructo-mutts being included,  she needs to book the accommodations and be responsible for the deposit.

Otherwise she's just going to have to be content with staying in the doghouse. Even if she does step up for that, I wouldn't share accommodations with animals that are...

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No_Garbage3192 − NTA but your mum is. I get some dogs are incredibly food driven (I have labs) but you need to up the training to teach them not to...

ShannaraRose − NTA, but you already know your mother won't come with this restriction. She won't come to your home if her dogs aren't welcome - she won't come on...

Personally, I'd just not invite her anywhere except brief outings like restaurants where her dogs can't come, if at all. It sounds like she prefers the company of her dogs...

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Wonderful-Result2036 − NTA Good luck, it sounds like you will need it. If your mom showed you before that she chooses her dogs over coming to your house, I’m fairly...

A couple of voices suggested diplomatic cover stories to soften the blow while protecting the trip.

MamaMagic18 − NTA, if you let the dogs go you’ll ruin any relaxation you’re attempting to get. Can you say something like there’s a strict AirBnB owner pet limit of...

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Or say no dogs altogether and your sister can make arrangements…or just say the full truth - “sorry, mom, I just don’t want to have to worry about dogs on...

unreliable_ibex − NTA but just say "no dogs" to avoid hurt feelings. Is that an option?

Light-hearted jabs kept the mood from getting too heavy, poking fun at the furry felons.

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flowerybutterfly96 − Does the insurance on the cabin cover the Pit? Some breeds are excluded from coverage. Unfortunately, your sister couldn't bring her dog either, but then you could give...

MaddMechro − NTA But INFO: How are these small dogs getting items from counters and tables?

SwimAccomplished9487 − And I bet mom would blame everyone else if the dogs ate something dangerous that made them sick or killed them…

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roborabbit_mama − INFO: Crate the dogs when food is in play?

This social media dilemma boils down to one planner refusing to let vacation become a canine crime scene, even if it means mom stays home with her four-legged priorities. In addition, what makes the story more complicated is the emotional sting of a parent choosing pets over family time, yet the host’s past messes justify the ban.

When one pet behaves and another destroys everything, is a blanket “no dogs” rule the only fair play, or is selective enforcement acceptable? Have you ever had to exclude a relative’s beloved animal from a group event—how did you break the news?

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