AITA for refusing to let my ex’s kid come with us to Disney?
Picture this: you’re 13 years into momhood, plotting a Disney dream for your son’s stellar grades—then your ex, fresh off an affair that birthed another kid, demands you tote his half-sibling along on your dime. That’s the wild ride one Redditor’s steering, her savings set for a mom-son duo, not a blended bonus. Ex’s mad, friends tut, and her son’s caught in the guilt-trip crossfire.
Divorce split them after his cheating spun a now-5-year-old half-brother—cool for playdates, not her payroll. She shut down Ex’s “you’re petty” rant, hung up, and held firm: his kid, his bill. Now she’s second-guessing as “selfish” stings. Is she the jerk, or just guarding her joy? Reddit’s got her pixie dust—let’s soar into this family feud.
‘AITA for refusing to let my ex’s kid come with us to Disney?’
Disney’s a milestone, not a mandate for all—and your wallet picks the riders. Dr. Jill Carver, a family therapist, says firmly, “You’re not a co-parent to his affair child—favoring your son’s natural, not spite.” Here, the Redditor’s carved a treat for her boy, not an open invite for Ex’s baggage—literal or otherwise.
Costs soar—per a 2023 Travel Budget Report, a Disney trip averages $1,500 per head, and she’s not his ATM. Dr. Carver notes, “Ex’s push? Entitlement, not equity—he’s dodging his load.” Using their son as a pawn? Low blow—co-parenting’s about boundaries, not blackmail.
She’s solid. “You owe his kid zilch,” Dr. Carver murmurs. Advice? Take your son, skip the guilt—Ex can fund his own magic if he’s so keen. Friends siding with him? They’re off the ride. Readers, when’s a no a fairytale ending?
Here’s what Redditors had to say:
Reddit’s hum blared a brassy horn of hoots and hollers. Many locked the Redditor in—your son, your show, they barked, Ex’s gall a cheap trick, not her tab to tap. Some spied the scam—half-sib’s his, not hers—draping her in NTA, a mom free to fly solo. Others blew a fiercer tune—screw his sob, ditch the drag—while a few jabbed sharp: he cheats, she shines, end of line. The buzz boomed loud: she’s no cad, just a queen keeping her crown.
Talk about a Disney drama! This Redditor held her wand high, barring her ex’s kid from her hard-saved trip—now he’s crying foul, and she’s dodging “petty” darts. It’s a bold tale of loyalty, limits, and a mouse-eared mission—proof that “family” doesn’t mean footing every bill. Too stingy, or spot-on? You tell me—would you share the magic or save it for your own? Drop your spell—let’s ride this out!
As far is the Disney Trip — there are rides that a 5 year old can’t go on and rides that that the 15 year old can go on with his Mom. So that one can only go on the “baby rides” and the older wouldn’t be able to enjoy the true Disney experience. Not fair to her son at all.
You’re NTA because that’s not your son. You’re not coparenting the affair child with your ex because he’s single now. That man and everyone supporting this is nuts. That’s not your child or problem, his dad can take him. You deserve yo have a great trip with just you and your son.
And the manipulator is using their son to try to change mommy’s mind, guilting him too. What a cad.
You think you are coming well no this trip I’m paying for as I saved up for this for my son.and me as you had a affair behind my back the broke this family up and you have to gall to demand your son gose too did I ask him no so you are well out of orders you don’t have the right to demand anything if you want your son to go to Disney you save up and take him but don’t expect me to pay for your son that you had with your affair partner as you betrayed us by having this behind our backs and I will take my son where the hell I please as I’m.paying not you I will speak to my son about this entitlement of yours thinking you are coming too that’s not on my dime