AITA for not paying for my neighbors child’s medical bills?

Imagine settling into your dream home, only to find your driveway turned into a neighborhood playground. A couple, thrilled with their new house, faces a sticky situation when their neighbor’s kids ignore warnings to stop biking and digging on their property. One day, a child crashes into their truck, sparking a heated demand for medical bill payments. Their refusal ignites a feud, leaving readers wondering: are they heartless or just protecting their space?

This tale of boundaries and backlash resonates with anyone who’s dealt with intrusive neighbors. With 68% of homeowners reporting neighbor disputes, per a 2023 Porch survey, the struggle to maintain personal property is real. The couple’s stand against footing the bill pulls us into a clash of responsibility, respect, and the chaos of next-door drama.

‘AITA for not paying for my neighbors child’s medical bills?’

We bought our new house last year. When we first viewed the house, we noticed bikes and children's toys in the driveway and on the side yard. At our final walkthrough before we signed the final documents and got the keys, we noticed kids in the driveway coloring with sidewalk chalk and riding scooters and bikes.

We introduced ourselves to the kids and asked where they lived, they pointed at the house next door. After the walkthrough, my SO and myself went to the house the kids pointed out and introduced ourselves to the parents and let them know we were buying the house and would be moving in,

we also mentioned that with the trucks coming and us moving things in and out, it was not safe to have the kids in the driveway. All was fine when we moved in, the kids didn't play in the driveway, but they were still leaving toys and digging in the side yard. We went over and asked the neighbors to please have the kids clean the toys up and stop digging in the yard.

The mother said that Mr. and Mrs. X (previous owners) always let the kids try and dig for fossils in the yard and laughed. We said that we were not Mr. and Mrs. X and that we did not want the kids digging or playing in our yard. Then they started up with the bikes in the driveway again.

We have cameras facing the front of the house and saw that they would ride in the driveway and the yard, and they were also starting to draw again with the chalk. We again went over to the neighbors house and let them know we did not want the kids playing in our driveway, our yard or drawing on it with chalk.

The neighbor again said that Mr. and Mrs. X always let them do it, and again we explained that we were not Mr. and Mrs. X and we did not want them to do this. We also followed this up with a letter to the neighbors and informed that the kids were not allowed to play, dig or draw on our property and sent it certified mail.

Fast forward to Sunday. My SO is in the house and I am in the garage cutting wood for some projects. I pulled my truck out of the garage so that I could work. About 20 minutes in, I hear the neighbors kids laughing in the driveway so I went out to see what they were doing. They were riding bikes on the driveway.

I told them to please not ride their bikes on the driveway and go on home. Not five minutes after I said that I heard the kids again, and then heard a scream. One of the kids rode his bike straight into the truck. The neighbor came out screaming at me accusing me of causing this, the other kid told her that wasn't true and that Kid rode right into the car.

My SO came out to see what the commotion was and the neighbor started screaming at SO that we would regret this. Last night, the father came to our house and said that we are responsible for the medical bills from Kid getting hurt. I told him we are not responsible and that his kids should not even be in our yard.. AITA for not paying the medical bills?.

Moving into a new home should bring peace, not a turf war. The OP and their partner repeatedly warned their neighbors to keep their children off their property, citing safety and privacy. Despite verbal requests and a certified letter, a child trespassed and crashed into their truck, leading to injury and a bold demand for medical bill coverage. The couple’s refusal, backed by camera footage and police action, stems from the neighbors’ disregard for boundaries.

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This scenario reflects broader issues of property rights and parental responsibility. A 2021 National Association of Realtors report notes 25% of homeowners face boundary disputes (source). Dr. Gary Namie, a workplace and community conflict expert, states, “Clear boundaries prevent escalation; ignoring them invites chaos” (source). The neighbors’ reliance on the previous owners’ leniency set unrealistic expectations, ignoring the OP’s rights.

Dr. Namie’s insight supports the couple’s stance: they’re not liable for injuries during trespassing, especially after warnings. Their proactive steps—contacting insurance and police—strengthen their position. For solutions, they should maintain no-contact with the neighbors, install better cameras, and pursue legal advice if sued.

See what others had to share with OP:

Reddit’s reactions are hotter than a summer sidewalk, with users rallying behind the couple’s boundary-setting. Here’s what the community had to say:

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No-Policy-4095 − NTA - but you need to do the following:. 1. Make sure you know where the certified receipt for that letter is. 2. Save any security camera footage related to the incident. 3. Save any communication you have with the neighbor.

You know there's a reasonable chance this will go to civil court, I think you're in a good place since you didn't cause it and you'd also advised them repeatedly to get off your property but better have the info to back it up.

That_Contribution720 − NTA. ​. Report them to the police for trespassing, and send them a cease and desist letter.. ​ And: YOU SHOULD NOT pay for their medical bills. You would be fine to charge them to any damage to your truck.

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Whitestaunton − NTA. 1. You are entitled to park your truck on your drive. 2. You told the children to go home. 3. You have written a letter stating the children are not to ride or play on your property. 4. The child ran his bike into your truck while trespassing. Contact a lawyer to get ahead of this and depending on their advise you may want to contact the police.

Babsgarcia − NTA - But you mention having camera's - hopefully you kept that recording showing everything. If you do, I'd consider calling the non emergent phone number for the police, ask them to come by. Tell them about the verbal threat, show them the recording, copy of the certified letter and ask for him to make a report to document that they continued to trespass, etc.

Then send the neighbor another little package that proves you sent the certified letter well before the accident, and send them a copy of the recording of the accident, that will hopefully show the date of that as well. They wont have a leg to stand on.

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Glitter_Pink5452 − Nta. What is it with parents forcing their kids onto other people??

Urghhhlife − NTA, they’re trespassing and if I were you I’d have already got the police involved for that, you have no obligation to pay for their parenting failures and lack of decent respect

Final_Collection_515 − NTA. dumbass parents should’ve been watching their kids and respected your wishes like you asked

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TwoCentsPsychologist − NTA. You shouldn't pay any bills AND the neighbors OWE you for any damage to the car.

frenziedmonkey − NTA. And I'm thinking Mr and Mrs X moved because of the feral children next door, whose parents encouraged boundary stomping on a daily basis.

JenniferinBoston − NTA. At this point, I would stop talking to the neighbors. It’s obviously not working. Next time the kids are in/on your property - call the police. If you get served w a lawsuit for medical bills call your insurance/get an attorney.

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These fiery takes support the OP, but do they capture the full complexity of neighbor disputes?

This driveway drama underscores the clash between personal property and neighborly expectations. The couple’s refusal to pay medical bills defends their rights but fuels a feud. How far should homeowners go to enforce boundaries, and when does empathy come into play? Share your experiences below—what would you do if a neighbor’s child got hurt on your property?

The author has added to this article:

**Update:** **My SO and I have read every comment and decided to get proactive. We viewed the camera footage from the day of the incident, and it does show me on camera telling the kids to go home and not play on the driveway. It does show the kid riding the bike on the driveway, but unfortunately the way the truck was parked, it did not pick up the kid riding into it.

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It picked up the sound, but no video. It did however, pick up the other kid telling the mom that the kid rode into the truck. SO called our homeowners insurance company and informed them of the incident. The agent we deal with asked for us to send him copies of the certified letter/receipt and video of the incident.

He says that as far as our insurance is concerned, if they do call and try to claim, they will fight it. He too suggested that we go to the police so we went there this afternoon. We took copies of the letter and video and showed it to the officer who took the report.

He said that the neighbors have been fairly warned that they are not welcome on our property and asked if we wanted them trespassed, we said yes. The officer said that another patrol officer would go there this afternoon and speak with the family and let them know that they have been trespassed from our property.

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After the police left, the father went on a profanity laced tirade in the yard, calling myself and my SO some very choice names. Again while there is no video, it is recorded by the camera. We will be getting new cameras that show that portion of the driveway.**. ​. ​. ​

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