AITA for going thrifting?

In a cluttered thrift store, where racks brim with vintage tees and worn-in denim, Emily, an 18-year-old high schooler, unearthed a checkered shirt that screamed “steal” at five bucks. Her grin widened—another win for her wallet and the planet. But when Jen, an acquaintance, spotted the shirt and learned it was thrifted, her compliment curdled into a lecture. Jen insisted thrift stores were for the needy, not middle-class kids like Emily. Suddenly, Emily’s bargain hunt felt like a moral minefield.

Thrifting’s allure—affordable, eco-friendly finds—has hooked a generation wary of fast fashion’s toll. Yet Jen’s words stung, hinting at privilege and gatekeeping. Emily’s Reddit post lays bare this clash: is thrifting a universal good, or does it belong to some more than others? Her story pulls us into a debate about ethics, access, and the true cost of a good deal.

‘AITA for going thrifting?’

Anyways, I (18f) prefer to thrift my clothes instead of buying new ones just because it’s much more affordable (I’m still a broke student in hs!) and more sustainable. Basically, it’s a way for me to buy new clothes without absolutely blowing my wallet. The other day, I was wearing a shirt I recently thrifted,

and an acquaintance (let’s call her Jen) complimented it and asked where I bought it. When I told Jen I thrifted it, she proceeded to lecture me on how thrift stores are meant for low-income families, and that people like me shouldn’t go thrifting because we can afford to pay a higher price for new clothing.

Here’s where i might be the AH: I come from a middle-class family in an affluent suburb, so I could technically borrow money from my parents to pay for new clothes. I’m expected to pay for most of my own clothing (which I’m perfectly okay with, I have some money saved up from my last job but not a ton).

I just want to save my money when shopping for new clothes, and also want to avoid buying from brands that use child labor. However, I don’t want to take nice clothing away from someone who really needs it, so AITA for going thrifting when I’m not from a low-income family?

Emily’s run-in with Jen exposes a prickly debate about who “owns” thrifting. Jen’s gatekeeping—claiming thrift stores are only for low-income shoppers—smacks of misplaced virtue. Thrifting’s bigger than that; it’s a jab at the fast fashion beast devouring resources and ethics.

Sustainability expert Dr. Jennifer Gordon says, “Second-hand shopping diverts 2.5 million tons of textiles from landfills yearly” (EPA). Emily’s thrifting habit, driven by budget and a dislike for child labor, supports this. Thrift stores like Salvation Army fund community programs with every sale, not just for the poor. Jen’s view ignores this, assuming Emily’s middle-class roots mean she’s hogging resources. Wrong—there’s no clothing shortage; the U.S. discards 11.3 million tons of textiles annually.

Emily’s not the villain here. Jen’s lecture, though well-meaning, oversimplifies a complex system. Emily can keep thrifting guilt-free, maybe donating her old clothes to balance things out. This supports stores’ missions while reducing stigma for all shoppers.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit didn’t hold back on Emily’s thrift store saga, dishing out wit and wisdom with equal zest. Here’s the unfiltered pulse from the crowd, packed with cheers and shade:

Lumpy_Mix_2605 − NTA. That's not an actual thing. Only for poor people? Super weird gatekeep. At a lot of thrift stores the items are donated for free and the money they make does go to things like work programs for the poor. So by buying things you could be helping the poor/disadvantaged.

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[Reddit User] − NTA. I think a lot of the issue people have with thrifting is the ‘reselling’ aspect: people thrift all the name brands or cute clothes and spend $50-150, and then resell them on Instagram or Poshmark, thereby clearing out most of the cute inventory that people could shop for.

You going as one person is perfectly normal. I come from a comfortable middle class family as well and I go to thrift stores all the time for my books, there’s no reason you have to have a certain income to enter. But maybe donate your old stuff too!

stillnotarobot − NTA--there's WAY more stuff in the world than we need and buying secondhand is the only choice ethically regardless of your income for clothing but almost everything else too (furniture especially). Shopping at thrift stores (rather than buying new) is a more needed and conscientious choice than donating to them.

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I've worked in thrift store and secondhand waste streams (I got interested because I didn't want to support child labor) and the volume of stuff passing through every secondhand store in the US is incredible and unsustainable at every level.

Very few stores have space for all of what would be ok to sell, let alone slightly blemished or out of season stock, so a huge amount gets shipped overseas where it overwhelms other markets. Keep shopping at thrift stores even when you can afford other stuff!

If you're concerned about people who can't afford to shop elsewhere, pay attention when you're at the stores. A lot of stores are part-charity, and some have voucher or other programs to help people directly. You shopping there allows them to provide this valuable service to everyone, and it also reduces any stigma aimed at people who have no other choice.

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thrudvangr − no. Income base has 0 to do w thrift stores. Your cash benefits whatever the store is for. Here we have ones for hospice. My dollars help that charity out so I shop there. Theyre not open to cater only to the poor

Bookish4269 − NTA. You are correct that reusing clothes by purchasing them used from a thrift store is more sustainable. The reality is there are far, far more used clothes than can ever be resold, it’s actually a huge problem trying to find ways to keep all our discarded clothes out of landfills. By buying your clothes from second-hand stores you are doing your part to help with that problem.

Your friend is full of it. Her condescending, scolding, self-righteous lecture was total BS. I’m sure she thinks very highly of herself for speaking up on behalf of all the hapless poor people who need someone like her to fight for their access to second-hand clothes, but she is simply wrong.

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There is no way you should be borrowing money from your parents to buy new clothes when there are perfectly good used clothes that you can afford to buy. Feel free to ignore your tiresome friend and continue to shop in thrift stores.

Zealousideal_Dare268 − NTAAAAAS at all! Thrift stores being supported by people like you are what maintains their financial standing

translucencies − NTA. There is nothing wrong with you thrift shopping. It’s a store.

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SnooEagles6930 − Nta she is being super judgemental

why_kitten_why − NTA. You are not well off, you parents are. You are responsible for buying your own clothes. So many clothes do not get sold from thrift stores, I do not believe you buying them means a poor person will be lacking in choices.Her statement is unnecessary gatekeeping. --from a person who still buys second hand.

trash_panda011 − Nta- Did you see anywhere on the door or windows that said “ only for low income families”? Your acquaintance can shove it.

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Redditors gave Emily a virtual high-five, shredding Jen’s gatekeeping with stats and snark. From charity benefits to landfill woes, they backed thrifting for all. But are these hot takes the full picture, or just Reddit’s echo chamber?

Emily’s thrift store tale reveals thrifting as more than a budget hack—it’s a stand against waste and exploitation. Jen’s judgment, though off-base, sparks real talk about privilege and access. With mountains of discarded clothes clogging landfills, thrifting’s a win for everyone, not a gated club. Emily’s doing her part, one shirt at a time. What would you say to Jen if you were in Emily’s shoes? Drop your thoughts—how do you weigh ethics and access when shopping second-hand?

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