AITA for wanting to keep my weaving room?

Picture a cozy house humming with creativity, where the rhythmic clack of a weaving loom fills a sunlit bedroom. For one 27-year-old woman, this crafting haven is her pride and joy, a space where rugs and fabrics come to life. But when her boyfriend moved in, the harmony unraveled. He’s got his eyes on her weaving room, dreaming of a gaming den, sparking a tug-of-war over space and fairness. Is she wrong to hold her ground?

This isn’t just about a room—it’s about passion, boundaries, and making a shared home work. With a nursery already prepped for their future child and a living room buzzing with gaming consoles, her boyfriend’s push to oust her loom feels like a power play. Reddit’s weighing in, and the debate’s heating up. Let’s dive into this domestic drama!

‘AITA for wanting to keep my weaving room?’

My (27f) boyfriend (36M) recently moved in with me in a house I bought long before meeting him. It's not the biggest, but it has three bedrooms and one living room (and kitchen and bathrooms ofc). I am currently using one of the bedrooms as a weaving and overall crafting area. I make rugs and sometimes fabrics that I sell. Not really for much but it still gives some money, and it's very fun.

If you've seen a weaving jack loom, you know they are huge so I cannot fit it into any other room other than a own bedroom for crafting stuff. I don't want to put it into the living room either because we have a lot of friends over often, so it would get too crowded in there. 

My boyfriend wants me to turn the crafting room into a gaming room, as we both like to game, and thinks it's unfair and assholish of me to take up a whole room for just weaving. But we already have our gaming stuff in the living room and for me that works fine, and I really don't think it's reasonable of him to essentially make me stop weaving all together and get rid of the jack loom (bcus it doesn't fit anywhere else so that's basically want he asks me to do)

The second bedroom is already set up to be a nursery as we are trying for children currently so we can't turn that into a gaming room and honestly i don't see the point to that kind of room at all when we already have a quite large living room, and it's far easier to game there than in a separate room.

He's saying that its unfair I get a whole other room and he doesn't but he knew how my house looked before moving in and knows how much it means to me to craft so I think he's being the unfair one, plus he's more than welcome to start crafting too if he wants to use the room.. AITA for wanting to keep the weaving room as it is, and continuing to game in the living room?

When a couple moves in together, carving out personal space can feel like navigating a minefield. The OP’s weaving room isn’t just a hobby space—it’s her creative lifeline, tied to income and joy. Her boyfriend’s push for a gaming room, when the living room already serves that purpose, hints at a deeper struggle for control. As relationship expert Esther Perel notes, “A healthy relationship requires both togetherness and individuality” . Here, the boyfriend’s demand risks sidelining the OP’s identity.

The OP’s loom, a bulky jack loom, physically can’t fit elsewhere, unlike gaming consoles, which are portable. Data shows 65% of adults engage in hobbies to reduce stress (Statista), making her crafting room a mental health anchor. Her boyfriend knew the setup before moving in, yet his insistence suggests a lack of respect for her boundaries.

Perel’s advice emphasizes mutual compromise. The boyfriend could propose shared solutions, like a foldable gaming setup in the living room, rather than demanding her space. For couples facing similar clashes, open dialogue about needs—without ultimatums—can prevent resentment.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s got some spicy takes on this loom-versus-gaming showdown, and they’re not holding back. Here’s what the community had to say:

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FeedThePug - NTA - You can stop trying for a child. You already have one. Red flag in my book. He knew about the crafting room when he moved in. And, unlike the gaming equipment, you can‘t put the loom elsewhere.

reverse-dawn - NTA at all. It's your house. He sounds immature and entitled. I would hold off having children until your boyfriend grows the heck up.

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dlogos13 - Uh... it’s your house. NTA. More broadly - your much older bf moves into your house and expects to reorder your house to his liking because it’s “not fair” to him? You didn’t give a lot of details, but this sounds a bit... exploitative.

Unsolicited advice: keep separate finances except for one small joint checking account for shared living expenses. Your savings and paycheck should go into a private account.. ETA: put up a prefab shed in the backyard and put one of those “man cave” signs on it.

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Opagea - NTA, there's already an established space for gaming: the living room.. we are trying for children currently. Slow the hell down. You JUST moved in together, and you already have a major conflict.

vermicious_knid89 - If he doesn’t like your weaving room, that’s pretty warped. I think it’s better that he weft.. Edit: Thanks for my prizes!

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thatblkman - NTA because logic - weaving requires more space than an XBox. But I feel like the bigger issue is that he's in YOUR house and might be throwing this fit because he's trying to feel at home in it (i.e. make it both of yours' home versus him 'staying' with you). Which is normal, BUT... He's 36.

He's a whole grown ass man arguing against logic instead of logically suggesting buying a house together that can have the gaming room and a weaving room. (I'm assuming this hasn't been discussed.) But don't have kids with this man. He's got 9 sunturns on you in age but is a decade of age behind you in maturity. You'll end up having to raise a baby and his baby ass.

Damnbee - NTA I'm surprised you are trying to have a child when it sounds to me like you recently moved in a baby.

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ZeJLarkin - *A reasonable version of this:* BF: Babe, what would you think about moving your weaving and craft stuff to a smaller room, so that we could turn that big one into a gaming room for us? YOU: Oh, sorry, we can’t. The big room is the only one big enough for my loom, which, as a supportive and interested lover you have seen me use.

BF: No problem! Slightly smaller game room, and a happy girlfriend? I’m thrilled! Now, let’s go work on that baby!. *What Actually Happened:*. BF: Me want game room, Girl move stuff. YOU: Oh, sorry, Honey, we can’t.

The big room is the only one big enough for my loom, which, as a grunting caveman, you have no idea what I’m talking about, do you?. BF: No fair! Me want Game! Room! Girl move stuff!!. YOU: We could game together, in the big living room, or work together to redecorate for our future baby?. BF: Game! Room! Me! Deserve! RAAAAAAH!!!!. *You’re NTA!*

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soonergirrl - NTA it's very common for someone to have a room dedicated to crafting. I understand him wanting a gaming room, but like you said, that's the living room.

Feroc - NTA I am not really a fan of the 'it's your house, do what you want' argument, so I will leave that aside. You have limited space and you have hobbies that need space. I see the appeal of a gaming room and I am happy that my wife and I both have space in our house so each of us has a separate room for their hobby.

So I get that your husband would want a room for his/your hobby, too. But it just sounds like that your hobby pretty much requires a separate room, while gaming can be done in the living room.

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These Reddit gems lean hard into supporting the OP, but is it really that simple? A weaving room versus a gaming room might seem trivial, but it’s a classic tale of compromise—or the lack thereof. What’s the real cost of this clash?

The OP’s weaving room isn’t just a space—it’s her creative soul, hard-earned and non-negotiable. Her boyfriend’s push for a gaming room, when the living room already does the job, feels like a challenge to her autonomy. Reddit’s cheering her on, but the real question is about balance in love and space. Should she bend, or is standing firm the only way? Share your thoughts—what would you do if your partner tried to reshape your sanctuary?

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