AITA for firing a man for refusing to make a delivery?

Running a small restaurant is like juggling flaming torches while riding a unicycle. A Reddit user, co-owner of a cozy eatery, faced a fiery dilemma when a new delivery driver refused to deliver to a customer notorious for making female drivers feel unsafe. With no other male drivers available, the owner expected the young man to step up to shield his female colleagues. But his flat-out refusal led to a canceled order and, the next morning, his termination, all in the name of a “family environment.”

The decision sparked a storm of criticism, with the owner wondering if they misjudged the situation. Should they have fired the driver, or was the real issue the creepy customer? This tale of workplace safety, tough calls, and clashing priorities pulls readers into the messy world of small business management.

‘AITA for firing a man for refusing to make a delivery?’

We own a small restaurant and we offer delivery. Ever since we started delivering, we had to make note of people's addresses because some young women would make some of our male drivers uncomfortable evey single time. To stop that we would send one of our older male drivers or our female drivers.

And some men would make our female drivers uncomfortable so we'd send male drivers. This is something everyone was used to doing. We hired a young man and he started doing some deliveries. A a middle aged man had a history of making female drivers feel not only uncomfortable but physically unsafe.

We only had a handful of people available to make a delivery at that time so we told him to go because he was the only male available. He said no. He kept refusing and we had to cancel the order. I fired him the next morning. We want a family environment and he refused to help potentially keep a female driver safe and comfortable.

Firing an employee over a single refusal can ignite more problems than it solves. The Reddit user’s decision to terminate the driver stemmed from a desire to protect female staff from a customer known for unsettling behavior. However, forcing the young man into a potentially unsafe delivery overlooked his own comfort and the broader issue: the customer’s conduct. This misstep highlights a management failure to prioritize employee safety across the board.

Workplace safety is a critical concern. A 2023 report by the Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) notes that 20% of workplace harassment incidents involve customer interactions, particularly in service industries. The restaurant’s practice of gender-based driver assignments, while practical, risks legal scrutiny for discrimination, as noted by Reddit commenters.

Dr. Amy McCart, a workplace safety expert, states, “Employers must ensure all staff feel secure, regardless of gender, by addressing problematic clients directly” (Workplace Safety North). Here, the owner should have blacklisted the customer rather than pressuring the driver. The driver’s refusal, while disruptive, may have stemmed from valid safety concerns.

Moving forward, the owner should implement a clear policy refusing service to customers who threaten staff, ensuring all employees feel protected. Training on de-escalation and a formal complaint process could further strengthen safety. Open dialogue with staff about delivery policies can rebuild trust.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

The Reddit posse didn’t mince words, unloading a truckload of shade on the owner’s call. Here’s the raw scoop from the digital diner:

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irish52084 − YTA. You have a repeat customer that makes other drivers feel unsafe and you're trying to force someone to go into a dangerous situation? What the hell are you thinking? I'd cross my fingers that he doesn't lawyer up,

because this situation screams liability to me. The problem here was the customer, not the driver. You misidentified the real issue and fired a person over it. In my mind that's a massive failure of management.

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OlskoolD2K − YTA - if no one feels safe delivering there, irrespective of their s**, you should just refuse to deliver to that person. It’s pretty straight forward.

[Reddit User] − YTA. It’s not his responsibility to keep the other drivers safe. That’s your responsibility. Stop delivering to the creeps

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Apricot_Gus − YTA. You should be refusing service to people that make your employees physically unsafe!

grouchymonk1517 − YTA - if the man is physically threatening people NO ONE should be asked to go to his house.

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JuneTotenberg − INFO: Did he also feel uncomfortable? Some creeps do not gender discriminate. Not taking the business of a creep sounds like good business to me.

Nay_nay267 − YTA. If the guy makes multiple people uncomfortable, you should have put him on a do not deliver list

AdministrationThis77 − Info: why did he refuse to do the delivery?

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genevajacuzzi22 − YTA and this is pretty straightforward gender discrimination. You need to ensure that all of your employees feel safe, so you should probably just stop delivering to anyone who makes any,

of your employees feel physically unsafe. Either way, you should talk to a lawyer about your policies because it sounds like you have different job requirements based on gender and sometimes age and that’s going to get you sued.

Muted_Violinist5151 − The comments have pretty much said it but YTA for continuing to deliver to him, and anyone who is making your employees uncomfortable. You're going to lose your staff if you don't start putting your foot down

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Redditors roasted the owner for targeting the driver instead of the creepy customer, with some warning of legal fallout. Others demanded a no-delivery list for unsafe clients, questioning why the restaurant kept serving the troublemaker. These hot takes beg the question: do they hit the mark, or are they just stirring the soup?

This restaurant saga serves up a lesson in misplaced priorities. The owner’s firing of the driver aimed to protect female staff but missed the real culprit: the unsafe customer. Balancing employee safety with business needs is a tightrope walk, especially in a small operation. How would you handle a customer who makes your team feel threatened? Share your thoughts and experiences below to keep the conversation cooking!

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