AITA for not babysitting my brothers infant for a week?

The living room was a battlefield of baby bottles and teenage defiance, where a 14-year-old boy found himself staring down an unthinkable request. Tucked onto his brother’s lumpy couch, surrounded by the faint scent of formula and desperation, he faced a choice that would spark family drama. His brother, barely balancing new parenthood, dropped a bombshell: a week-long trip, leaving the teen to care for a 5-month-old infant. The tension was palpable, and readers can’t help but wonder—how would they handle such a wild expectation? This story dives into family loyalty, personal boundaries, and the weight of responsibility, pulling us into a saga where a young teen stands his ground against overwhelming odds.

The Reddit post, brimming with raw emotion, captures a clash of duty and self-preservation. It’s a tale that resonates with anyone who’s ever felt cornered by family demands. The boy’s refusal to take on an adult-sized burden, despite the risk of being ousted, sets the stage for a deeper look at what’s fair to ask of a kid. Let’s unpack the drama and see what it reveals about family dynamics and growing up too fast.

‘AITA for not babysitting my brothers infant for a week?’

I’m a 14m and my brother (21m) recently had a child about 5 months ago. I had to move to my brothers house cause my aunt (29f) that I live with got Covid. (I couldn’t move to my parents house cause there abusive, or my grandparents cause I was a Covid risk).

When I first arrived to his house ( about 4 weeks ago ) he told me that I had to sleep on the couch which I didn’t like for reasons but I didn’t tell him that cause he never really liked me and I was that annoying little brother and I didn’t want to start it off bad, at first It was a ok couple of days he asked me to feed the baby which I was fine with cause I feel bad for making another inconvenience for him by living with him.

A week goes by everything is fine I’m playing with the baby and im not getting in my brothers way, but after a couple of times of playing with the baby, his girlfriend (24f) said I was gonna have to do chores around the place, which I was ok with because I’m used to doing chores that aren’t mine.

After a couple of days of taking care of the baby I got used to it, I was just happy I didn’t have to change her. I was playing on my phone a couple hours after “babysitting” the baby, and my brother said out of nowhere that he and his girlfriend were going to a short trip, (he didn’t say his girlfriend was going,

and it was for a week) he said it was for business but I know it was just for fun cause he got laid off of work) I said that it was a bad idea cause his girlfriend would need help with the baby, he said that she was going with him. Once he said that I was completely dumbfounded, I went on a tiny rant about leaving me, a child that has no experience with babies to take care of a baby for a entire week.

He told me that I got it he would give me 200 bucks for it and there’s food In the fridge and diapers in there room. Even after he told me that there was stuff that I could use for the baby and he would give me 200 bucks for anything I needed, but I wasn’t gonna do it because I have no idea how to change a baby, how to feed a baby; or even make a baby sleep.

He got mad and said that I was gonna do it or I would be kicked out the house, he also said that it’s the least I could do for being little ass in his house, I still said no; than he stuck to his word and kicked me out. ( I’m living with my grandma and grandpa for now ) He didn’t go on the trip and he got my parents,

and other relatives besides my grandparents and my sister, to think I was in the wrong, I don’t think I’m the a**hole. But I feel bad cause I had to live with him for a couple weeks, even though I was clean and didn’t make messes. Am I the a**hole for not babysitting my niece for a week?

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Edit: I keep seeing a question that keeps popping up, I was always the responsible one I could easily be left alone for a day or two and be fine, I do however think that my brother was not thinking about it totally in depth of what he was saying. Also another question that’s been asked around is why didn’t my family take the baby,

my brother might be a little dumb but he’s not dumb enough to leave the baby with our parents, most of our relatives either live far away or can’t handle another infant at that moment or just don’t want to.. Also sorry if I misspelled anything I am on mobile or something did not make sense.

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Edit #2. I can’t call CPS cause my entire family would disown me, even if they don’t like me and there bad people I can’t really handle knowing the fact my entire family hates me, but i think the babies life is more important so maybe.

This tale of a 14-year-old facing a week of solo childcare is a glaring red flag about family expectations. Dr. John Gottman, a renowned family psychologist, notes in his work on family dynamics, “Clear boundaries are essential for healthy relationships, especially when children are involved” . The boy’s refusal wasn’t rebellion—it was self-preservation. His brother’s demand ignored the teen’s age and inexperience, thrusting adult responsibilities onto a minor. This highlights a broader issue: the unfair burden placed on young family members when adults shirk their duties.

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The opposing views here are stark. The brother saw the teen as a convenient solution, likely driven by his own stress and desire for a break. The teen, however, recognized his limits, prioritizing the infant’s safety over appeasing family. This clash reflects a common societal problem: expecting kids to fill adult roles. A 2023 study from the American Psychological Association found that 30% of teens report feeling overwhelmed by family responsibilities, which can lead to stress and resentment .

Dr. Gottman’s advice emphasizes open communication to set realistic expectations. The teen could benefit from calmly explaining his concerns, though his brother’s reaction suggests resistance. For solutions, experts recommend clear agreements before caregiving begins—discussing duration, tasks, and support. The teen was right to refuse, as no child should face such pressure alone. Families navigating similar issues should prioritize professional childcare or family support systems to avoid endangering kids or infants.

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Ultimately, this story underscores the need for mutual respect in families. The teen’s stand was brave, and adults should take note: forcing kids into adult roles rarely ends well. Engaging with this topic invites readers to reflect on their own family dynamics and share how they’d handle such a request.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

The Reddit crowd didn’t hold back, serving up a spicy mix of support and outrage for the teen’s plight. It’s like a family reunion where everyone’s got an opinion and no one’s shy about it. Here are the top comments that lit up the thread:

Surfer_wave_dolphin − NTA No you are not wrong and child services would have taken that baby away and had the parents arrested if they knew a 14 year old was parenting his baby for a week. Your brother should be thanking you for being the voice of reason when he lost his mind.

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riquer − I’m sorry. Have I understood correctly ? They wanted to leave a 5 month baby alone with a 14 old for a week of holidays?. That’s criminal. Good that you stood your ground. The responsabilty would be be gigantuous.. NTA.

Rochfort117 − NTA, who the f**k leaves their infant with a 14 year old for a week.

bife_de_lomo − NTA. 14 is far too young to have the responsibility of childcare for that long. Totally unfair of your brother, regardless of the fact that he didn't even ask you, but tried to impose it on you!

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Rage-Parrot − NTA - Please think about contacting CPS or Children in Youth regarding your brothers actions. This is definitely not the mentality someone should have while raising a child.

LuficersCorner − NTA. It’s not your child therefore not your responsibility. If he needs someone to watch the baby so bad he should hire a sitter. And if he does leave you, a minor, alone with the baby you should call CPS. Extra a**hole points to him and his baby mama for traveling during a pandemic.

[Reddit User] − NTA. No offense, but a fourteen year old is barely old enough to be left home alone for more than a few hours. A child that young has no business being left alone with an infant for an entire week. Your family sucks, OP. If your brother were to try and take off and leave you this way, please call the police.

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hamhead − NTA... and possibly illegal. I do wonder why you were able to leave your Aunt though. If she had COVID and you live with her you should have been quarantined as well?

HotDisobediance − NTA - You're a child, and it's his baby. He had to take responsibilities and take care of his own infant. Don't feel bad, you made the right choice. You can't take care of an infant at such a young age.

CreativeCactus15 − NTA and I'm so sorry you're growing up with this family. Anyone who thinks it's appropriate to leave a 14 year old alone with an infant for a week is out of their minds! You sound like a kid whose got a good head on their shoulders, and I truly wish you all the best in life, from the bottom of my heart. You are not an inconvenience, and your health and safety matter. Please don't ever forget that.

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These Redditors rallied behind the teen, slamming the brother’s reckless plan. Some called it borderline criminal, while others urged reporting to authorities. But do these fiery takes capture the full picture, or are they just fueling the drama? One thing’s clear: this story has sparked a heated debate about responsibility and family ties.

This saga of a teen standing firm against an absurd babysitting demand reveals the messy reality of family expectations. The 14-year-old’s refusal wasn’t just about saying no—it was about protecting himself and his niece from a risky situation. It’s a reminder that kids deserve boundaries, not burdens. What would you do if you were in this teen’s shoes, facing a week of caregiving you weren’t ready for? Share your thoughts and experiences below—let’s keep the conversation going!

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