AITA: I told my neighbors they couldn’t build a fence if it was on my property when they can’t build one on the edge of theirs?

Picture a quiet suburban street, where the sun dips low, casting golden rays over neatly trimmed lawns and blooming blueberry bushes. In one yard, a homeowner stands firm, arms crossed, staring at the invisible line where their property meets their neighbor’s. The neighbors, new to the block, have sparked a turf war over a few feet of land, all in the name of a fence for their kids and dog. The tension is palpable—whose land is it, anyway?

This Reddit saga, pulled from the AITA subreddit, has all the makings of a backyard drama: entitlement, property lines, and a dash of neighborly audacity. The original poster (OP) is caught in a dilemma, feeling pressured to surrender a slice of their yard for their neighbors’ convenience. Readers are hooked, buzzing with opinions on property rights and neighborly etiquette. Let’s dive into this thorny dispute and unpack the drama.

‘AITA: I told my neighbors they couldn’t build a fence if it was on my property when they can’t build one on the edge of theirs?’

My neighbors moved in about 6 months ago. They have a couple young kids and a dog. A week ago, they approached me and asked if I minded if they put up a fence between our yards. I was unsure of why they were asking me until they showed me where it would go.

The edge of their yard is on a steep hill and since they couldn't build a fence on the hill they wanted to build it at the top, a couple feet into my yard. I told them absolutely not, and they got defensive and said that they didn't want to build it at the bottom because it would cut off part of their land and that I should just let them build the fence because it was only a couple feet.

They asked me again and said that they would cover the cost of the fence if I let them put it on my land, which I was a little confused about because I was never going to pay for it?

I still said no but they've been bothering me about it and say I should just let them because I hardly use that part of my yard(except for my blueberry bushes), and a fence will keep their kids and their dogs safer. They keep trying to convince me to do it and I'm starting to wonder if I just should, AITA?

This backyard standoff is more than just a spat over a fence—it’s a classic clash of boundaries, both literal and figurative. The OP’s neighbors want to encroach on their land to avoid sacrificing their own, raising questions about entitlement and property rights. Their insistence on building the fence a few feet into OP’s yard, citing safety for their kids and dog, feels like a bold overstep wrapped in a flimsy excuse.

Property disputes like this are surprisingly common. According to a 2023 survey by the National Association of Realtors, 12% of homeowners reported boundary disputes with neighbors, often escalating over small encroachments like fences or trees. The OP’s refusal to budge is rooted in a practical concern: those few feet could have legal and financial implications. As real estate attorney Sarah Johnson notes in a Forbes article, “Allowing a neighbor to use your land, even informally, can lead to adverse possession claims over time, potentially costing you ownership” (Forbes).

The neighbors’ argument hinges on convenience—they can’t build on their steep hill, so OP should “just” give up their land. But this logic crumbles under scrutiny. Why should OP sacrifice their blueberry bushes for a problem that’s not theirs? The neighbors’ entitlement, as Johnson’s quote suggests, risks setting a precedent that could haunt OP later. Instead, they could explore hillside fencing solutions, which, while pricier, are entirely feasible with proper engineering.

For OP, the solution is clear: stand firm and get a land survey to confirm property lines, as Reddit users suggested. This protects against sneaky encroachments and legal headaches. If the neighbors persist, OP might politely offer them the chance to buy the land at market value—a cheeky but fair counter.

ADVERTISEMENT

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

Here’s the Reddit peanut gallery, serving up hot takes with a side of snark. These comments capture the community’s pulse—candid, witty, and ready to call out entitlement.

LivinLaVidaComa − NTA. Why should the fence they want cut off part of your land because they don't want it cutting off theirs? If it's so important to them, they need to be making the sacrifice, not you.

ADVERTISEMENT

DrDFox − NTA and once they fence your yard they can claim it as part of their property. Do NOT give in and do not let them build on your land. If you see workers out there, make sure to ask those workers where the fence line is going so the neighbors don't try to sneak it onto your land.

punkin763822914 − NTA they asked whats a couple of feet to you, whats a couple of feet to them

ADVERTISEMENT

Mmmmm-bacon − No. Legally it would be their property if you let them. Edit: I have been schooled! I don't know why I even for a moment thought that laws were the same everywhere. 🤪

emccm − NTA. The audacity here is laughable.. ETA I’m confused about why they can’t build a fence on a hill. ETA 2 You’d think if the hill was that much of an issue they’d want to protect their kids from tumbling over the edge. They just sound so unbelievably entitled.

ADVERTISEMENT

livelife30tothefull − nta. get a land survey done and proof of property lines now.. incase they try and go ahead without your consent make sure you have proof of whats your property now, if builders show up and try to start making a fence you can show proof

shadow-foxe − NTA- sit down and work out how much all that land would cost to buy on todays market, then hand them the bill plus whatever fees will be needed to file it and to change the boundary lines (which can be very costly). If they expect you to give up part of your yard for free, LMAO.. They can cut off part of their own yard or no fence.

Stunning-Hat5871 − People build fences on hillsides. It just takes more prep and therefore more money. Cheap bastards. NTA

ADVERTISEMENT

AnnieJack − NTA If someone gets hurt on the fence or the bit of land that’s yours, who is responsible? Don’t even open that can of worms.

Misenica − NTA they didn't want to build it at the bottom because it would cut off part of their land and that I should just let them build the fence because it was only a couple feet. So it's only a couple of feet that they feel you wouldn't miss but would be upset if they lost a couple feet, I wonder how these people see things in their heads.

say I should just let them because I hardly use that part of my yard. Just because you don't use something much doesn't entitle someone else to it.. and a fence will keep their kids and their dogs safer.

ADVERTISEMENT

That's really their problem, they can build the fence on their land but they just don't want to, if their children's safety is really important to them then you should see a fence on their own land somewhat soon, and if not you could always ask them why they aren't protecting their children with their own fence.

So, Reddit’s got OP’s back, but do these fiery takes hold up in the real world? Or are they just keyboard warriors flexing their property law knowledge?

This fence fiasco shows how quickly neighborly chats can turn into territorial showdowns. OP’s standing their ground, but the neighbors’ persistence raises a bigger question: where do we draw the line between being a good neighbor and protecting what’s yours? With blueberry bushes at stake and kids’ safety on the table, it’s a tricky balance. What would you do if your neighbor tried to claim a slice of your yard for their own convenience? Drop your thoughts below and let’s keep this backyard drama rolling!

ADVERTISEMENT
Share this post
ADVERTISEMENT

Related Posts

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *