AITA for leaving a bad review after my cake order was canceled and u was reimbursed with a grocery store gift card?

Imagine the excitement of planning a milestone birthday, the centerpiece a custom chocolate cake shaped like a record player, ready to wow your mom on her 60th. That’s what Sarah envisioned when she hired a local home baker, confirming every detail and paying $100 upfront. But the morning of the big day, a text from the baker shatters her plans: the cake’s canceled, and all she gets is a Sobeys gift card—later revealed to be empty.

Furious but resourceful, Sarah scrambles to buy a Dairy Queen cake, selling the gift card for $80. She leaves an honest, scathing review of the baker’s unprofessionalism, only to face pushback from the baker, who claims the issue was resolved. Was Sarah wrong to air her grievance publicly, or did the baker’s flop deserve the spotlight? This Reddit tale dives into the sticky mess of customer service gone wrong.

‘AITA for leaving a bad review after my cake order was canceled and u was reimbursed with a grocery store gift card?’

So there is a woman in our community who has a home bakery and she decorates cakes. I contacted her in November about making a cake for my mother's 60th birthday in January. We confirmed the design and flavor as well as the price and date. We spoke again 3 weeks prior to confirm all details and I paid her the $100 she requested.

The night before my mother's birthday she confirmed my cake would be ready by supper time.  This morning she messaged me and told me that she was unable to obtain the main cake topper because, as she claimed, her friend who's store was making it for her, decided not to come in to work that day and she wanted to know what I wanted to do.

I asked her if she could improvise something and asked asked how much of the cake was ready and how far in to it she was so we could figure out what to do for the design. To clarify, I ordered a chocolate cake with chocolate chunks made to look like a record player with a Queen album on top.

The item whe couldn't get was the print of the album cover to put on the record. I thought maybe she could just write the word Queen and maybe make a simple drawing or something.. She never responded about the cake or acknowledged that I still wanted it. Instead she responded saying 'I don't do refunds except for Sobeys (a grocery store) gifts cards so you can see if they can make the cake for you.'

I told her I can't get to Sobeys today and asked if she can't give me my money back could I at least get a visa or Mastercard gift card so I could get to Dairy Queen or another closer store but she said no and refused to negotiate despite the fact that I didn't cancel the order and was prepared to give her creative license over the design.

I got the gift card from her, which was clearly something she had gotten for Christmas and not something she had as compensation for clients. I ended up selling it for $80 so that I could but a simple cake from Dairy Queen and we left her a bad but honest review. Now she is upset and can't understand why we aren't satisfied.

The fact is, of she had already gotten the ingredients and was working on the cake she wouldn't have just abandoned the project at the last minute and offered a refund. As her own mother said on Facebook, basically you forgot and had no money to pay her back.

I don't know of she really forgot, because she had spoken to me the day before but she clearly either couldn't or didn't want to make that cake today. She feels since she gave me a gift card for the value of the cake that the issue is resolved and we shouldn't be upset. We feel she handled the situation badly and deserved the bad review on her page.. Are we wring or should we take down or reviews?

Edit: UPDATE! The gift card she gave me was empty. I contacted her and she initially blocked my. I then posted to her company page which prompted her to messge me saying she gave the wrong gift card and to come get the right one. I told her to sell it and give me my money.

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The said 'I'll send you $90and that's it because you're family caused me too much trouble.' And told me to leave her alone after that. My son just got turned away at rhe cash because out card declined and we had to use our credit card. She insisting I take the gift card or $90 cash. I'm looking in to small claims court now.

A canceled order on the day of a major event is a customer service nightmare. Sarah’s frustration with the baker’s last-minute cancellation and inadequate refund—a possibly regifted, empty Sobeys gift card—is understandable. Business expert Barbara Corcoran notes, “Trust is the currency of small businesses; one misstep can tank your reputation” (Shark Tank Insights). The baker’s failure to deliver, coupled with poor communication and a non-negotiable “refund,” breached that trust.

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This situation highlights a broader issue: the fragility of small business credibility. A 2023 Yelp study found 60% of consumers avoid businesses with multiple negative reviews about reliability (Yelp). Sarah’s review was honest, reflecting a real grievance, which is the purpose of review platforms. The baker’s claim that a gift card resolved the issue ignores Sarah’s inconvenience and loss.

Sarah’s decision to sell the gift card and buy a replacement cake was practical, but pursuing small claims court, as mentioned, could escalate tensions. Instead, she might update her review with the empty gift card detail, keeping it factual.

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These are the responses from Reddit users:

Reddit’s got takes as rich as chocolate frosting—here’s what they said about Sarah’s cake catastrophe:

ghostcraft33 - NTA - Was prepared to call you TA since we are in the middle of a pandemic but telling you she can't do it THE MORNING OF THE DATE?? Are you serious?? You're lucky you were able to get a replacement in time!

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Edit: Just to be more clear- she would be an a**hole if she was hosting a huge party during the pandemic. I know that doesn't apply to the actual problem here (the cake situation) so I understand all the confusion. I'm sorry I didn't make that more clear!. Edit 2: Yes. I'm an a**hole for assuming the worst. I got it.

acceberbex - NTA - reviews are there to help inform others of the service they can expect. A 1 off bad review is unlikely to hurt a business. You can be fully reimbursed, acknowledge that in your review but still leave a low rating because overall you were unsatisfied, or in your case, you can acknowledge some form of 'refund' but still say how you disatisifed you were with overall service. Edit - clearing up confusion as my comment made it sound like OP was reimbursed

TotalMizNomer - NTA. A gift card of the seller's choice isn't a proper refund. If you paid cash, you should get a cash refund. Would she accept payment for a cake in random gift cards? You did everything correctly, she stuffed up, and she palmed off a gift card onto you. That's not good customer service.

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Madame_Maniac - NTA Reviews are not just for praise. They are a way of letting other people know about your experience with the company/service and will help them make a decision on whether they want to buy from them or not. If you left an honest review and didn't leave out any crucial details, she has nothing to complain about.

If she feels she is misrepresented, she can always publicly respond to it and let people know her side of the story. As for your particular situation I don't think leaving a negative review is very surprising. She told you very last minute she can't finish your order and wasn't responding when you were understanding and nice enough to try and find a solution that wouldn't loose her the work she already put into the cake.

If you still feel bad and haven't done so: make sure to highlight the gift card you got as a refund in your review. That way other potential customers can decide for themselves if they would be happy with it.

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Gas_monkey - NTA. Firstly: A gift card is not a refund. It is money that has been rendered significantly less useful by tying it to a single retailer (who you may not even want to shop with) Secondly: Even if she did refund you, failing to deliver on a commitment (especially the day of!)

is worthy of a fair review warning that she has been unreliable. All that said: I hope your mother's birthday is a small affair with your bubble of contacts. This pandemic is not over; in fact it is now worse than it is has ever been.

[Reddit User] - NTA. You paid for a product that you didn’t receive, and a gift card to a store not of your choosing is not an acceptable refund. She notified you the day of the event that your cake would not be ready,

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and for something that should have been within her control (as the decorator, it’s her job to make sure she has all the needed items to complete the order on time). So long as you were as factual and honest you can be in the review, you’re well within your rights to let others know about your experience

[Reddit User] - NTA This is exactly why reviews exist.

Jujulabee - NTA As a prospective buyer I would want to know that it was likely that my order would be cancelled at the last minute and she wouldn’t refund.. What the hell did she expect if she operates her business in this manner. I like to support small local businesses when I can so I rely in honest reviews on sites like Yelp.

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I am able to read through negative reviews and decide whether the facts merit it or the person is being unreasonable. So she merits an honest statement of what to expect based on her flakiness plus not refunding money. This would be especially important since special cakes are generally time sensitive since they are meant to be served on specific days.

starienite - She didn't refund you. Your ordered a custom cake and she failed to deliver. You are owed being made a whole. A grocery store gift card is not being made whole. Even if that was ok in any universe she confirmed the cake the night before and bailed the day of. That in it's self deserves a negative review. NTA.

knitmama77 - Home baker here. The night before an order is due I would have cakes baked, cooled, and probably crumb coated. For her to confirm the night before, then cancel day of is sooo unprofessional. I always have a backup plan for fancy cakes too, just in case.

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(Like if my planned topper isn’t available!!) If someone is paying me to make a cake, I give them a cake. If I’m not happy with how it turned out for whatever reason, then I knock some money off the cost for them. In cash. Not a grocery store gift card.. So, yeah. NTA.

From slamming the baker’s unprofessionalism to cheering Sarah’s review, Reddit’s opinions are piping hot. But do they serve up justice, or just whip up more drama?

Sarah’s bad review was a stand for accountability, but the baker’s pushback shows not everyone takes criticism well. Was she right to call out the flop publicly, or should she have let it slide? Have you ever dealt with a last-minute service letdown? Share your stories—what would you do when a business leaves you high and dry on a special day?

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