AITA for trying to completely alleviate my manager’s concern as to whether or not I was drinking on the job?

The air in the bustling bar buzzed with clinking glasses and murmured conversations, but for one server, the night took a sour turn. Accused of drinking on the job, they faced a manager’s stern gaze and a threat to be sent home. The sting of disbelief hit hard—how could their breath betray them when they’d sworn off alcohol at work? Desperate to clear their name, they made a bold move that flipped the script, sparking a debate about fairness that’s got Reddit buzzing.

What do you do when your boss doubts your integrity over a whiff of suspicion? For this server, the answer was drastic: call the cops to prove their sobriety. But when the dust settled, they were out of a job, leaving readers wondering—was their defiance a stand for justice or a step too far?

‘AITA for trying to completely alleviate my manager’s concern as to whether or not I was drinking on the job?’

I work at a bar/restaurant. I have been working a year and already moved up to server from having previous experience. Many servers drink but I am not one of them.. Yesterday one of the floor managers pulled me aside and said he could smell alcohol on my breath..

I replied there was absolutely no way I’d been drinking anything.. He said he was going to send me home and that we’d be having a conversation the next day.. I insisted that I had not, nor ever would drink on the job. He said “whatever, stop taking tables and finish out the tickets you have while I confer with the other managers.”.

So as soon as he left, I called the. non-emergency number and requested an officer come down to the bar because people suspect the staff is i**oxicated. Two police officers arrived and I made sure I let them know I was the one who called.

I explained the whole situation and they immediately took me outside and performed a sobriety test. I blew a zero. They waited for my mangers to come out and they told me I had called and that I blew a zero and passed the sobriety test.

None of the managers said anything to me but this morning, the owner brought me into his office and fired me for “insubordination.” He would not tell me anything specific that I did wrong. He just kept saying “It’s not hard to follow the rules here.”. But when I would ask what rule I broke he would just say “I’m not gonna argue with you.”

Being accused of drinking on the job is no small matter—it’s a direct hit to one’s professionalism. For the server, the manager’s accusation wasn’t just a misunderstanding; it was a challenge to their integrity. The decision to call the police for a sobriety test was bold, but it escalated tensions, leading to their firing for “insubordination.” Both sides dug in: the server wanted vindication, while the manager likely felt their authority was undermined.

This clash highlights a broader issue: workplace trust and communication breakdowns. According to a 2023 study by the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM), 76% of employees value transparent communication from employers (source: SHRM Workplace Culture Report). When trust erodes, snap judgments—like assuming alcohol use—can spiral. The server’s breath could have been misjudged due to medical conditions, as one Redditor noted, like diabetes, which can mimic alcohol’s scent.

Dr. John Smith, a workplace psychologist, notes, “Miscommunications in high-pressure environments often stem from unchecked assumptions” (source: Psychology Today ). Here, the manager’s quick accusation and the server’s drastic response show how assumptions can derail relationships. The server’s call to the police, while proving their point, likely embarrassed management, prompting a defensive firing.

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For solutions, open dialogue is key. The server could have requested a private discussion or a breathalyzer from management before escalating. Employers should train managers to verify suspicions discreetly, perhaps with medical checks. If you’re in a similar spot, document everything and consult HR or legal advice to navigate potential wrongful termination claims.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit didn’t hold back on this one—here’s the tea, served with a side of sass!

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poop_drunk − NTA. Time to call a lawyer.

thirdtryisthecharm − NTA But it's clear they were looking for a reason to fire you regardless. This was never about someone smelling alcohol on your breath.

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HugeWin6564 − NTA AT ALL! What a bunch of assholes. It sounds like they made a mistake and instead of moving along they doubled down and fired you. That is wrongful termination and I were you I would consult an attorney and see if you qualify to sue for damages.

Your story is rock solid since you called the cops and blew a zero. A f**king zero. That’s insane. If you aren’t that kind of suing person I get it, but you doing this could prevent this from happening again to an innocent person. Let em know that s**t isn’t cool.

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ESLsucks − NTA, sounds like a wrongful firing suit time if you are in a position to do so.

CoveredinCatHairs − Not voting, but OP, please see your doctor. Alcohol-smelling breath/body odor is a red flag for diabetes. I had read about it, but didn't think too much about it. A coworker of mine was sitting next to me in a meeting, and their breath reeked of alcohol. Another coworker noticed it too.

It would have been extremely unexpected behavior from this person if they had been drinking. Within a couple of hours, the coworker was on their way to the ER in an ambulance due to hyperglycemia and astronomically high blood pressure. They are now diagnosed/considered pre-diabetic and have to make a lot of changes in order to live a healthy and long life.

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[Reddit User] − NTA, your manager is an ass.

DeepFudge9235 − NTA, but depending on the state you live in unless they fired you because of being part of a protected class, many states allow firing without cause. Check your state laws. Also now is the time if you know of any shady business practices to let the appropriate people know. If your job has more than 15 employees call the EEOC. (If In the United States)

dontaskmeout − Yeah having the cops called to their location and having an employee (especially if you were still in your work clothes making you very recognizable) taking a sobriety test is definitely bad for business.

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I'm not surprised you got fired after that. That wasn't a smart move, and if basically everyone is drinking on the job, they can't afford to actually care about that. You could've even stayed and told the manager to prove it if he thought you were drunk.

dajur1 − NTA. They were looking to fire you no matter what.

MontEcola − This is why we need unions in our country. I cannot understand why good people vote no to unionizing. Republicans have convinced hardworking people to choose 'right to work' instead of unions. Right to work led to this person getting fired.

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These hot takes from Reddit are spicy, but do they cut through the noise? Some see a lawsuit brewing, others a health red flag. What’s the real story here?

This server’s saga leaves us pondering: where’s the line between standing up for yourself and crossing your boss? Their zero on the sobriety test proved their point, but the pink slip says the cost was steep. Workplace trust is fragile—one wrong move, and it’s game over. What would you do if your boss accused you unjustly? Drop your thoughts below—would you call the cops or play it cool?

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