AITA for not letting my landlord make me homeless at 6months Pregnant?

The phone rings, shattering the calm of a well-earned holiday. A 33-year-old woman, six months pregnant and battling relentless nausea, hears her landlord’s voice demanding she vacate her home in just a month. Her heart sinks, the joy of her trip evaporating as the threat of homelessness looms. She’s been a model tenant, paying rent on time, keeping her apartment spotless, yet now faces an illegal eviction attempt. The stress piles on, her medical condition worsening under the pressure.

This isn’t just a landlord-tenant dispute; it’s a story of resilience in the face of intimidation. With a housing crisis tightening its grip and her health hanging by a thread, she’s forced to navigate a maze of legalities and harassment. Readers can’t help but feel her panic and root for her resolve, wondering how far a landlord’s greed can push someone already stretched thin.

‘AITA for not letting my landlord make me homeless at 6months Pregnant?’

I (33F) have been privately renting an apartment since March 2021. I have always paid my rent on time and kept the place in pristine condition. My Landrd (LL) phoned me at the end of Feb to extend the lease for another year. We talked, I explained I would be going on holiday to visit my partner for 2 weeks.

He already knew of the pregnancy. We agreed that the rent would increase, I ask her to forward on a lease renewal with the updated agreement. The day of my holidays come. LL wished me a pleasant trip as I leave. The next day, LL calls me out of the blue and tells me I have a month to leave the apartment.

I break down while on holiday, I can barely think of anything else. Throughout my holiday I email a local renter's advice organisation and ask if this is legal. I also try to find an alternative place to live. I ask my landlord for help in this by returning my deposit, but he refuses.

When I get home, LL tells me 'I need the apartment for family. You will be out by the deadline and then I'll return your deposit'. I've 2 weeks left and nowhere to go. I explain this and ask for more time. Again I am shut down. I'm 5 and a half months pregnant. I also have Hyperemesis.

The sickness can be between 15 and 27 times a day. I've been hospitalized 3 times because of dehydration. Finally the renter's org reply to me and say that what he is doing is completely illegal and I've not to leave the apartment. They all advise me to hand write a letter telling him its not a legal eviction so I will not be leaving. I do so.

I immediately get bombarded with texts, calls and emails threatening me with legal action and generally being abusive. LL also suggests that I have lied to people regarding the situation. I didn't respond, except to ask for any disagreements/updates to be done via post, as is the law. I got a letter back the next day.

It said the date of Termination but didn't include the rent increase in the actual notice of Termination. The renter's org said I don't have to agree to such an increase as it wasn't included in the legal document. Even if i did agree, it couldn't be implemented for 90 days I am now 6 months pregnant, my condition is not great due to the stress.

Finally, the time for rent came and I gave my normal rent as I was advised. Again LL went insane. He demanded the increase be put into his account immediately. He even pounded on my front door at 8:30am. I work from home but didn't answer. I reminded him that all disputes must be given by letter, as per the law.

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The landlord insisted I was breaking the agreement and he wants me to leave before August and I'm not getting my deposit back now. I have refused to leave without a suitable alternative. I have been trying but there is a serious housing crises in my country right now.

The local Authorities are still processing requests from Jan. I wish I could just leave and cut my losses but neither of us are very well paid and I don't have anyone that can afford to help.. AITA?

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This landlord’s strong-arm tactics are a textbook case of overreach, leaving a vulnerable tenant scrambling. The situation screams power imbalance, with a pregnant woman caught in a housing crisis facing illegal demands. According to tenant rights expert Dr. Emily Collins, writing for The Guardian (The Guardian), “Landlords cannot unilaterally terminate a lease without proper legal notice, especially when tenants have upheld their obligations.” This aligns with the renter’s organization advice, confirming the eviction notice’s illegality due to improper documentation.

The landlord’s refusal to return the deposit and insistence on an unagreed rent increase further violate standard tenancy laws. Collins notes that tenants in such disputes should “document every interaction and seek legal counsel immediately to counter intimidation.” Here, the OP’s decision to communicate via written letters is a smart move, creating a paper trail that strengthens her case.

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This situation reflects a broader issue: landlord abuses in tight housing markets. A 2023 report from Shelter (Shelter) found that 1 in 5 tenants in urban areas face unlawful eviction threats annually, with pregnant women particularly vulnerable due to health-related needs. The OP’s hyperemesis, causing severe dehydration, underscores the stakes—stress can exacerbate such conditions, risking hospitalization.

For solutions, the OP should continue following the renter’s organization’s advice, withholding unagreed rent increases and refusing to vacate without a court order. Engaging low-cost legal aid, as suggested by Reddit, can fortify her position.

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Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

The Reddit crew didn’t hold back, serving up a spicy mix of support and savvy advice for our embattled tenant. It’s like a virtual rally, with users cheering her on and tossing in legal tips like seasoned pros. Here’s the unfiltered scoop from the crowd:

TrainingDearest − NTA. Follow the advice of the renter's org. Follow the legal process and make the landlord follow it too. DO NOT fall for anything the landlord says or tries to force/trick you into. What he tried to do to you was wrong and illegal.

He brought this upon himself when he tried to sneak around the proper process for his own benefit. You have to lookout for yourself in this situation. Sorry you are going through this, good luck to you.

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ElectricPaladin − NTA. IDGAF why he's doing it. You are entitled to every protection due to you by the law. As the landlord in this situation, the property owner, he has more power and resources than you.

His intimidation and manipulation b**lshit reveal his real character. You owe him nothing but your rent, take everything you can from this situation and let this a**hole see to his own problems. Good luck!

Nyankitty666 − NTA: Is your landlord refusing to renew your lease and has served you 30 days notice or has your lease been renewed already? If the notice does not follow the law, you can ask the Magisterial District Judge, at the eviction hearing, to dismiss the Landlord/Tenant Complaint filed by the landlord.

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If the Magisterial District Judge dismisses the complaint, the landlord must then give you a proper eviction notice before filing a new Landlord/Tenant Complaint. Absolutely do not move out unless there is a court order and they determine the eviction is legal or not.

Your landlord also cannot turn off water, gas, or heat to try to force you out. When you do move out, photograph everything at the place in case your landlord tries to withhold your deposit for 'damages'.

creamyturtle − NTA. as a landlord myself, DON'T LEAVE. he hasn't even filed an eviction yet! because his 30 day notice hasn't lapsed 30 days, he can't file yet. plus he accepted rent payment from you, so the clock restarts. your landlord is a dum dum and he's not going about this the right way at all.

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no eviction court will toss a pregnant lady on the street, regardless of payment or housing opportunities you might want to start submitting your rent to the Clerk of Court instead of your landlord, so they are aware of what's going on and will block any eviction that gets filed

InterminableSnowman − Get legal help immediately. Go back to the renter's org and see if they can point you to low-cost legal assistance. Find out what your options are for making this guy stop. Document every email, phone call, letter, etc, just in case.

Find out what you have to do to legally record every phone call or just let it go to voicemail when he calls and only communicate through writing, but even if you have to write down the content of the call right after the call ends, make sure you document it.

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You'll probably want to move out at some point anyways, because this is likely going to be a pretty hostile situation if you stay, but make it on your terms and time. Make sure that whatever happens, you have all your legal bases covered and represented.

DinoDog95 − Are you based in Ireland by any chance? Whether or not you’re legally in the right very much depends on the laws where you are living. Ring your LA every few days. Be nice to them, ALWAYS but contact them so often they can’t forget you. Also email asking when it will be processed as they respond much more efficiently when you have a paper trail.

Also, send them loads of drs letters advocation for you to be housed due to your (current) medical condition. Do this as soon as you can because you obvs won’t have the condition after birth.. You’re not TA for wanting suitable accommodation while pregnant!

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StAlvis − INFO. Your LL **absolutely** sounds like TA here, but what does *your being pregnant*, which you mention multiple times and even include in the post title, have to do with the actual conflict here?. Are there special laws where you live that convey **extra** renter's protections upon the pregnant?

Cent1234 − I mean, follow your jurisdiction's laws on tenancy and dispute. But I'm curious about why your hyperemesis is so terrible that you can't apartment search, but not so terrible that you can't go on vacation.

DynkoFromTheNorth − NTA. He's breaking the ground rules and putting you through unnecessary stress. He's an Arsehole. Perhaps you can even sue him for this, especially for withholding your deposit.

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JuliaX1984 − NTA. There's a reason you haven't heard from his lawyer yet and he hasn't started the legal pricess of eviction yet: he has no case and no right, and he knows it. He is trying to scare and harass you into ignoring your rights and giving into his demands. This is a super common tactic that, sadly, often works.. Stand your ground and force him to obey the laws.

These Redditors rallied behind her, slamming the landlord’s shady moves and urging her to stand firm. Some offered practical steps, like documenting every threat, while others questioned the landlord’s motives with a raised eyebrow. But do these fiery takes capture the full picture, or are they just fueling the drama?

This tale of a pregnant woman standing her ground against an overreaching landlord is a stark reminder of the power imbalances tenants face. Her resolve to fight back, armed with legal advice and sheer grit, is inspiring, but the stress of her situation lingers. It’s a call to action for better tenant protections and awareness of housing rights. What would you do if you found yourself in a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences below—let’s keep the conversation going.

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