AITA for full-on raging at my parents after they spent £1,300 of my money for my brother’s gaming PC set?

In a modest family home, where dreams of university were carefully saved in a teen’s bank account, a shocking discovery turned pride into fury. A 17-year-old, diligently saving for their future, found £1,300 of their hard-earned money spent by their parents on a gaming PC for their brother’s birthday—without a word of permission. This Reddit tale crackles with the sting of betrayal, laced with the raw emotion of a teen’s fight for fairness.

It’s not just about money it’s about trust, sacrifice, and the gut-punch of parents prioritizing one child’s wants over another’s goals. With heated words and a mother’s dismissive retort, this story pulls us into the heart of a family clash where hard work collides with entitlement. Let’s dive into this fiery saga with a nod to the teen’s hustle and a wince at the fallout.

‘AITA for full-on raging at my parents after they spent £1,300 of my money for my brother’s gaming PC set?’

For a bit of context, around a year and a half ago, when I was 15, I came up with a plan to pay for my own university fees once I finish school. It's a little expensive (between the 4 to 5 figure range and my family isn't the richest one so yh), so I wished to save my parents the trouble of paying and do everything myself.

I planned to save up enough money until I can invest in some cheap land back in my hometown and hopefully earn lots. I told my parents this and they seemed pretty OK (at least to me) with my plan. So I began working part-time and worked my socks off.

So in those 1 and a half years, I saved up around 30,000 lira (which is like £3000 - could have been a lot more but covid) without spending a single penny. Now here's where the problem began. My younger brother had his 13th birthday yesterday and he always wanted to have his own gaming PC set.

My parents always told him that they couldn't afford it, which makes him sad. One day, I forgot to bring my wallet with me when I was going to school, which has my bank card in it. When I came back, I saw a new gaming PC set right in the middle of the living room (half unboxed) and my brother crying and jumping around in e**tasy.

I was happy for him (since I thought they actually managed to buy it themselves) until I found out shortly after that almost half my saved up money was gone. (Yes, we all know each other's bank card passwords).

I was fuming and lost my s**t at my parents, demanding 'why the f**k did you spend the money I worked hard for?' My parents apologised, but noted that they just couldn't tell their son that they couldn't afford his dream set when there was money available.

I screamed at them and said that they've just stole £1400 right under my nose without even considering asking me and that they both owe me big time. My mum snapped back at me, saying that I'm still a child belonging to them and that money should be the last thing on my mind at the moment.

It was a back and forth argument and I admit, I used some colourful language there, before my mum went on a power-trip and yelled at me to remember who I'm talking back to. I just stomped off in anger.

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Some of you redditors may think that £1,300 isn't a lot in the real world, but I've worked so hard after school and even on weekends to get this much, and for it to be half-gone in an instant is a heartbreak for me. But...I think I regret some of the things I've said to them, especially when all they were trying to do was to make my brother happy.. AITA?

Saving for university at 17 is a testament to grit, but this teen’s discovery that their parents spent £1,300 of their savings feels like a theft of both money and trust. The parents’ decision to prioritize their younger son’s birthday wish over their older child’s future reflects a breach of boundaries, compounded by the mother’s dismissive claim that money shouldn’t matter to a “child.” The teen’s fiery outburst, while heated, was a natural response to betrayal.

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This scenario mirrors broader issues of financial autonomy in families. A 2022 study in the Journal of Family and Economic Issues found that parental misuse of children’s earnings can erode trust and independence. Dr. Brad Klontz, a financial psychologist, notes, “When parents use a child’s money without consent, it signals disrespect for their agency”. Here, the parents’ actions and refusal to fully acknowledge the harm deepen the wound.

Klontz’s insight suggests the teen needs to set firm boundaries, like securing their bank account with a new password, as they’ve started doing. The parents should be encouraged to repay the money, perhaps through a payment plan, to model accountability. A family meeting, possibly with a mediator, could help the parents understand the teen’s perspective and rebuild trust. The mother’s power-trip response indicates a need for her to reflect on her role in respecting her child’s efforts.

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Practical solutions include the teen opening a new account their parents can’t access and documenting the incident with the bank, as they’re pursuing. The parents could involve the younger brother in understanding the situation, perhaps by contributing to repayment through chores. This story reminds us that trust in families hinges on respecting individual efforts, especially when a teen’s dreams are at stake.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Reddit’s community roared in support of the teen, condemning the parents’ actions as outright theft and praising the poster for reporting it to the bank. Users slammed the mother’s dismissal of the teen’s hard work, urging them to secure their finances and hold their parents accountable, whether through repayment or returning the PC.

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The consensus highlighted the parents’ betrayal, with many sharing tips like changing bank passwords and pursuing legal recourse. The outpouring of empathy for the teen’s loss, paired with indignation at the parents’ entitlement, added a fiery edge to the debate, affirming the teen’s right to their savings.

thescarfnerd − NTA call your bank and report the money as stolen

bonniebluest − NTA. Your parents committed a crime. You should tell them either return it or they're going to get charged with a crime. That's such b**lshit. I'm fuming just reading this! Change your bank card too. If they were willing to do this it wouldn't surprise me if they wrote down that information.

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[Reddit User] − NTA - its paid on your card, so if I were you I'd just return it when they're all out. Also change your password. If they get angry at you, just say 'I couldn't bear to see my college fund depleted when there is a gaming computer to return right there' Think how many hours you worked for that, it's worth some hardship to get back. Plus you'll be leaving soon as well, so the fallout is only temporary.

iluvcats17 − NTA I would give them a choice of paying you back within 48 hours, returning the gaming system, or that you will inform the police. Then file a police report. The police will be able to get the footage of them taking out your money and if you tell them that it was not authorized, they will be in a lot of trouble. I would also change your pin.

MsSonderbar − Nta time to call your bank and say your card was stolen and ask for a charge back and new bank card. Then don't be dumb and tell them the number again.

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mediastoosocial − NTA!! *when there was money available* NOOO there was not money available, that’s theft. I’m so sorry they did that to you, did you speak to your brother about it?

[Reddit User] − NTA. They stole from you. They sound absolutely toxic.

MightyHydrar − NTA.. Your parents are disgusting thieves. Do not stop reminding them that they are garbage people. Change your bank password, or open up a new account entirely. Or is there a friend or relative you could trust to keep your money safe, since your s**tty parents could just decide to steal the rest of it as well.

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Dookwithanegg − NTA You are the victim of fraud. If they aren't willing or able to pay you back in a time frame that you are happy with you could bring legal action against them. Whether that's a good idea to go that route with your parents really hinges on whether you'll ever want to interact with them after this.

DaniCapsFan − You worked hard to earn money for your college tuition. Your parents should be proud of you. Instead they stole from you to give your brother a gaming system. I'd be angry too. You may be a minor, but this whole 'belonging' thing sounds messed up. Why didn't they save up to try to buy your brother the gaming system he wanted?

Or tell him that they just couldn't afford it, and life is full of disappointment. BTW, change your password so they can't access your account. It's clear you can't trust them. And when you leave home, take the gaming system. It's your money, so it belongs to you.. NTA.

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This savings saga burns with the pain of a teen’s trust shattered by their parents’ reckless choice. The £1,300 spent on a gaming PC wasn’t just money—it was the teen’s sweat and dreams for university. Their rage, though fiery, was a stand for justice. Have you faced family betrayals over money or fought to protect your hard work? Share your stories below let’s talk about how we guard our dreams and rebuild trust!

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